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31 responses to “Vibrators for Older Women: How to Buy the Right One”

1. ok,it s good diea, it can help me

   Reply to lanavape

2. Amazing Post.. Thank you for Sharing Content

   Reply to Kaamastra

3. I’m 55 and have almost never used sex toys. I’m quite healthy but it’s not easy for me to Orgasm. I want to get my vagina healthier for better vaginal Orgasms. I want to try something like a vibrating, heating dildo to bring more blood flow in there. Please reccomend something. I want good quality.

   Reply to Melody

4. I am a diabetic for many years. For the last 5 to 6 years,I have not had an erection but I can still climax after masterbating a soft one for a long time, over an hour.
   I have seen some adverts that explain that sound shocks could work to enable me to get hard. Is this true or just more B.S.

   Reply to Wayne Lora

5. Thanks, for the tip of choosing sex toys with silicon material for older women. I am choosing something for my mother’s second wedding and I want her to know that I support her. I hope she’ll like what I picked out for her.

   Reply to Claire Masters

6. It helped when you mentioned that it is important that the product is safe. My wife mentioned to me last night that she is hoping to find adult toys shop for her friend and asked if I have any idea what is the best option to do. Thanks to this informative article and I’ll be sure to tell her that it will be much better if she consults a trusted adult toys shop.

   Reply to John Carston

7. My wife age 38 is fully disabled from spinal fusion and needs a vibrator that wont be harsh on her back what are your recommandations?

   Reply to Brian

8. Where can I get a powerful quiet vibrator for someone arthritis

   Reply to Nor

9. I just stumbled across your column, as I sit here in the middle of quarantine. I am fighting depression, even as I am working on a PhD, while realizing that I will not see my family at all during the holiday. My last relationship was nearly 10 years ago, and I am so lonely. I am thinking that I should do something for myself for the holidays. Would a toy help me? Which one? I don’t have anybody else to ask, and like I said, it has been so long since I had sex, so I don’t know what I want anymore. I used to like vaginal penetration, and I think I might even be dreaming about it from time to time. Can you help me find a direction?

   Reply to GailAnn

   1. try vella, it works wonders for women who have not been satisfied for a while, great for self pleasure too. Happy exploring : )

      Reply to Niecey

10. I’m happy to tell you that Our Seniors’ Guide to Vibrators, originally published in 2015, has been completely updated 8/2020: https://seniorplanet.org/ask-joan-seniors-vibrators/. Lots of new recommendations with links to my full reviews. I hope you find what you seek!

    Reply to Joan Price

    1. Age 62 widow Thin tall Need orgasm to relax
       Live in. Cairns qld. Australia
       What do you suggest.
       Want safe effective
       Not cheap nasty
       Would be. Frightened by toxic chemicals
       Many thanks
       Ann

       Reply to Ann

       1. I have found it remarkably easy to get picked up by inexperienced 18 to 25yo men that want ‘bed time’. None are around more than a few visit but I enjoy it so much. I am 64! Other than the real thing I would recommend any of the following for immensely satisfying masturbation: Eroscillator, Satisfyer Pro2, Wahl 2 speed body massager, Lelo Smart Wand. These have proven themselves to me time and again while so many other toys have failed and been binned.

11. wow, its amazing content, really informative and interesting.

    Reply to Adultscare

12. I was told by my lady Gyn that women should have regular sex at least a couple times a week or use a vibrator . This keeps us healthy in many ways ! When women stop sex things start to change, and not for the better !! Do not be embarrassed about using a vib !! It will do wonders at keeping your body and attitude healthy !!! Still use mine faithfully at 76 years old !!

    Reply to Carmen

    1. I wish my wife had that attitude at 50s.
       She has lupus and arthritic like hands.
       Hands free or easy to handle would be best.
       Best thing in the world for me is seeing my wife orgasm. She is beautiful and I tell her that. Unfortunately sexual intercourse intimacy is 3 years+ past…

       Reply to Bill H

13. What are some great toys to use for older women? My fiance is much older than me and she is always really dry! I could use the advice.

    Reply to Boone Mc

14. My mother in law lost her husband eight years ago and I can see see is depressed and frustrated for her age she is very vibrant more so than my wife she never smiles and I know this is the problem . I was thinking of getting her a toy and just leaving it lying around in her house but I feel funny and out of place doing so especially handing it to her.. I always make her laugh when I’m there and I do kind of have a thing for her . I know this would be cheating and embarrassing if she denied my offer , it’s hard to see her so down when I would discreetly and gladly help . am I just to ease to please her? I don’t know what to do ?

    Reply to Frank

    1. She is your mil u cant have an affair w her. If u insist on getting her a toy u can mail it to her anonymously

       Reply to MS Mom

15. I have used a vibrating toothbrush with success, by using the smooth side opposite the bristles.

    Reply to Marlene Bragelman

    1. You can buy rabbit vibrators for better pleasure instead of toothbrushes.

       Reply to zahana

       1. Keep in mind that some vaginas as very small, especially if you have had a pelvic reconstruction. Finding a vibrator that can be introduced in a small vagina can be quite the challenge, if not impossible. I would think that a tooth brush would be second best. I’m not speaking from experience as I never tried

16. how exactly does this site work. ive been able 2 navigate once in a while but its hit/miss. frustrating/time consuming! i cant access a msg. that the site told me i had on here. i dont want people 2 think im ignoring them. thnx

    Reply to kalyna

    1. Hi Kayla, the comment notifications system on the site IS frustrating and we apologize. We’re currently working on an upgrade that we hope will be ready later this summer. Till then, you should be able to scan comments in chronological order – right now, notifications are not for replies to your comments, but for all new comments under the article.

       Reply to Barbara, Senior Planet editor

17. i ADORE my Minna Limon rechargabble vibe! Joan is right on the money with this one! xo Rita (age 42, ,8 years post complete hysterectomy

    Reply to Madame Amrita

18. Still not sure which is the best vibrator to use. After undergoing a mastectomy at age 47, I have had no sex drive, and even if I do occasionally have one, I can’t bring myself to orgasm, even with a good vibrator. These are ones that I used before with no problem. I don’t know what the problem is. Help!

    Reply to Shellie

    1. Hi Shellie, we’ll be publishing a seniors’ guide to vibrator this month – stay tuned.

       Reply to Barbara, Senior Planet editor

    2. Vivelle Dot hormone patch is my libido saver!

       Reply to Madame Amrita

19. Thank you for the answer you have provided. I have found it both insightful and helpful and well kinda fun. Until I had came across one of your columns that I had even considered toys for aging. And of course when mom hinted her frustration it seems you were the only person to ask. I discussed your answer in depth with my husband and now I can talk to mom in a more informed way and if nothing else I can gift her a toy that should help her out a bit. I am so very glad I could finally get an answer. ;)

    Reply to Vibrator-Curious

    1. Vibrator-Curious, I’m so happy that you found this useful and that your mom will benefit. I hope you’ll share Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex with her, too. There are chapters on sex toys, self-pleasuring, and grief. I think they’d be very helpful to your mom, especially with what she’s going through now. My best to her — and to you!

       — Joan

       Reply to Joan Price

    2. Exactly which vibrator did you get?

       Reply to Shellie