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Senior Sex: 5 Health Reasons to Keep Having It

After a certain age we’re not supposed to enjoy sex. We don’t see much about “senior” sex in magazines or movies; we’re sedate, we’re grannies, we move slowly – sex isn’t made for us. Or so it seems.

Many of us are having sex. A 2011 study of 27,000 women found that 45 percent in their 60s and 28 percent in their 70s were sexually active. But that leaves 55 percent of of 60-something year-olds and a whopping 72 percent of 70-something year-olds who are celibate, whether we want to be or not. And that’s not healthy.

Here are five important reasons for women—and men, too—to remain sexually active. That might seem challenging if you’re not in a relationship, but it’s still important that you find a way to reintroduce sex into your life, even if that means going it alone.

  1. Vaginal health depends on sexual activity. The vagina changes after menopause, the loss of estrogen causes us to dry up, leading to vaginal atrophy and painful sex. Sexual activity helps keep delicate tissues moist and supple,  helping the body to create more lubrication, which can reduce the risks of pain and tearing.
  2. Emotional connection thrives on sexual intimacy. The idea of coming together to give one another joy through touch and play gives us that sense of emotional well-being we need as humans. People with strong social interactions and emotional connections live longer lives.
  3. Cardiovascular fitness, strength and flexibility improve through the act of lovemaking. As with any exercise, getting the blood flowing and the heart pumping is good for circulation.
  4. Pain relief can be a side effect of sexual activity. That’s because having sex produces the hormone oxytocin, leading to an increase in endorphins. The flow of endorphins through our systems makes us feel better, emotionally and physically. People report a decrease in headaches and arthritis pain when their oxytocin levels are high.
  5. Humans are sexual beings. We have desires and needs that are fulfilled in many ways – one of them being through sexual expression. This may take different forms as we age, but our sexuality remains with us. Healthy, safe sex is an appropriate and vital part of our lives.

At 60, 70, even 85 years of age, seniors can enjoy an active sex life. The benefits far outweigh any possible negative effects. As long as you’re using protection, you can safely engage in sexual activity. With a partner or self-pleasuring, having sex can improve the quality of your life.

So, what’s stopping you? 

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17 comments
  • fred
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    Ok will try again. I practice the Philosophy of Cultivating Pleasure been writing for awhile I have interviewed many people. Think on this pain happens emotional physical mostly pain is outside our control. Now pleasure we create on many levels but we were never taught the benefits of pleasure only of pain you know, It makes you stronger no pain no gain! Get the idea. Now self pleasure is bad how so? But we are never taught what good pleasure is !!! Are we programed to deny pleasure from birth? Why is guilt and shame self imposed does this cause stress. So what can make us happier healthier . There is a time and place for pleasure naked is a fun time the body enjoys being naked to feel free ,chemicals are being made to make you feel good how is this bad. Enjoy the philosophy of CULTIVATING pleasure. until next time Buddhist Nudist out.

  • fred
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    Hello fellow pleasure seekers. well I have been writing about pleasure for years and been for many years practicing the philosophy of cultivating pleasure. unlike pain that happens. pleasure is created by us yes pleasure is a self create experience. playing naked is fun. yoga naked is fun. just about any thing is fun exciting naked. what I found is people deny pleasure because that what was taught to the point for some denial is a feel good. more later breakfast now.

    • Walker Thornton
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      kprien,
      I don’t know that I’d advocate sex if you’re not in the mood–but yes, there are good reasons for older women to stay active sexually.
      Thanks for commenting.

  • Cathy
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    I love this article by Walker and welcome the information she writes about. Always honest, always informative. Thanks again, Walker.

  • Carol Moore
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    I’m all for it! Though a little dismayed that there are prevailing attitudes that think seniors shouldn’t be enjoying or can’t because they’re, IDK, old and shriveled, and maybe it’s not as pretty anymore? I’m guessing here from people’s facial expressions what they are really thinking cuz they won’t talk. One young 74 yo who runs marathons alluded to the fact that it was all over after 70. Yikes! I hope not! Thanks for putting it out there, Walker.

    • Walker Thornton
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      Carol,
      I had a similar experience, except the woman was a little over 60. She told me that when I hit 60 I wouldn’t want sex any more!!!
      So worry. And, so sad that people are willing to cut that that important piece of pleasure from their lives.

      • Rick
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        My wife is 63 and I am 61. We’ve been married 6 years and we have committed to sex every morning unless one of us is ill. A wonderful way to start the day.

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