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  • Pat Ryback
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    Interesting to read first time.

    I am a 93 year old woman who enjoys social activities. I no longer live in my home, but in a retirement community. When I did live in my home, I volunteered for our local library – it was interesting and I met new people.

    My children worried about me living alone without family near. I moved near one of my sons in another State. I miss what was but also want the best for them – I read quite a bit and when there are people around, I visit.

    No, it will never be the same but life is change and we want the best for our children. Find the best in your life and look for ways to make your life happier. Perhaps join a church.

  • Deborah Stein
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    I live in Philadelphia Center City sndxwent to join OLLI
    But they can’t guarantee me any of the three classes I wanted ! They put my name in a pool with many others.
    I don’t want to pay to join something I can’t get !!!
    Debbie

  • Charles Robbins
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    I’m a 74 man looking to met a nice Lady meet to do things with and just have some fun with.
    You must also like my CAT She is a little Bobtail kitten named Grace. She is a wonderful little
    kitty shy butt & Loving. If you don’t like my little kittens I Won’t like you. I’m sorry if this sounds
    harsh but I’ve had her a for a long time now and won’t let anything come between us or anyone
    that I’m a friend of and that includes you to. I’m old time and can’t do anything about it!!

    • Sue Paulsen
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      I hope you found a l ady whop likes cats. I am at Oaks at Braselton. I wonder where you are. I have a beautiful cat that sleeps with me. I am 93, too old! good luck!

    • Karen
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      I’m 54 years old and have never been married,never had any children.My mom,dad and only sibling,my sister,all passed away.I’m the only one left of my immediate family.There is extended family on my dad’s side,but they were never close to us,and they don’t care about me,so it’s like they’re almost strangers.A good friend and her husband,not much older than me,took me and my cat in as family.I live half an hour away from them now.I go to church and made some good friends there also I still feel lonely living alone and spend too much time by myself.I don’t drive due to being legally blind in one eye I really don’t want to be alone the rest of my life and would like to be more involved with other people.Everyone has their own families or are married and I don’t want to intrude.How do I let people know I want to spend more time with them without seeming lonely or desperate?
      I am open to new friends even though I already have some good ones.

  • kara
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    im 45 but have a lot of health issues and vision impairment so that getting around is very hard. i dont feel like its safe for me to drive. my kids are teens that although 2 still live with me are busy with school, jobs, and friends and im alone most of the time with no way to get out and dont have any friends because of some unusual circumstances involving religion that im no longer a member of. and a divorce almost a year ago and have had depression for most of my life. and i live in a rural area with no public transportation. i want friends and iget along with people but without mobility i cant connect with others and im desperate for help. im so unhappy right now and i dont know what to do.

    • Joe
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      Kara,

      I’m sorry to hear about your situation.

      Perhaps, an online forum will be helpful to you in that you may be able to talk with others there or find out about other online places, since it seems difficult for you to travel now. I don’t know if Facebook has such groups or not Maybe a chat forum – I don’t know that much about social media offerings, but I would recommend do some research using search engines. Also, maybe talking with a librarian – research librarians are at some libraries, I think – could be helpful along these lines.

      I hope this is helpful.

    • Donna
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      Hi Kara
      I’m quite a bit older than you, retired, have a mobility impairment so i don”t get to go out much without help. I still drive but don’t have enough strength to lift my wheelchair in/out of the trunk by myself and a walker is only good for short distances. Although I live with family I’m still lonely and get depressed a lot. I moved to a rural area many years ago and most of my friends still live in NYC. It’s almost impossible to make new friends when you’re confined to your home in the country. Regardless of what you read on line, finding friends on line is not easy. And, chatting with people on the internet isn’t the answer either. What’s needed are community club houses where people of all ages are welcomed to attend for socialization, coffee, games, luncheons, etc. Must towns have senior citizen centers that are opened a few hours a day but not everyone seeking friends are seniors. I wish you well.

  • Carolyn Williams
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    My first seven years of retirement was devoted to volunteering and helping those less fortunate than myself. When I relocated to Virginia, I promised myself that I would join a Pilates class and learn to line dance. Both are great for the mind, body and soul. And I have made lots of new friends.

  • Pauline
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    If you’re lucky enough to live in a community that has an Osher Lifelong Learning Institute (OLLI) or other lifelong learning organization nearby, you’ll find opportunities for the first four on this list there. And all are great ways to make new friendships.

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