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Aging Alone Doesn’t Have to Mean Lonely


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People confuse the word “alone” with lonely.

In a society where marriage has been held up as the ideal, they misunderstand how those who’ve never married, or who are widowed or divorced, experience living alone.

Will you still need me when I’m 84?

Loneliness is not tied to relationship status, and it’s a fallacy to assume that marriage or cohabitation is the solution. Ask anyone who’s been in an unhappy, non-communicative marriage. Eric Klinenberg, the author of “Going Solo,” a book about living alone, looks at the emergence of the one-person household as an increasingly preferred living choice.  “People who live alone do get lonely,” Klinenberg says, “but so do people in marriages.”

Younger people have made living alone a choice; in the under-65 demographic, 15 million live alone and many are actively choosing single lives, at the same time proving that the old equation between living alone and being unhappy no longer holds true. Younger singles are just as happy and healthy as younger people in committed relationships. But what about the 11 million seniors who are leading single lives? According to researchers, many older singles are not doing so well.

As we age, many of us start worrying what living alone will be like.  Who’ll help if I become ill? What if I feel lonely and isolated? We worry about maintaining social connections if we lose mobility. Those of us who sought a single life and chose not to remarry after a divorce or spouse’s death might find ourselves rethinking our priorities.

Should advancing age cause people like me who are single to rethink our status? Is it time to find a partner?

In an effort to quantify the feeling of loneliness – a sense of not having meaningful contact with others, accompanied by painful distress – geriatric specialists at the University of California, San Francisco, asked 1,604 adults age 60 and older how often they felt isolated or left out, or lacked companionship. Sixty-two percent of those who reported being lonely were married.  (Click here to read more about the study.)

Maybe what we need as we plan for old age is to expand our social connections and interactions – not look for a husband.

Words – and More – With Friends

We long for meaningful relationships and social connections. That may be why increasing numbers of older people are turning to online dating sites, which offer a way to connect with others and make new friends, even if they don’t deliver a life partner.

There are other ways to connect and grow our social circles, too. Facebook is a great place to chat, keep up with friends’ activities and even play games with them, like the popular game Word with Friends. Some websites offer forums and chat rooms that encourage users to interact with others. Online friendships can supplement real life relationships.

We need social interactions and people in our lives who care about us, but living alone doesn’t always lead to loneliness, just as living with others is no guarantee of happiness. We can maintain our independent lifestyles as we age and build strong social connections at the same time.

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1,242 responses to “Aging Alone Doesn’t Have to Mean Lonely

  1. Okay, it’s August, 2020 now and there is a “PANDEMIC”!!!!!………I can’t go out to volunteer!!! I live in NYC and try to meet an attractive older gentleman in this City is like looking for a “diamond in the rough”!!!!!………..I wish I didn’t live here even when I was younger because this is the WORST CITY to be older in and even when I was younger it was BAD!!!!…Now this City has completely fallen apart as this Mayor has pretty much destroyed it!!!!…………Due to the pandemic everything has disappeared and who knows what YEAR it will come back…It will NEVER be the same again!!!!….So where can someone who is older and very attractive meet a “gentleman” that is “normal” in this City or anywhere for that matter????…………………Would love to know if there is anyone out there in this USA looking for the same thing???……………….

    1. Hi, healthy but not wealthy single male 69 in Webster TX, 77598 Looking for a healthy, positive, civil woman, who enjoys the outdoors, good food, thoughtful conversation, dancing and yes intimacy, I am a loving romantic man, verbal and physical.

      1. Roberto,

        I hear you. I would love to meet you for conversation. You are at my age. but I live St. Louis, MO. and it is too far to make that happen.

        So, I just drop you a note to let you know that we are all connected each other whether we are totally alone or not.

        Eat good food and have a glass of wine with it. That is as good as…..

      2. Hello
        I’m Tammy from waxahachie Texas
        I’m looking for someone like you
        I’m 55 with a heart and soul of a 30 year old
        I’m a very real person who believes in treating everyone just as I want to be treated
        I enjoy the outdoors living life to the best of all I got
        If you are looking fir someone like I’m am that is respectful honest loyal and really believes in the golden rule of treat others as you want to be treated them I think we could get along great

      3. Hi, my name is Mariana,I’m a retired airline employee,single (widow) I’m into weight training and outdoor activities 71 yrs, do you have a picture of yourself

    2. Hi from Texas. Hang in there gayle we are all in the same boat. Soon we can go shopping and lunch or maybe a cruise. I went on a cruise to Alaska by myself last year. It was great. Good girlfriends are very good for the soul. Have a nice week and plan that next adventure soon!

      1. Hello Carlo
        I too am here in California born and raised. The fires, the pandemic all of it has my nervous system a wreck. I’m just so lonely and alone.
        I hope we can at least write each other. Have a wonderful evening.

    3. Gale, I too am a senior citizen living in an assisted living home. I do not need assisted living, as such, since I can take good care of myself. It is very lonely here in Salisbury N.C. but I can make it. I wish you were closer and after this Covi d-19 is over, we could visit one another. After this virus thing is over, I plan to rent an apartment and then I will be able to get out and meet other seniors. Gale, hang in there and I am sure that you will find that guy. New York is no place for you, it seems. Try some other place or come to North Carolina. We southerners know how to treat our beautiful women. Arnold

    4. I am a 57 year old female and I’ve been single for 16 years. I’ve dated here and there but it’s been difficult finding my forever love. I currently live in Arizona and I sometimes live in the Bay Area, and no matter where I live there seems to be a lack of decent mature men. Men my age want to date 30 year olds. I’m so over it. At this stage in my life it’s more important to establish meaningful relationships with people my age, even if it’s not sexual.

  2. I am turning 55 next month, I have been single (dated but not married for 26 years) My parents and sibling all passed by the time I was 21. I made my career my life. Now here I am. Alone. As an only child growing up I learned to enjoy being alone.I used to do everything alone with no issues but I’ve now realized choosing to do things alone when you have an option to do it with others is very different than where I am now, having no option but to do everything alone. I’ve worked from home the past 8+ years, moved to multiple states, and now here I am, alone. I feel so disconnected from the world.

    1. I get you I’m your age 55 and chose to live in the arctic as an adventure from the ages of 37 to 47..I came back a different person and 8 years later I’m single and have little hope of finding love and companionship..its very lonely. I am considered attractive apparently not I’m lesbian and dont really have a circle of lesbian friends it’s hard to acquire as you age. Also my priorities now are dealing with my ailing parents so my life is put on hold and I keep aging and getting lonely not fun

      1. I find myself alone at 62 from a divorce I was only married a year and a half I waited till I was sixty to get married and she turned around and and left me alone I feel like a piece of garbage

      2. Hi, healthy but not wealthy single male 69 in Webster TX, 77598 Looking for a healthy, positive, civil woman, who enjoys the outdoors, good food, thoughtful conversation, dancing and yes intimacy, I am a loving romantic man, verbal and physical.

    2. hold your spirit up Kim Kim,
      if you have sugar in the kitchen go in there and make you a Sugar Man, and you remember laughter is good for the soul.
      now get up and break a leg kid.
      Earth is a big planet and there are men all over the cookie jar ( Beijing baby).
      put your fingers Boogie Shoes on and start typing. from me to you a whopping slobbery kiss… Almeria. Texas

      1. Wish I could have your sense of humour. I am so alone, no one to talk to. My phone doesn’t ring. Before the virus I would hop on a train, just to get out, but now, with this virus….

    3. I’m a 71 year old vibrant and active female now divorced 6 years. I met a 57 year old man who has fallen in Love with me but is married. He’s a wonderful person but financially it’s going to be difficult for him to get a divorce. It’s bern 3 years and he JUST made an appointment for a FREE consultation with an attorney. He waffles. There is a 19 year old still at home by his current wife whom he claims he doesn’t sleep with. I believe him because she is diabetic, drinks and passes out every night and us 100 lbs. Overweight. However, she’s 46 and still manages to work as a nurse. He also is a very dependable worker in the independent living business. I’m tired if waiting…
      He adores me it’s quite obvious but I can’t afford to waste what years I have left….please advise. The chemistry between us is strong but that ‘Loving Feelings’ is being stretched. I don’t need him financially either.

      1. Hi Star,
        Sounds like he’s getting something from his continued union with his wife. If he truly loves you, wants a future with you, tell him it’s time to “*hit or get off the pot”. I’m 65, finally extracted myself from a long, lonely, controlling, marriage with a control freak. Also a compulsive liar, sex addict, who controlled me by withholding monies, making me go bankrupt early in the marriage after leaving my profession (his suggest) for the kids sake. Require refresher course to return and he refused the money. After years of saving, I gave him the same option I suggested to you. He refused counseling or help so he split, with a push and ultimatum!. We don’t have the time to waste anymore like we did when we were younger. As my first doctor told me after my first break up, ‘there are more lids to fit the pots than you know”. Lead with your smarts, not your heart. If he makes the move then wonderful, but divorce can take a long time especially with $$, property and if contested. You’re looking at 2 more years at least and that’s if it’s a fast, well handled divorce. If he just makes excuses, strings you along with the “soon” word, give him the boot. He’s had it too good with the both of you at your expense for too long. I have a girlfriend in a similar “holding pattern” situation. You’ll find someone new and he might be a better “lid for your pot”. Good luck and stay tough!

    4. I can’t believe people on here are still trying to find romance at 65 and over. Surely by then you have had enough of looking, trying, being let down etc. All you will be is someone’s carer. Who truly wants to be intimate with another person when your body or theirs are not what they once were. I have just broken up with my husband of 20 years, and as heartbreaking as it is, I couldn’t face the thought of starting all that getting to know you again. Who could be bothered. After building up a history with a partner to go through it all again. I’m an attractive 60 year old and although I get plenty of offers, I just could not hear the thought of having to kiss some old guy with a beer belly and bad habits. One was enough. Ladies. We do not need them. All men want in their later years are someone to cook and clean for them.

  3. This is an old thread, but I’m lonely even though I have friends, I’m single + now a widow with 4 years. Two teenagers living at home, I feel as though I have no one. I’m happy on my own but being lonely is hard. I don’t want to be bothering people with my problems.

    My mum died 6 years ago, my partner 4 years ago then I lost my job, diagnosed now with ptsd!
    It’s been a rough time, my son is 18 later this year he has special needs, he is visually impaired due to an inoperable optic nerve glioma. My daughter 15, they’re both my world. It would be nice just to meet someone who’s not just interested in sex!!

    1. Am a aged lady and lonely like you. Have a son 19yrs.i live alone in house for 15yrs and currently l losed my job due to Covid-19. Most of my time l spend in house.
      Am looking for someone to share life online. Am very much caring person who loves and trust honesty people.
      Welcome to my world if possible.

      1. I understand where you are. If you would like to correspond with a 62 year old gentleman in the Kansas City Missouri area, I would love to hear back from you.

      2. Hello Margaret. The Lord stopped on on this link. I’m 84 and a widower this year after 59 yrs of marriage. I’m a brn-again Christain and very active in our church. I’m retired military, still active and looking for a relationship. I live in Hawaii and have my own home. Is there a call for us?

      3. Hi Tom, Sorry, but Senior Planet can’t vet or police the comment boards and who responds to them. It is our policy to remove identifying information in our comments, since Senior Planet is not qualified as a dating/meetup service.

      4. I am married. But so alone. Wish I could just talk with someone. just to chat. My son was here for a few days, he says I’m in a bad mood, that I never smile. He’s even leaving earlier than planned. But there’s a widow that likes my company, she says I’m an intelligent person. Feeling so alone and lonely, looking at myself in the mirror, smiling at myself, to encourage myself….does someone out there understand me ?

      1. I had a cheater in 2007 and have not been with anyone since good local coffee conversation is always good .just turned 60\

    1. Hi Kim… I feel for you even though my story is a bit different. I’m now a very young 72 .. have been told by different people that I don’t even look 55. But lately I have felt the age in my joints and in my moral stamina. Married for 38 yrs with two very nice sons. Hard to believe that when husband became very ill he opted to go solo .. shocked and heartbroken I did ok for first 6 mo. somehow thinking he would gain his senses. It’s been 10 yrs and one son is 3000 mi away.. the other only a few blocks but much too busy for getting together once a mo if I’m lucky. I live in suburbia and have never been so lonely.

      1. My husband did the same when he became ill. Suddenly wanted to be single. Months later he looks a wreck and knows he’s made a big mistake, but he did me a favour as now I won’t have to be his carer. It was terrible at first after years together. But now I realise how many better off without him I am. It is lonely, but I’d rather that than put up with all his nonsense

      1. Sorry for all that Bill. Divorce court sucks and the lawyers are even worse. Get it over with and move on. Life has so much to offer out there.

      2. Bill don’t get bitter, get better! I was in a 27 year marriage with 5 children. We were multi-millionaires. He was a cheater, an abuser, tried to murder me, and involved with some very unsavory souls. He paid off the judge and 13 attorneys! I finally gave up and moved out of state to save my skin.
        Time will heal your wounds. If you let it. But I would advise to go to a cognitive behavioral therapist. I just started, and I am 67. Trust me. I repeated the pattern, got married two more times. When I saw the pattern, and of course the end result of my choices, I realized I badly need help.
        So go get help NOW for your future! It will be bright! Don’t give up on you! You were meant to be happy! Praying for you!

    2. Hi I sitting alone in Iowa. I am married. It is just exactly like being alone. It is a very strange thing. I thought I married the right man. For twenty five years bliss. I don’t know if he feel on his head during our move seven years ago. This man does not talk to me. He walks right by me like I am invisible. ( I am almost six feet tall) . He goes directly to his man cave. My dog sits on his lap. I guess that’s all the affection he requires. Last December I had not been feel to swell I asked him for a hug . He told me to go hug the dog. Well that was quite degrading. I have to stay because I need health insurance. I should just go sit in the ditch behind my house!

      1. Patricia, get another dog who sits in Your lap. Or a cat who prefers You. Ignore your roommate ( he’s no longer a husband). Do your own thing Without him. You need his medical insurance coverage which is sad, but it is what it is.
        Do you work? Are you on Medicare? If you are, apparently your Roommate’s policy covers the Supplemental portion.
        Try and go to Any Senior Meetup you have available in your area, if one’s available. Or try snd get a job which isn’t easy for Seniors, but Not impossible.
        Consider yourself Divorced. If you own your home, & it’s paid for, and got an actual divorce, you’d have half of your home’s value
        ( or equity) to start over.
        The way you’re being treated by your “legal hubby” constitutes Abuse.
        He’s either going senile or he’s just a real b*stard.
        If you decide to stay, just IGNORE him. He’s nothing but a Roommate.
        Go to the Senior Center to meet other seniors in your area. And watch your Heart. You’re feeling Rejected and Unloved, and that makes you Vulnerable to Predators, both male and female. You’ll probably outlive your ahole husband, as women tend to do, so live your life as though he’s already gone.
        Take walks with your dog, or New dog, and let your Roommate cook his Own meals and do his Own laundry.
        Take a class in pottery or painting,
        or Whatever you may enjoy, like cooking & see a Counselor for the emotional Damage that’s been done to you by the cold-hearted creature your Ex-husband has turned into. And don’t forget to Pray to God to give you the Strength you need to Survive.

      2. Hello Patricia in Iowa from Bootstrap Dove in Kansas City! Please don’t go sit in a ditch! Your head comment made me laugh! I am sure you have asked him what happened or what went wrong and why he is acting in such a bizarre fashion. So. Do you have a good girlfriend? Go have some fun, make some new friends, go online and join a bunch of groups, and every day go for a walk! Lose weight, change cloths, go buy a hot new car, live for you! It is your life! You can stay married, stay moral, but go have fun! You deserve it! Go back to school! I am 67 and have gone back to school. You meet all kinds of great folks in the zoom classes. Enjoy yourself immensely and don’t focus on what he is doing to be sad and lonely. Stay away from that thought! I have to keep reminding myself that there are a lot of people around me that are better in every way. How I wish I could have the same blessings they have! It hurts! I have the desire, but not the income to make things happen. That is why I am starting back to school. Keep your mind active and bright! Read great classics! Take up a musical instrument! Go enjoy yourself! That is what I am doing and the walks especially, and a therapist, help greatly with my ptsd! USE the health insurance for your self- help? When you get Medicare you will be good to go! Prayer works! I will pray for your happiness! God wants you to be happy! Seek!

    3. Hello Russ~ Life is short. Arizona is beautiful! I lived there many years, many years ago! Flag is gorgeous, I love the fall colors! I am glad I was able to see so many beautiful sights! That Arizona magazine has tremendous photography! I am 67 and live in Missouri. Each state has their great gifts of beauty. I hiked the Grand Canyon in my 20’s. Driving from Phoenix up to Flag one time, I pulled to the side of the road for a rest. I hiked over the embankment. Much to my surprise, I was met with the beautiful sight of an endless field of red wildflowers, that I had never seen before. You are lucky to be there!

    4. Hello Russ
      I’m up here in the central valley of California. Born and raised in Blythe California. So I know the desert.
      I hope you are well and safe. I live alone and yes I’m very lonely. Maybe we can write now and then?
      Have a wonderful night

  4. Hi
    I’m all alone. I’m this way most always anyway though. Since I have to work and it takes up my time and energy. I never thought I’d be here at this age all alone. It’s boring and frightening at times. I feel so discouraged sometimes. It’s not good feeling abandoned by your family. Oh they talk on the phone to me. They know I’m here.
    How are you. I’m usually more optimistic. Just not today.

    1. Hi Annie I’m Addie..I’m alone a lot too..I’m going through divorce n it’s really hard ..but I’m prayn n keepn my head up n tryn to stay safe n healthy..I’m not young anymore so it’s hard for me but I’m ok if I had a friend just to talk to ..I just get bored n lonely I guess.

      1. Hi Addie my name is Patty,I’m feeling the same way,I’m married,but he travel 48 states,I live with my parents because they are a older person’s,and most of my family lives here,I’m not joung,I’m 60,in CA,I just need friends who I can talk to

      2. Hello Addie , I may self have just went through a divorce after a 30 yr married ended, i do sympathize with you because I’m going through the the same as you, feel free to contact me and chat anytime, judy

    2. Patricia my name is LaLee im 59 years old never married have no children. I thought I was in a relationship for the last five years and we were planning to buy a house together and a couple of months ago I came home to an empty house. He not only took his stuff he took alot of my stuff. After I had time to get over the shock I started realizing my life wasn’t much different after he left because when he was here he ignored me or was always walking out the door to meet up with friends and I was never invited. I have no idea where he went I guess they call it Ghosted. Anyway I remember back in my 30’s I had a friend who was married kids the whole enchilada and oh how I wanted her life until one day she came to my little apartment and broke down telling me there was nothing more lonely than being with someone who pays no attention to you. I didn’t really understand until it happened to me. It is worse being with someone who is disrespectful and wants nothing to do with you unless they want something. Your in a situation where your life isnt yours to do what you want because you have this obligation for the lack of a better word. So you’re try telling yourself or he tries telling you when this happens things will get better. Well when things got better for him he disappeared. I’ve never been so frightened in my whole life he left me with nothing right when I was starting to save money for that house he took that too when he left. I’m still numb because I really thought we were going to grow old together. Don’t go in that ditch. I need a traveling partner if I don’t get to have my house I figure I’ll travel but don’t want to travel alone. If you’re in a position to do so let’s correspond feel each other out and see if we would be compatable heck I live in Kansas we could meet and see if we feel like it’s something we would want to do. This probably would get your husb and’s attention they say the heart grows fonder when you have sometime apart. I’m a very active outdoorsy kind of person. I love camping bike riding tennis horseback riding. I enjoy the simple things in life nature has alot to offer start in the US then look further past the horizon into foreign countries. I don’t know anything is possible if we’re up for it. Keep your chin up but don’t waste another day letting that man keep you from living your life to the end. I will keep you in my prayers. I’ve been praying alot and I’ve been called an Atheist. lol Take care and let me know if this is something you would even be a little interested in. If not we can still correspond by email and at least you someone does care even though I don’t know you I know what it feels like when you have no hope no one to talk too. It’s frightening. Again no ditch tonight enjoy the stars there is hope there too.

      1. I see a lot of comments on here about chatting and communicating with each other, can anyone tell me how that works I thought personal e mails were not allowed on this site. ?

    3. Hello Annie~
      I lived alone and went to live with a daughter, her husband, and children. They decided they did not want me there! Then I got married, he turned abusive, and I left in December! Now I am with another daughter, her husband and children. Lol. Well dear, I am trying to get out of here and off on my own because I am here but not really feeling like I should be here? I am starving for some friends or a companion, but I am separated and cannot be divorced by that state law, until one year of separation. So in January I am planning to file for divorce and end that chapter. I will have less social security, but I will work to make up the difference, hopefully.
      You are lucky to have a job. I am trying to start a new profession as a postpartum doula and am working toward my certificate. If that doesn’t work out I guess there is always Walmart or some other job.
      I would love to have a companion. Wouldn’t we all? It is just now right that a woman should be without her man, but that is what typically happens, one way or another.
      Even though I live in the same house, I still feel much like you, abandoned. Left out of things, even though they try to make me feel better. I guess it is just difficult at this age after kids are on their own. I guess that is the way we raise them. To leave home and spread their wings, be successful.
      Well take care my friend, and know that all us seniors are “left out”. Shucks.

  5. Hi, Jean. I’m Jim 73 and totally alone now. I just had an agrument with my partner of 7 years. He has found someone else. I can’t even get out of the house as I’m on oxygen. I feel so unlovable right now.

    1. Dear Jim
      Thanks for responding ( first time anyone has; I’ve posted on here every so often for a year. ) I’m so sorry you are feeling abandoned also.
      Being on oxygen you have need of someone who can bring in food and help get you to necessary appointments. My dad was on oxygen for 13 years and as I lived with my parents until they crossed (at 96 for my mom and 90 for my dad) I know the in’s and out’s of dealing with oxygen.
      I hope you are not on those old heavy metal tanks or a big concentrator where you move thru the house while tethered to it
      with a thick plastic tube. They have relatively light-weight portable systems now that you can fill with liquid oxygen off a large tank left at your home and each fill gives you from 2 to 4 hours of time to leave the house and have a bit of freedom – my dad would go fishing with his little pack over his shoulder ! I’m lucky in that I am pretty healthy. Both hips replaced 7 years ago and they’ve been like new so far so I’m rather active – just haven’t been able to make any real friend since I lost my parents and ceased being a caregiver which I’d been for about 15 years. No relatives either. I go to church. Do volunteer work. Do things at the Senior Center (they have free movies on Tue)
      but, of course, all that is prohibited right now due to the virus so have got cabin fever which is something you must also be dealing with. Because you have breathing problems you are in the highest risk group so I do hope there is someone who is bringing whatever you need to you.

      1. This is an important avenue to share feelings.. happy I found it… wish there were a way we could group call once a month at least… now That would do a heck of a lot of good for all!!

      1. Hi Linda, I am alone also and want to date again. I have been a widower for about 5 years and I want to date a Christian woman tonight or some time this weekend. You sound like what I am looking for. I would love to meet you soon, the sooner the better. I am a Christian man and being alone just does not do it for me. I would love to meet you.

      2. I like this site I’m new to it my name is Vincent Giordano I’m 62 I have a stroke but I’m getting better and better everyday I walk go to PT just starting to drive but I’m a bit lonely

      1. I am 68 and lost my wife when I was 56. For several years, I felt that my life was mostly over and meaningless as I slogged through that horrible time.

        But, time really does heal. It took me nearly five years, but I started enjoying life again, and mostly, started enjoying life alone. I ran across zero women who attracted me at all, much less anywhere near what I felt for my soul partner and wife before she died.

        Realizing this around the time I was coming alive again, I let go of the “need” for a partner and started realizing, with only myself, life was way cheaper, way easier and I could do as I please.

        If I feel like laying around an entire day, getting high on THC and never getting dressed, I not only do it, I revel in it. Having something to do in a day or not does not mean you have to be bored or lonely.

        I now make it a point, which I never did before, to mingle with people in, say, community rooms – or a fave bar if you have one – watching football, or some sport, and conversing with folks. Then, once you’re alone again, you do feel the glow of having communicated with fellow humans.

        Try and find the things you life and stick to ’em. Try to get rid of everything else, including a surfeit of possessions you’ve stashed for years. Downsize your home if necessary. I live in a small one bedroom apartment now, but being by myself, it’s plenty of room, yet, economical to live in.

        Life is not over. Religious or not, you have to consider that this may be it for life. Enjoy what you have before it’s all gone.

      2. no excuse to be Lonely not your fault .my brother who leaned on lil sis for dates,place to live,money all of it cant bother talk in 20 years. Dont assist relatives I did it all &0 liked me for it ,thet think they deserved more even you mom making a burden with all her money never loaned a cent but my place was to be her vacation. Love being away from all parasites. least your deeds go for your own desires ,not day Kevin get to vegas i’ll show you natures beauty with my beautiful golden shepard..Beth. L. V , !

      3. I am with Mr. Novak 100 %.
        I am 69 and have been widowed 4 years on next week. My first and last wife died in sleep by surprise. No foregone symptom or warning at all. Anyone can imagine the devastation. After three attempts to be with someone, I found peace and tranquility by being alone. I enjoy my life with full extent and very meaningful. I changed my living environment by moving from big city to small town surrounded with wonderful nature. I bought a Jeep and have been busy to adventure the wild nature. I don’t drink, smoke, and no drug or marijuana for all my life as well as no belief in any god. But I am fulfilled with joy and happiness and will stay as it is until the final moment comes. Time heals the pain eventually and we are the driver of our life. It is all up to each individuals whether you move on or fall.

      4. Hi Kevin, I loved your comments. I live in Dublin Ireland and have been widowed for 20 yes. Once my kids were educated and out in the world I did the dating thing but like you I found no one anyway as interesting or attractive than my husband. He too was my soulmate and I now am content to be on my own. I travelled. A good bit on my own to Italy but now sold up the family home and bought a nice apartment for myself. I too revel in a day at home doing nothing except lolling about. I really thought there was something wrong with me when I came to the conclusion I didn’t need a lover or partner. Here’s to you having and enjoying a good life. Regards Maureen

      5. I totally understand I am a widow of 9 years and I had a wonderful husband. But it seems men my age want women that are at least 30 to 40 years younger than them I think they’re Brad Pitt. Are there any normal people out there that want a healthy nice looking lady that is respectable and fun-loving

      6. Alone in phoenix.Me too. After 20 years of ok and no one catching my eye who did I meet? 45 year old hustler. Yep Told him I had no money. Could not support him.My only income SS and SSI total $796.00 a month. Moved in!. Got him stimuls check. Day it came he bought a car packed up and not one word since. E-mail closed. So dont add fool like I have too. Some days I am more than alone and I know you know what I mean. I have no advice but some I know your a good person with a good heart, but that wont take away that feeling.Im 66.Hard to see a future.Cry all the time.Dont sleep much. Now is when you think to yourself “BOY IM GLAD IM NOT THAT GUY! I wish I wasnt too. Chris

      7. Hello Kevin, I’m alone now after going through a divorce, feel free to reach out and chat if you do desire too. Judy from Florida

      8. I’m 54 and divorced I just lost my job after a 28 year career that I put my life into and Covid is driving me crazy to the point where I just decided to have a one night stand with a guy that raced horses. I didn’t want it to be a one night stand – but the guy blocked me the next day. I feel like if I don’t get out of this house soon I will go crazy. I message my last boyfriend every night for almost a year and he reads my messages but never responds. He is eight years younger but lives with his parents. I just keep messaging him that we should just get in a car and leave – like old Springsteen songs. I’m thinking of getting a bunch of time share points and just traveling America from town to town. What is wrong with me? Why am I so restless – I feel like I will die if I stay inside this house much longer watching the news and movies and the news again. Calculating when my money will run out. Thinking about day trading to survive. I have a 14 year old. I just wish I could reach over and a warm strong arm would put his arm around me and say – it will be ok.

    1. Hey there Linda! My name is Carol and am in the same situation if not worse . I traveled alot and got into some bad relationships and lost contact with everyone . I lost my last family member 3 yrs ago and right after my only child Misty Rae was killed she was 8 months pregnant with a baby boy
      Gone through all alone I do not even have anyone to call and live in the worst place in the US to be alone in Norfolk, VA if you don’t have family or know anyone your pretty much screwed
      I don’t understand it

      1. yes time to get busy my pet dog ,cat really look out for me they visit by your side he gets me to take him round park folks say hello! its very helpful improving house , putting items in place u find lost $,jewlry great fun.. oh there is my favorite sweater ,my velvet pants, my gold bracelet ,on ,on. put on soft make up Elf is great beautiful blushes soft lip corals, bit shadow cute hat or even trendy wig fun . No excuse to feel lonely, quiet is worth alot No Stress! hope it helps Lost a younger sis to smoking didnt know she overindid but got her treasure Island. we could share notes I keep a fella friend far away we text! Men have Tempers. Bad ones Good Luck

      2. Hi Carol, my name is Sue and I certainly can relate to the situation you are in. Only I think Superior, WI is truly the worst place on earth. I put all my time and energy into my relationships and my daughter. She is now 34 and I have struggled since she was 18 to help her get off drugs. She is clean now and is living in Seattle WA. So, I too find myself alone with no family and no real friends. Plus, I am living in pretty bad poverty and having to move out of my duplex by April 30. Anyway, I guess I could go on and on. I really didn’t mean to make this about me, so sorry. I just wanted you to know I really, truly understand the situation you find yourself in now. Wish we lived closer, maybe we could have been friends and a comfort to each other.
        Please take care of yourself and at least we both know there is another that really understands our situation.

      3. Youre Awesome! Thank you for your message!! These readings really help to know that “alone”, knowing how to company yourself is actually the greatest gift one can have besides a dog. Lol

      4. Hi Carol I pray n cry for u..feeln so alone but people like me r here if u ever wanna text n talk..I’m Addie..I’m n Vegas far away but I’m here to talk n help u feel like u r not alone!

      5. Hi Carol….Betty here….Its been 2yrs..since I date …I keep busy…work two jobs ….go to the park for long walks & I go shopping…trying to find a good man ….where are they….. be strong ….

    2. Linda, greetings from Chris who has lived all alone for the past 18 years on the other side of the planet. It is quite a story! Now I am experiencing reverse culture shock trying to come back to my native land and feel like Rip Van Winkle. My solution is for everyone here to have a party because life is good and we all need to enjoy the ride. Since that is obviously not possible, well not in the physical sense at least, I will make my phone number available (it is a US number so you can call or text me for free) to any normal human who responds to this post and wants it. It would be great to have some lines of communication over here so I have the illusion of having some life lines. The more positive feedback I receive, the better it might be for all of us. Who knows, we might find from this trial balloon that we have a happening.

      1. Hi Chris, alone in Michigan here. You had indicated you would give your phone number for texting, but I don’t see it. I would like to make some new friends around the nation and reaching out to you would be a good start. Marlene.

    3. Hi Linda I am 58 and had a stroke last year. I am a widow and still work full time as a paralegal. I have 3 children, one of whom doesn’t talk to me much, the other two are wonderful but don’t live close. I have two dogs who I cherish and really help me with loneliness. I know what it is like to be a woman living alone as we age. I don’t have any desire to date so haven’t been on the dating sites.

      1. So sorry to hear that I can so relate to your story my situation is one that reads just as similar

    4. Hi Linda and Kathy I agree with you 100% that online dating is for the birds the very first man that ever contacted me online asked me for money the second one wanted to know if I owned my own home or if I was renting I said you know what this is nuts I’m not doing this I’d rather be alone and have some dignity them have these scammers if you feel like you might want to chat I would love it

      1. You are so right about online dating sites, even the so-called Christian singles sites. At 69 all I received was messages from men no older than 55 who all had broken English, i.e., “You are ever perfect and I want know you much.” And they will have a white-bread name like Rob Jones or something from Tuscon, AZ (when in-truth I’ll bet it’s more like Mohammad Harabi from Nigiers .) I read that they do this on purpose because they then know if you go for it you must be so very lonely and needy that you’ll be an easy mark for $. Dear Lord please don’t let me never get to such a low point that I lose all dignity . This corona virus scare is getting to me though. They’ll be no one to give a damn if I get sick but my sweet dog. I come to read the entries on this site periodically to see that many others are in the same boat – just wish we all lived in the same town ! Anybody in or near Bend, OR ?

      2. Jean and Cathy – Dont go on the safe sites like or Christian Mingle. All those scammers are targeting the older nice ladies there. I got the same. Go on Bumble. Haven’t met one scammer on there. All the guys are real and you can see exactly where they are in their location. But get ready for lots of “interesting” photos of male anatomy. I would say maybe 5 percent are legit guys looking for something real if you can weed through the a holes. And it’s truly amazing how many 30-35 year olds will match with you. Way more than the older guys. I don’t meet up with them – but it makes you feel pretty for a minute when they say age is just a number and they all say that.

      1. Heeellllooooo Robbie Hahahahaha that was so funny thanks for the laugh, I’m 68 living in ohio. Single, active, (except for this virus thingy, still i try to walk everyday tho). Children are grown and have their own families, so im kinda out here ( in the boonies) by myself. I still work (cleaning homes) no im not dumb two degrees, but tired of working for businesses that pay nothing to our generation. I charge what i want, work when i want, and for whom i want. Is that correct usage of who/whom ? Since this shelter in place i’ve spring cleaned my house painted, and emptied water off tarp on pool. Gettn ready for summer. I’m tryin to keep busy but running out of things to do, so i found this forum and here i am. Lol anyhow thanks for the thot of “a hit”. LMBO. Take care

    5. Hi My name is Greg I am retired and in the same situation as you are. I have never been all alone my entire life .
      If you know of a good chat room for a 1st timer I would appreciate it

    6. So many people who you never hear from. I am an attractive man, 64 but completely turned off by online “dating”…mostly a waste of time for me…never get responses from people I’m interested in and get all kinds of messages from overweight truly ugly people. That’s been my experience over several years on and off. Spent time in Europe where it’s better and more honest and open. But not in this country! Really tough, almost impossible I find.

      1. Geoff, You can’t go for looks that fade away. You can get a skinny girl who will still add weight and grow ugly one day so I think you are too picky. Your age mates definitely are going to have some weight on and are not going to look 18!

      2. Hi Geoff,
        Am 66 and single, love music , ballet, museums and looking to settle in Portugal.
        What country are you talking about?

      3. Vera, I spent 12 years in Frankfurt, Berlin and Athens with State Dept and some military earlier (Athens). I speak German. Not really into ballet and such to be honest…more of an adventure traveler like bicycle touring while I still have a few good years left. Just took a hit to my finances during this epidemic. But can still share expenses easily. Have traveled extensively to all countries in Europe and am familiar with Portugal to some extent. Beautiful country. Maybe we should get in touch.

      4. Hi geoff liked your message .I agree with what you say .im not ugly or over weight .it would be nice to chat

    7. Yes Linda. They are all scams. I am 69 living alone and my only child is 560 miles away. Tried the dating sites and what’s available is disheartening. I don’t know what the answer is but to get out and try to mix. This Covid19 is really driving me psychotic by living with stay at home and nobody with me. I wish you well and Stay Safe!

  6. P.S. This is “Gayle”, again. I would just like to add that if I had to be placed in a “category”, it would be in the Suzanne Somers, Cher category…..I am not your “typical senior”….I work out, etc. and still want to live my life to the fullest…..Normally, I would never write something like this on the Internet, but why not?….The world is getting smaller every day and there are a lot of “good people” out there to communicate with………, this is just a side bar to my other comment…..

    1. Gayle, you’re trying to find perfection in an imperfect world – stop complaining and just go out and have a good time. Maybe volunteering in an organization that helps others would expand your horizons – it can be very rewarding to focus on others for a change.

      1. I’m 69 years old and feel that I have made a huge mistake by marrying a girl who was 12 years younger than me in1978. I had to leave the girl who I loved and still do Love because I couldn’t get a job to provide for her in Cape Breton. We were Inguaged to be married but I had to go to Alberta to get a job and she Met someone else and I lost contact with her. I have thought about her every day and I do still love her! I just want to know if she is still alive and happy with her life she chose.

      2. As with. anyone the that has problems I want to empathize with yo for I’ve came to know it could be me under similar circumstances for we are not islands unto ourselvesd .I have no answers. I live in very. loves me l area wife. of 30 yrs abandoned marriage. don’t know.why treatd wife as I wants treated. abused as child sexually and emotionally they’re before she left was miserable. I wish I could have the trust I need. so I don’t have to b lonely Hoping and Praying I may find a woman me that loves

      3. I’m. Looking for a good honest straight woman who wants me for who I am not what I have. I’m looming for a woman to share my life with. I’m 59 yrs old and I am retired. I live in South Texas and I love fishing. Movies. Walk in a park. BBQ. And some traveling. I’m no where near perfect but I have a good heart and I know how to treat a woman. I love to cook and enjoy a good honest woman that I can love and adore. If ur that woman . then I’LL be waiting for ur reply. Thank u…

      4. what a smart woman i’m a guy i’m 61 and readint eh blogs,yours was direct hit the nail on the head at our age who cares? get out and do some thing and help some one help is is worse off!


      5. I agree Tina I am a 100%disabled US Army veteran and I do volunteer at the senior center in Santa Monica California I started a dominoes activities with other clients at the senior center one hour a day sometimes two hours three times a week ….I’ve been domino’ coordinator on a three day a week routine leader with also at veterans Hospital West los Angeles in different events example bingo games barbecuesAnd socializing with other veterans and veterans in service organizations as well !!! A quite busy man I am at 70 years old lots of lady friends lots of good guy friends; quite content with my single life those out there look for the positive in yourself!!! and socializing with other veterans and veterans in service organizations as well quite busy though man I am at 70 years old lots of lady friends lots of good guy friends quite content with my single life those out there look for the positives in yourself and for yourself.

      1. This reply is for Alan living in texas but there was no reply to under his message. I have spent the last 20 years being the perfect wife, great cook, always looked good for him, travelled the world with him, had a great life together, I’m honest loyal faithful and trustworthy, and he always told me how lucky he was to have me, then he got I’ll and just like that left to live alone. No one knows how another person thinks or feels, so that is it for me. Never again. I know wives who have been terrible to their husbands but are adored by them. Lonliness is the worst and that’s why we are all on this site, but as for dating again, is it worth the anguish it often causes. I dont think so

    2. Gayle, i am similar to you. Husband tells me over and over that i look 30 from the back. Im an unlimited life extensionist so i have the best hope in the universe. Still have 2 family members left and a clan 150 miles away that i keep in touch with. Im 66 and a cosmetic procedure patient and very open about it. Its the only way to keep youthful looking past s certain age..

      1. Why is everyone so obsessed with looks? Believe me hon , most all of us old folks don’t look to bad from the back! Aperently your cosmetic surgery hasn’t done too much for your front! Plastic people just aren’t that pretty.

  7. I never did this before, but here goes! I live in Brooklyn, New York and am a very “youthful” 70’s year old woman and although I live in the liveliest City in the USA, it can be very lonely!….Some of my friends passed away at a young age and it is very difficult to make friends in this City. I am looking to meet new friends especially where I live. I live in a part of Brooklyn that has nothing going for it in the way of socializing with others unless you go to a “Senior Center”, which is “too old” for me and I just don’t fit in there and do not like “labels” of any kind! It seems many of the people there have health issues and it depresses me. So, I thought I would reach out to the Internet and see who is out there…….I used to have a very fulfilled social life, but for the past ten years or so it’s been pretty awful…I, myself, had a couple of “health issues” that were traumatic, but overall now I am just fine, except for not having some type of social life…..I was a major art student and have taken some classes in NYC, but if anyone knows about the “subway system” in NYC, it is pretty horrible navigating it especially in the Summer. I do not do well in the “heat” of the Summer and tend to stay home when it is too hot to go out and that makes me very anxious….So, who is out there? You don’t have to necessarily live in Brooklyn although it would be easier to meet up as I had a friend in the City……..I would also like to know if anyone from my City knows of some places to go to that are welcoming! I am open to anything I can get to………….Waiting to hear from you……

      1. To be perfectly honest, I went there a couple of times and did not like your “OPEN CONCEPT” and found it very strange that there are no separate rooms and you are disturbed by people talking on top of one another. I think whomever planned this place did a horrible job!!!…i was also surprised that everything is on ONE FLOOR! I know that space is prime in New York and very expensive, but whomever did the planning for this place did a horrible job!…I did not feel comfortable there as I found the “NOISE” very “DISTRACTING”…..Otherwise, it would have been great!!!!..

        Any other suggestions? Any New Yorkers out there?

      2. Also, Don’t they have any Creative Art Classes? I am not that into “technology” that much….That would be wonderful if they could incorporate that!…..

      3. Well here goes, I am 66 find myself divorced and alone. I moved back to my home town (small) hoping to reconnect with my old friends. I had been gone for about 20 years and I called several of Them. They were very friendly and said(we should get together for lunch sometime,) but not one call. I don’t blame themI, I was gone a long time. I am in good physical condition, so am able to do most things. How do I start over at my age?

      4. Hi Gayle

        Haven’t read all your posts, but enough I think from here in the UK, and my own circumstances. Stop trying to make things right where they are not. You say you have loads of internal energy, so MOVE perhaps to the East Coast – but to a rural or maritime community.

        Of course you will have to consider links to family and friends – but an airport within an hour and a half’s drive, or a train station closer would resolve that.

        You could do it in stages – maybe rent a place somewhere that takes your fancy for a month – to explore, meet people, and assess. Then repeat until happy.

        A great adventure for you, and it sounds as if you have a lot to give :) Very best wishes Janet

    1. I am a young at heart 76 yr old male seeking a conservative lady of class who has no addictions. Reside in Stockton, Ca., not interested in marriage, not where I should be financially, but a gentleman that is honest, extremely loyal, considerate and enjoys companship. Haven’t dated in years, this doesn’t mean I desire scammers, I don’t, nor do I prefer far left democrats. Contact me for conversation and see where it leads. Joseph A.

      1. Believe me, i get it. I’m 65, divorced, my three kids all live away. My friends and relatives are all married. I work from home and ifeel so lonely and isolated. Just having someone to talk to would be a blessing.

    2. Hi Gayle,

      I live in Southern Brooklyn, a lovely area called Mill Basin. Recently retired I enjoy a lot of the classes at Kingsborough and Brooklyn Lifelong Learning. I also belong to Harbor Fitness and love their classes and their trainers. These places are very happy settings. I have made a few new friends. I am single but I feel connected and not lonely.


      1. Hello neighbor! I just moved to Palatka from St Augustine, because St Aug become a massive hot mess, but anyway I was just scrolling down and reading everyone’ comments and noticed that you live in Daytona. Lolly

      2. I’ve yet a man who has a heart! After giving mine totally for 20 years it was trashed and broken overnight. I’m not bitter, but from life experience I have not seen many genuine men. I can’t believe what some women put up with just to have…someone…anyone will do. No thanks to that. Good luck in your search and I’m sure there are some good men out there, I only wish id known how easy it is for them to change their mindset practically in minutes.

    3. Hi Gayle,
      I like painting most forms of art. I was very good at art in school but was much better at engineering, so I became a project engineer and inventor, for a career, making great new ideas and patents like Optimyst (a multimillion euro business for Glen Dimplex). I am now thinking of new ideas and following my instinct.

    4. I am from Ann Arbor MI and used to live in Essex County NJ near Newark. I am 69 and not adverse to driving out there . Can’t fly these days. Going crazy being alone in my house. I loved the City. Really miss it. Interested in friendship via messages?

    5. Hi Gayle, You sound like a interesting person that I would like to chat with….I am a divorced male in my early seventies living in Las Vegas …My name is Joe and would love to hear from you if you would like to chat.

  8. I’ve often said that life is like a roller coaster ride–it begins with excitement and uncertainty, it’s full of peaks, valleys, twists and turns, and before you know it, it’s over.

    And sometimes a legacy is born.

    Without question, a lot has happened in the past 4 years since Laura passed away. As you might expect, my lifestyle changed drastically. I became a single dad. Career changes took place. Most importantly, my daughters are now a thriving 15-year-olds

    As time goes by, certain memories fade. It’s not intentional, it’s just the reality of life and time. Life carries on and brings about new memories, pushing older memories out.

    The truth is, I miss her every day. I often look to the heavens seeking her guidance, which helps me find a balance. I believe she’s transcended into an angel, protecting our daughters and I each day. The past year, I’ve seen several instances that can only be explained by that logic.

    Our time on Earth is precious. You never know when your time will be up.

    You can live life in defeat and sorrow, turning a season of mourning into a lifetime. Or you can live to the fullest, take advantage of every opportunity, and turn setbacks into positive gains.

    1. Hi I am Anne. I raised 2 wonderful married adult women. I do see them often and live them very much. I took care of my Dad until he died from cancer. Then I took care of my Mom for a very big part of my life. She lived with us fir about 20 years. Now she is 96. Within the last few years I had to place ger in a nursing home much to my dismay.

      Niw I live with my horrible cruel husband of 40 years. My life is hell. He is hell on earth. He is 70. Clinicalky deaf and refuses to kepp his hearing aids. He threw 2 pair out. He has mental illness and maybe Parkinson.
      I am attempting one mire pair of hearing aids which he says he will wear this time from walmart. I will see. I am actually in the absolute hardest and worst life I have ever had. He is driving me crazy. Going to have to take him to court if his meds do not increase and he wears hearing aids. He is low I Q too. I cannot have anither year like this. I am 67. Too old fir cruelty on all levels. Thank you for reading and listening. I do appreciate you!

      1. Hi Anne. I’m so sorry you are living in such difficult times. Your situation sounds similar to mine. I am also 67. I’ve been married to my husband for 20 years. He is now 72. He was always a big talker but never a doer. We’ve moved to a few different homes over the years. I always had hopes and plans for fixing up the houses, travel, making friends. He always dismissed my plans, we have never been on a vacation in the 20 years we’ve been married, he finds ways of getting rid of any friends we might find along the way. Now he has health problems, as do I. He had a stroke and carotid surgery 6 years ago. He has turned very sarcastic with me. He takes medications which I know are making him mean along with his aging. He also has always been a hoarder to some degree which drives me crazy. I want to go out and make friends and entertain. I want to travel. I only have one living relative. One son who lives about 2 hours away. I only see my son and daughter-in-law a couple times a year. They are very busy with their lives. My husband has no children. All our parents have died years ago. Our current home is about an hour and a half from the city. We live in a small town with nothing to do. We moved here 5 years ago. I wanted to live in the city, but my husband wanted to live in the small town. He promised that we could go to the city when ever I wanted and go out to eat and travel. No surprise, none of this happened. I stay awake every night wondering how I can get away from this town and move to the city. How can I afford to live on my own when I can no longer work? I get very little on social security. He gets enough on social security for us to live on. I feel trapped, alone. If I leave how do I afford to support myself. I don’t know what to do

      2. Myheart feels for you. I can feel the anguish in your letter. I am 80 year old widow. Although I live with my sister it is a lonely life. I feel like I want to go all the time and not sit idle. If You like you can email me to talk.

    2. I read your comment and just want to say I love your attitude about life. You are so right when you say ‘you can live life in defeat and sorrow, turning a season of mourning into a lifetime.’ As wrong as it is to do this, it is easier. To ‘take advantage of opportunities and to turn setbacks into positive gains’ takes a lot of courage. Courage I don’t think I have anymore , or, if it is still inside me somewhere it is lost. Your words make me want to try, so, thank you.

    3. Forgive me Patricia, but I just had to put in my (unsolicited and no doubt unappreciated) 2 cents here to remark that the times have gone ahead and left you far.. .far. ..behind.

      I will try not to seem overly offensive to you, but your every sentence drips with ignorance.
      And your knowledge of biology and physiology is abysmal.

      It never fails to amaze me how some women are so entrenched in living in a patriarchal society that they
      are willing to embrace the belief that women are “less than,” and feel threatened by and are belittling of other women who view all people as equal and consider themselves as women to be as worthy as men.

      It is regrettable that there are people who are hostile to your daughter for her choice of staying home to raise children. That IS a job, just not one for which she receives pay from an employer. But she might do well to look ahead to her future as well as give added protection to her kids by working part-time for pay, or pursuing schooling or training for some occupation. Many women who have devoted their lives in the service of their family have been left high and dry after divorce or widowhood, or suffer in hellish marriages because they did not think about their personal finances and are stuck in bad situations without enough money to leave.

      I am sure your daughter is not “less than.” I hope she gives thought to preparing for possible future eventualities while she is still young. Christine

      P.S. The word you were searching for is “complement”
      not “compliment.”

  9. I know how it feels. Since my wife died 11 years ago, until late last year, I had a house helper. Then it came to a point that she became more a headache than a help. So I drove her out. Since then, I have been living alone.

    Yes, there are times when I feel lonely. I drive it away by self-talk. I tell myself to get used to my new reality or perish.

    Shortly after my wife died, my daughter encouraged me to get married again. I flatly said, “No.” 37 years of marriage cannot easily be replaced. Besides, I have my wife’s ashes at home so I won’t be tempted to bring in another woman. LOL!

    Loneliness is not about being alone. It is a choice which I often utilized owing to the fact that I am an online writer.

    1. Hi Joseph I get it you feel lonely some days you wish you had somebody to take a walk with wish you had somebody to talk to you wish you had somebody to cook a meal with hoping that the end is not gonna be this lonely wondering how many more years do we have I’m 67 been divorced for a year my ex has moved on already found himself a girlfriend he seems to be very happy in his new life I’m not better I wish him all the best but I seem to be stuck in this lonelyPllace

  10. I understand what you are all feeling and my heart goes out to you. I have no children, spouse or friends and, last year I lost my beloved cat of 14yrs. I struggle with anxiety and depression along with osteoarthritis. I need a double knee replacement but the surgeon won’t do it because he said I am too sad. This makes me even more isolated.
    I don’t have a car and live in senior housing where they bully so much that I stay to myself.
    Thankfully, I just found a wonderful therapist that is helping me. At least I have one kind person to talk to. He is encouraging me to work on my crafts, join a yoga class and maybe, someday, adopt another cat.
    Hugs to all of you. If you need an email friend, I’m here. <3

    1. Lori..hi,my name is Linda.I’m now 66 and live with my 2pups. I’ve lived here in Va ,well,I’m native to this area,joined the military,retired and came back,telling myself I would never return to Va. Yet,I did. Funny thing,all my family have passed,it’s just my pups and me. Being older I have found the the good,bad and ugly. I’m old enough to know better,people do prey on seniors and most people believe that because we have age we’re simply crazy. When I divorced,my church was not kind…I couldn’t understand how they embraced excon yet a divorcee was an embarrassment to the church. My neighbors don’t offer any help or kindness yet they mind my business more than I do. As a veteran,I was always accustomed to being around people and I enjoy helping others . One of my late friends grieved himself to an early grave,his mom died. As we get older,in today’s society,respect and compassion seem to no longer fit the vernacular of younger people, millennials,but I do sense a climate of entitlement. Never have I seen a time when children,and adult children both threaten and literally kill parents&grandparents. The whole world has become a melting pot of insanity. Having lived alone even when married,I realized if someone doesn’t share your convictions on life,then learning to let go is healthier for you. You can’t force love. Bullies by the way are bullies because they focus on a person’s weakness. Instead of living life as though it is already over,ask God for strength,be thankful and start a daily journal of all the good that you do have. What we focus on becomes our reality.If we always believe we will never be happy we can.literally miss opportunities of goodness for focusing on the negativity. I almost died in Oct of 2018; I asked God for strength and wisdom that HE would guide me. Learning to forgive those who are unkind frees you from the prison of bitterness and allows you to have a different opinion about life. Each day you awaken this side of the dirt,is a good day and today if you have no idea how to begin..ask God to give you wisdom God has a plan for you otherwise you would not be here anymore. Don’t think you have to conquer the world,just change your attitude to one of thanksgiving for today.

    2. Hi Lori ,

      I am sort of in the same sinking boat , although I did not have a cat !! 2 days ago and 4 years my dad died. The week before it was 14 years my mom passed. I was a caregiver / companion .
      Now I am 66 , alone running out of money and fearing for the worst because the US does not care , plain and simple.

      If you care to reach out to a lonely soul , I shall gladly reply.

      I am caucasian / alone / depress and scared , but I also have a side to me that is loving and respectful of others.
      Perhaps I am not my now best friend , but that does not mean I can not treat others wit h the respect and kindness they deserve.

      I am a christian , the Lord died for all our sins and I shall see my loved ones when my time has come.

      I suffer from autoimmune disease and associated aliments , I am currently battling not only the system that refuses to help , but arthritis and other complications.

      If you would care to have a friend , please reply


      1. Hi Everyone
        I live on the Coast in North Carolina. I came here to retire and enjoy the beach. A month after I arrived, I got sicker than a dog and it turned out to be MS and Lupus. Now I can’t walk a straight line or be in the sun.
        I have three kids. They are healthy, independent, and drug and alcohol-free, thank God. They all live more than 1000 miles from me. None of them offered to come and help me when I was recovering. Four years ago I went to Colorado to visit my middle son. He absolutely ignored me almost the entire time I was there. I have four sisters that don’t speak to me. We were raised to ignore and dislike one another. My mother was a piece of work.
        I have one brother. He is no neurotic and depressed his name is in the Webster’s Dictionary as the definitions. He lives with me. It took me years to get used to him being here. He is also the biggest slob in NC. He can’t help it. He was so abused. Again, my mother was a piece of work.
        I have been alone to try to recover from MS and Lupus. I think I’ve done a good job. Since I wasn’t allowed to socialize when I lived at home, I have learned to live in solitude. Sometimes crowds get on my nerve so bad I have to go to Walmart in the middle of the night. I wish I had someone to really care about me. I never have. Should I be careful what I wish for? It’s backfired on me before. Thanks for listening.

      2. If you or anyone else that you know or are aware of is being bullied in an elderly facility, contact the Ombudsman Program, they will put an end to the situation at hand, they will put an end to Elder Abuse!

      3. God does work in mysterious ways I truly belive in him because things or epasodes or gifts that could only happen inf he wanted it that way only happened because he is truly out there if you pray hard enough he will answer it might not be what u want but something is going to happen it does for me im not kidding !!!

      4. I like your outlook and also believe in it. I lived solo and did not have any problems with it as I stayed active and did not expect any relationship to progress towards anything but a friendship basis. I love people and love activities that include them.

      5. I am Australian ,aged 70.years old. I I share my house with a couple not just to help pay the mortgage but for companionship.He is 40years old and she is 29 years old.
        Twice a week I attend the University of the Third Age (U 3a)where I study anthropology and classical history.
        My local U3a has over 1500 members all over 55 , and offers over 100 different courses.
        All the tutors are volunteers
        Since I joined two years ago I have mde many new friends and acquaintances .
        Isolation is a huge problem here in Autralia too.
        Organisations like U3a certainly address this issue.

      6. Gary
        I have multiple sclerosis and lupus. I’m thinking you have the same thing. I would like to hear from you. I am 65, alone, and I live on the coast of NC. Sounds nice but yesterday the heat index was 110. I can’t even get the mail before my skin begins to blister. I hope to hear from you.

      7. Hi my name is Charlotte I live alone in Brooklyn, NY. We can begin to chat sometime I would like that. This is my first time reaching out to chat online. Looking forward to chatting with you.
        All the best,

      8. Hi Lori my name is Rose and I am exactly like you. So know that you are not alone. I was married for 20 years and 14 yrs ago he passed away. I was lonely so I called my one friend and we started going places. It was alot of fun. Then after some yrs later she decided to move
        She’s so far away and wanted me to move with her. I don’t want to live in a hot climate. So now here I am in depression and extreme lonliness. I never had kids and my parents died. I have brothers and a sister, but my stepmother doesn’t want me over anymore and has brain washed my siblings. They don’t call and I haven’t seen.them in 28 yrs. I’ve had one knee surgery and now I’m going to therapy again. I have osteoporosis and osteoarthritis in my knees, back and ankles and also depression. I was so glad to read your story and it’s sad what we’re going through. Maybe if you had an old friend of the past you could give her a call. Or if you play bingo, many women go alone. I only wish you the best. I’ll be praying for us.

      9. Hi
        I am a 63 year old newly divorced woman…
        I have lost pretty much everything to my ex husband…
        I am very lonely and new in LA area till I can find a place in Northern California near my kids.
        I have been feeling depressed and sad trying to figure out my next chapter in life…
        If anyone can relate please reach out cause I could use a friend.
        Thank You

      10. Hello everyone–I am 68 and live alone in a 55+ community. I love that there are activities and the people are so great. I was trying to think of a way for the singles here to let each other know that we are ok. Just this morning out of the blue, I had a scary dizzy spell and with 2 dogs, I worry that I could pass out or even die and nobody would know. Has anyone else ever thought about this. Maybe find someone to give an extra key to that you can trust, or an email chain. Any thoughts.

      11. Jane,

        I am 62 and live alone with my dog. I wish I lived in a 55+ community. I know that if something happened to me no one would find me for days. I still work (for one more year) so I know if I didn’t show up for work someone would eventually come to my house. On the weekends my phone never rings, I have work acquaintances but no good friends. I fell not long ago, luckily wasn’t hurt but if I had not been able to get up I would have laid on the floor for days. I signed up for Life Alert after that. I have pretty bad arthritis in my back and weakness in my legs from two hip replacements so I do think about if something were to happen. I will probably move to a retirement community after I retire. I know I’ll be the youngest one there but at least there will be people around. I definitely know how you feel.

      12. Here’s the problem. Many seniors get depressed, understandably. Being alone and feeling worthless and lonely. But you have to realize these things are the very things that keep you from pulling yourselves out of these doldrums. It’s a viscous circle. But the only way to remedy these negative feelings is to become as interesting and engaged in life as much as possible. Don’t allow yourself to become boring. No one is attracted to boring, depressed and negative people. You have to become a jewel…one that shines and lights up the world her them. That is attractive and once you become that person who shines people will be attracted to you, like a light in the night beckons moths. Ask yourself this – would you like to hang around people that are constantly down, depressed and negative? Of course not! There is so much in life to be thankful for. You can take advantage of opportunities that will continually progress your mind and stimulate your well being. Resist letting negativity drag you down. Come alive again and stop planning for the end…but instead plan to live. Be a mover and a shaker. Volunteer to help others. Live a good life and thank your god for the beautiful opportunity he has laid before you. Look up, not at your feet. And you know you can do it. There is no great mystery to a fulfilling life. It is nothing more than a change of mind, positive thinking sparked by what is truly real – the glory of life and existence! Get yourself some!

      13. Hi
        I am a 63 year old newly divorced woman…
        I have lost pretty much everything to my ex husband…
        I am very lonely and new in LA area till I can find a place in Northern California near my kids.
        I have been feeling depressed and sad trying to figure out my next chapter in life…
        If anyone can relate please reach out cause I could use a friend.
        Thank You

    3. Hi, Lori
      I, too, have no children, husband, or friends (acquaintances only – those who when you run into them, give you the obligatory hug that means nothing, ask how you are and without waiting for a reply, launch into the latest about themselves & their families.) If I begin to tell them anything about myself that goes on for more than 30 seconds, they start to glaze-over, or look over my shoulder for someone else to acknowledge, or make an excuse to leave. It’s all so superficial it’s not worth the effort. Like you, my pet chiweenie (dachshund/chihuahua from the shelter ) is everything to me and I can’t begin to think on him passing away. I live in Bend, Oregon and have had both hips replaced so it gets hard to use my snowblower if needed in the winter and the lawn is slowly dying since it’s such a chore to maintain it and the lawn services are outrageously expensive to hire for it. If you care to email me, let me know (not sure how people post their contact info on here without it becoming public for all to see) ???


      1. Jean

        Our lives sound very similar, I tend to be the “therapist” to acquaintances, but if I have something I want to talk about, there is either no response or they change the subject back to them. My dog Bella is my saving grace! I have also had both of my hips replaced. Before my first hip was replaced (once I found the right doctor) I went four years in constant pain, leaving me with muscle degeneration in my legs. So, now, I’m thankful that the pain is gone, and I can walk, but I can’t walk for very long without having to sit for at least a few minutes. I’ve had to hire out for lawn care and snow removal. I can’t get on the ground so I now plant flowers in containers just to get my hands in the dirt! I’m still working but plan on retiring after this next year. I have put a deposit down at a retirement facility, I’ll probably move there sometime after retirement, just to have people around. I don’t have any children and very few family members that don’t live close.

      2. Hi Lori,

        I would love to be your pen pal. I’m 55 and my 90 yr old father lives with me, so between working full time, taking care of a 5 bedroom house and my dad I’ve had to give up having a life of my own. I have two cat’s that I’m thankful for because I work in the yard every day after work and even though they’re inside cats I’ve trained them to stay in my yard while I’m doing yard work. They absolutely love being outside with me.

        I’m so glad that you had the courage to tell your story because it helped me and I’m sure many others to realize that they’re not the only ones out there that are lonely and just need a friend to care about them. Lori, I care about you and I would love to be your friend. :)


    4. Hi Lori, I am not a senior (47) but my story is of yours. Never married, no children, no friends and my (1) unconditional friend my cat, Joey was poisoned at the age of 14 by my Narcissistic ex-boyfriend, 3 years ago. I miss him everyday and just until recently have I been able to even look at his picture with out crying. As I have every reason to distrust humans now; I still choose to see that not all people are bad. You seem like a very kind and good person. I felt compelled to reach out to you and tell you that.

      1. Hi I am 74 years young . Lost my wife to breast cancer long ago . I am living alone but I never feel lonely . I have magic recipes fr bearing loneliness and depression !! The mind can work miracles . I am a happy solo traveller . Been to 60 countries already and now getting ready fr the next one .

      2. That is awesome Clement! I haven’t traveled the world but I am obsessed with these backpackers…trekkers I think you call them. I live vicariously through them I guess you would say. But um…yeah, that sucks so last Thursday I told my kids and my mom that I was leaving to go on a little trip by myself. They were like whaaa? That is because I am always just sitting here, like a rock the way I always have for 23 years. My husband passed away suddenly two and a half years ago and I’m not going to lie…it totally sucks sometimes. I started looking around about two weeks ago and noticed ok, my son is not coming back from the dorm next summer because he got an apartment and my youngest daughter finally got her own place with her 3 kids so she won’t be moving back here either. My oldest two won’t be moving in either so here I am in a 4 bedroom 2 bath mobile home for the last 23 years with my two aging dogs. I asked my family to come and check on the dogs while I left. I didn’t really go far…only from the DFW area to Corpus Christie and while down there an evening trip to Port Aransas. Thing is…it was very spontaneous. When I left I had no clue which highway I was getting on or which state I was heading to…I guess I chose Chisholm Trail. When I drove into Corpus I literally landed the very last room in this really cool motel right on the beach…how did that even happen? It was the cheapest too! I stayed three nights and it was just right…then I headed back. I have had a rough time this month because it included a grief trigger. August 8 would have been my husband’s 54th birthday, so yeah…there was that. I read a man’s comment above that he kept the ashes of his late wife in the home to discourage him from bringing another woman in the home. I have felt that way too because I keep my late husband’s ashes on the bookshelf. It sometimes feels quite invasive but other times not so much. I am 57 years old and the word dating hasn’t even come to mind…do they do that? It is so true that when we lose a spouse that love doesn’t just stop. We stop. The world keeps spinning and we are stuck dead in our tracks or so it seems until things start to get a little better. I have a feeling by the anniversary of year three things will start looking up, or so I hope. I have a shit ton of health issues and take a lot of meds :/ and I have to now take care of all house repairs, water leaks, mowing the lawn, taking care of the dog pads…but I do other things also that help me to feel young. Shoot, I play Minecraft and Terraria. My grandkids think I’m cool because I literally ran a Minecraft Server for young kids for 6 years. It’s still open but I sold it to a younger kid. Another thing I do every single day is read the news or general articles or watch youtube videos. I absolutely have a yearning to learn. I was getting gray on top so I bought hair dye and got me some new hoop earrings..who knows maybe I’ll even put my makeup on again really soon :) When there is breath, there is life my peeps…don’t you forget that…hang in there and Godspeed on your journey to find your inner peace. P.S. I have never really kept friends all throughout my life maybe because I didn’t know how…I wasn’t a good friend, it was always the other person that was the friend, I know I suck. I guess in a way I am kinda a loner and I am supposing that is a good thing right about now in this part of my life. Oh I binge watch shows and heck, I even watch anime with my son…or I used to before he turned 20 and got too old :)) Oh and I love rock and rock…the old stuff, the new stuff and everything in between. I love dubstep and showgazing and dream pop music too……I guess now you understand when I looked at my local rec center for senior activities and it said walk and talk and devotional singing….I took a pass lol…it is kinda disconcerting really because I know I don’t fit in for my age…maybe it’s genetic, my mother is gonna be 77 next month and sometimes she behaves like she’s 25, haha…Anyway, I really wish yall the best…

    5. I’m not sure who I’m writing. I read your message and I really like what you wrote. So much like myself. I would like you to be my friend. If you reply I will tell you more about myself.
      Thank you Cheryl, Hope to here from you.It would be wonderful to have someone to write that understands my lonelyness. Bye for now.

    6. I am very sorry to hear all that you have gone through all by yourself. I pray the good Lord help and support you. My name is Robert and I will like to be friend with you if you dont mind..

      1. Hello Robert I found you on this website you sound like a wonderful person my name is Kathy would love to have a penpal somebody to chat with I’ve been divorced for a year my husband moved on with another woman I don’t feel bitter as long as he’s happy that’s good enough for me some days I feel very lonely wish I had someone to talk to I do have children but they seem to be very busy and I don’t like to put a lot of pressure on their busy lives if you would like to have a penpal I would enjoy chatting with you

    7. I’m sad to think what your going through . I honestly can not come too terms their are people with no one . Yes no fam , no kids , but not a sole to call a friend . I don’t know where you are but I’d be their for you . But saying that you may cast me aside , as I’m a transsexual old lady , but I’ve a heart & feelings . Yes I’m lonely but not a monster .

    8. Hi Lori,

      I am a 64 year young lady who lives alone. I have been divorced for 20 years and enjoyed being alone. Then my parents got sick and I spent the last 8 yrs taking care of them until they passed. Now, I am missing the company. My two dearest friends passed away a couple years ago. We had all these plans to go places and do things together once we were retired. I retired in 2018, so immediately signed up for classes at the senior center to keep busy. Evening and nights are still tough. I find it hard to do things solo, but my goal is to get over it. I hope you do try yoga. It helps me so much. I went to a seminar about PRP and stem cell injections for the knees. People raving about the results as an alternative to replacement. I hope you get a cat. Animals are a lot of company. I live in a complex that doesn’t allow pets. If you ever want a pen pal or a shoulder… I am here! CJ Portland Oregon

    9. Im in a relationship…but he had a brain bleed. A couple of years ago.. He is not the same !!! Its like I am by myself !!! And i have a brother and sister-in..and 1 nephew he is married.. To a uncaring person. They all live far from me now. So I am alone…my mom and dad are gone… Miss them terrible !!! It seems my life is SO lonely.

    10. Hi Lori, I will be an email friend! I hope you get another kitty. I have two dogs. My 15 year old dog died last year and almost killed me, so I got a puppy again right away and it helped alot, even though he is soooo much work!! I am 58, widow, had a stroke last year but still am functional and work full time as a paralegal. That helps me not get depressed. I live alone but don’t really mind it, though sometimes on Sunday I get a little lonely. My animals help. I wish you well. Take care.

  11. Hope everybody had a nice day My name is Susan I am 67 in NC I adopted 2 cats 4 years ago. My boy died less than a month ago, if not for my girl I do not know what i would do. I have one best friend who is now in Florida. I am from New York City originally. I just want a friend I was thinking of a room i turned into a computer room back to a bedroom and look for somebody to share it with. Golden Girls 2 where are you lol. I spend a lot of time on facebook. Just found this blog tonight


    1. Hello Susan,
      So, so sorry for your loss. Quite a void. Laid my 16y old chihuahua to rest 1/2018 and not completely over the loss. A family member he was and boy, do the years go by f-a-s-t!!!
      Was medical for years, like y-e-a-r-sss and how I enjoy the peace and quiet that retirement brings. Adopted a senior chihuahua, age 10y and have had him since 1/2019. A house is not a home unless a pet resides in it. My philosophy !.
      In short, may sound funny, but I was an only child and now age 69y. Grew up with older parents and their older circle. i am alone but not lonely, the day is so, so short. From early morning, preparing for the day, walking my darling pet, walking club, gardening club, reading-news of the world and so on. I have a small circle of friends, we gather X1 week, they are all seniors with their own situations and so it goes. How I see it……..One can be as alone OR lonely as one wants to be. All how one VIEWS their situation. By taking an active interest around me, I have no time for loneliness…Just my input and I wish you well…
      Whiterock, BC

      1. I live in Northeast Georgia. I have one female furry friend inside. And when were baby on the outside. It gets lonely I am 66 years old. And although I have a daughter and two grandchildren and a son-in-law that lives not very far away that you’re always busy. I would also like to chat.I think of so many things I would like to talk about two people but just have to hold it in.

      2. Oh my. I have been alone since 1987. zip for family and I am older than you are . Last thing I want is a man around!
        Best friends died a year apart.

    2. Hi Susan! Sorry for your loss; it sounds like a good idea for revamping a spare room., but Id stick with local thru a church perhaps. Just be careful. I moved to Florida from Long Island NY years ago, just quit f/t job, have typical aches & pains., If you want to rsvp me, Im in same pattern as you but 69. Eileen

      1. Hi Susan! Sorry for your loss; it sounds like a good idea for revamping a spare room., but Id stick with local thru a church perhaps. Just be careful. I moved to Florida from Long Island NY years

    3. Hi Susan,
      I’m live near Charlotte. I am alone as well. I honestly don’t mind living alone. I just need to find some friends. I’m from Massachusetts. I have lived here for 3 years and I haven’t found any meaningful friendships. I can easily talk to people at the park and they sit and talk to me but nothing ever comes of it. I never run into them again. There are women my age where I live but they never seem to want to do anything but talk about others. I’m just not into that. I would love to meet a few friends I can get together with and becomes close friends to do things with. I’ve joined a few groups but they mostly go out at night and I don’t drive at night where I don’t know where I’m going. My eyes are just not what they use to be. I love to go out to eat lunch, go to the movies, go to festivals or just about anything. Everything is fun when you have someone to share things with. Please let me know where you are in NC. Perhaps we can meet and get to know each other. Good luck meeting others


      1. Hi Susan…Where in MA are you. I’m in CT east of Hartford. Good movies coming up. Maybe we could meet halfway. I’m a retired social worker…78 1/2…single for 40 years .


      2. Dear Kristina,
        You sound SOOOO much like me! I am friendly and often chat with others but I seldom see them again. In senior housing they do nothing but complain about others in the building and, when I don’t take sides, I become the target of harassment. I feel like I am in grade school, lol. I hope to find friends outside my housing. I still want to see and try new things. I am a “daytime” person and prefer to be home after dark.
        It is definitely more fun with a friend. I went to see the Thunderbirds alone but to not have someone to share the excitement with, it wasn’t the same.
        I hope you find a friend, Kristina, and all others in search of friendships as well.

        Hugs from VT

      3. Hello I just found this group. I am 73, my husband died in December and although I have sons and grandchildren they hardly ever come to see me. I live in a studio apt. next to my sister who is younger than me and has her own life. I am OK during the day but at night I feel so lonely, miss my husband and my 2 very good friends are sick with cancer. I have other friends but they are younger, still working and married. I find myself feeling sick because I feel old and isolated and lack the motivation to go out by myself and do anything.
        I live in Miami Florida and I have not found a group near me to meet sometimes or go to lunch with, people are too busy or they have their family life and their own friends.
        Anyway, I wish you all a good night and if you want to write to me I will like that.
        I was told by a friend to join a dating app for seniors,but I do not feel ready to go on dates, I just want some company someone to share going to the beach or having dinner together, so hard to find people that share the same interests.

      4. Hello I just found this group. I am 73, my husband died in December and although I have sons and grandchildren they hardly ever come to see me. I live in a studio apt. next to my sister who is younger than me and has her own life. I am OK during the day but at

      5. I Live in nmb with family my daughter son in law 3 grand children. Who are grown up. I use a walker and can’t drive. At moment I have old car I dealing with health problems My family works Or go to college. I have no friends living in nmb area. I’m very lonley for friend ship.

    4. Hi Susan,
      I, too, live in North Carolina. I’m wondering if it’s Charlotte or Raleigh area. I am in the Charlotte area. I became an empty nester at the precise time as my long and painful and drawn out divorce ensued.

      And, yes, I’m very lonely. I lived alone for three years and the loneliness became in bearable. I recently moved back to my hometown and my two daughters live close by. It is better that I move back home and I’m not as lonely as I was. Before it was all crushing because I lived in Florida with absolutely no relatives in town. This is a better situation but I’m still very lonely. And not necessarily for a husband though that would be nice too.

      Feel free to contact me. I’d love some new friends.

      1. Hi I’m in Texas. Have one daughter and an older sister. I work but have literally no friends anymore. Used to in my younger days but I guess took the friendships for granted and lost them. By the time I woke up and tried to reconnect, it was too late. I long for the intimacy of a good friendship. Someone to talk to on a deep level. Someone to laugh spontaneously with. I’ve tried a few “dating” sites with no intention of really dating. Just looking for a real friend. Not a great experience

      2. Hi Peony,

        I saw your post. I too, am alone. I moved to Texas to stay warm. I have a 4 bedroom, 3 bath townhome because I wanted to start a Golden Girls 2 thing. But haven’t been able to find anyone who is looking for that. Everyone either has a family or a house and doesn’t want to move. It is a beautiful luxury community, but people just drive into their garages and don’t come out until they need to go somewhere. I really hate the loneliness sometimes!
        I can still go places but just can’t find anyone wanting to be a Golden Girl. If there is anyone out there interested, please reply. I saw that you are in Texas. If anyone is planning a trip to the Dallas area and needs a place to stay, reply. You will be more than welcome! Also if anyone just wants someone to talk to, maybe we could exchange phone numbers. I’m not real fast on the keyboard and takes so darn long to write a darn post!

    5. Hi Susan : just felt the need to respond as some one who truly relates to lonely. I have family and thank my god every day for the blessings that brings; nonetheless, they have busy lives and I don’t want to be a burden to them or make them feel they have to be concerned. Looking for a group to get together or establish similar likes to do things with (let’s face it everything is more fun with someone or s group!). Tho I’m in Maryland one of me daughters is in nc ( married a NC fella) so I get down there often. Maybe we can put our heads together and start a group of like people to just go to the movies or shopping or whatever? A list of folks you can turn to fir support to hang out or just talk to for some people. Today’s lifestyle of mobile has made past relationships be scattered and threadbare…not as in days past where people stayed more in one place. If you need someone to just chat or if interested in firming s group of some sort since I’m just now throwing this idea out there let me know. If anyone knows of groups such as this fill us in! Still work but that still leaves time to play if not too expensive lol! Cards and games and hikes are FREE! Ginger

      1. Elaine,
        I am in Texas also, and like everyone else here I am looking to make friends and alleviate some of the loneliness…where about in Texas are you? I am living and working in Arlington right now but looking for work in the North Dallas area so I can move back there because it is an hour away.

      2. Hi Elaine and Tina-Marie,

        I live in the North Dallas area also. It would be great if some of us could connect and play cards, go out to dinner or just explore. I drive and could even pick someone up.
        I’m 63 and already retired with a lot of time on my hands and nobody around that really wants to do anything’. Mostly all the people I have met have families, etc.
        Email or reply if anyone is interested! I am female, as well.

        Thanks for reading and God Bless Everyone!

  12. I am a 70yr old man looking for a pen pal or someone to tex or talk to on the phone. I don’t drive sence a couple of mounted ago I todaled my car do to curcomstances I can’t get into know. I live with my daughter and. son-inlaw I can get around pretty good. My hobbies is working with wood tree ornaments, funeture and small things out of wood. . I like to travel but l don’t drive. I am religesous but not a fanatic. I love my grandchildren and great grandchildren. I hope I hear something it gets lonely around this house during the day by my self.

      1. Hi I am 67 years of age and although married it is non communicative and deeply lonely, I crave for the friendship of a lady in a similar state, purely for friendship, and social .
        I enjoy cycling and walking and am very active,,

      2. Gordon,
        I am 65 years old and maybe in a similar situation. I am not deeply lonely or craving female friendship, but do have a non communicative and lonely marriage of over 20 years. Yesterday I biked 35 miles and today I am getting ready to run five miles.

        I wonder how you are doing with your search? I am interested in talking to men about working to improve our enjoyment of life. So, maybe we can help each other. I might have some decent feedback about your efforts. And you might suggest where I look to find all the old men who are still making the effort to do new things.

        My wife and I live like college room mates that are sick of each other and can’t get out of their one year lease.

      3. Looking for a pen pal for my 65 year old grandma. She’s disabled, doesn’t drive, and is lonely. Ideally, she would love to speak to someone who is also Christian as religion is very important to her and maybe knows how to use FaceTime so you can chat face to face.

      4. I am 67 years Old from Canada. Get your grandma to reach me via my email
        I need a lady pen pal to lessen the loneliness that aging brings.

      5. Ii am 66 years recovering from the loss of my 45 year old son 2 years ago. My only daughter lives out of state. I used to live with her and her children. I miss that. My life partner of 30 years also lives out of state. He is younger than me and no longer interested in a relationship because, due to serious health issues, I can no longer be physically intimate. I miss the closeness of someone special. I miss my fAmily. I have one friend who is married. We meet for coffee every morning, but after 2 years I don’t feel any closer to her than when we first met. I try to keep busy, I have many hobbies and interests, but I cannot travel far because of my health. I’m not very active and I am very lonely. I love my Chiweeny, but he’s not a male companion in the normal since. I hope I’m needed by someone out there.

      6. Gordon I don’t mind talking. My husband died of cancer. Very fit women slim and look young for my age (as everyone says). I really need to talk

      7. Hello Dianne. Just curious of what you decided to do as I myself am in similar situation, no family wanting to move. Not sure where to . Being alone and lonely are two different things, for sure. Take care

      8. Hello Dianne , And to all who are feeeling lonely as I. I have been on my own mostly all my life , only child, family died young. After Ex abused me I moved to the south, Georgia to be exact, I’m from Massachusetts, so the south is not my cup of tea as they say. Hard to make any friends most everyone married, and in their own world. I keep busy , right now trying to find a place to move to , as it’s so very hard on your own to live on one income, and I’d like to be north of here. There are no friends to be had in this town. I do work part time at home from computer, and work with animals but still I am lonely , no one to talk to although I do talk to God, hoping he will show me the way. Where to go , what my purpose is. It’s hard when you don’t have a soul to talk over things with.I am not feeling sorry for myself as others have it much worse I have 2 arms 2 legs am 62 and I feel lost. I try to find a way to help others everyday even though I may not have much, trying to follow God’s road, to lead me to mine. Anyway, if anyone wants to talk I am here . Take care everyone.

      9. DianeI read your message I too feel lonely sometime would love to chat with you I live in Michigan but I would like to have a penpal if you’re interested

      10. I used to feel the same! Happily divorced for many years and love being single but did not like living alone per say so i opted for a roommate and love it!!!

      11. I am a woman looking for a companion been widowed since 1982. I was left with four children who are grown up. Am very lonely need someone to talk and be with till death do us part. Am a church goer.

      12. Hi Dwight, Feel free to text me, I am always home, I am 73 and lonely for conversation and company.

    1. Hi my name is Di. I am severe arthritis and do not leave the house much. I carve in wood and make my own things also. Last thing I made was a sculptured dragon……wingspan 3 feet ….everyone says it looks like it came from the HBO show. I am good but super slow due to arthritis in my hands. I sell my work whenever I can. I live in Hawaii and do not travel due to back issues. I live alone, so always fixing broken things. I get lonely also….it is hard not having someone to discuss things with….as most people have no idea what it is like to be alone. My friends are all dead, died young….so I miss the support. Family and friend in the mainland are too busy to even talk. Get to see children and grandchildren but they are also so busy with sports and life….it is rare to see to them. My hobbies are all kinds of art, exotic garden design, pet cats…reading books….plus a few other things. I am 63.

      1. I am75 and really lonely I substitute in schools I tutor in the afternoon I have my grandson and a great great granddaughter close by my children but I’m still lonely and miss the communication of a man in my life I would like to find someone who just wants to talk and share things someone who is this lonely as I am for adult conversation and also to share daily things with I love to share things about my grandchildren and my great grandchildren and my children I’m as active as you can be but I still miss you so much this one on one communication with another adult I’m a normal human being a normal woman who just likes the simple things in life

      2. I’m Barry, This 21st. of June I turn 75. As yourself, I am handicapped to the degree I can walk only short distances, and typing goes slowly for myself as well. I paint. Watercolor,pastel, ink etc. May we speak further?

      3. Di,
        Wow – I am 63, have severe arthritis; live alone with my 2 yr old Zoe. (Female puppy). My favorite thing in the world is to keep my hands in the dirt. I plant and maintain as many plants as I can take care of. I love to watch them bloom, see them grow. I love cactus and succulents as well. Gardening and being in the yard is the best medicine for me. I stay home most of the time because of the arthritis but, I would love to learn to sculpture, paint furniture , make jewelry – so many things that you could enjoy doing at home.
        I have never thought about carving. That is such a great way to display your artful abilities.
        With all of the things that I want to do and learn to do I am in pain quite often from my the arthritis in my knees. There are times when it does get bad, but I just try to take good care of myself and carry on.
        Well. Maybe we can become pen pals. I am very lonely and halved alone for 5 yrs now. I did not expect my Phase Iii life to be like it has been so far, but I really want to improve the quality of it.

        Kathy Turner

    2. Dwight Ries:

      Where do you live? My home is Charlotte, NC. I read your message with interest because I’m a man in 70’s who seeks a friend who would be a co-equal sort of person. I live alone and drive.


      1. Hi Chris,
        My name is Kristina I live near Charlotte, Are you interested in friends who are female? If so perhaps we can get to know each other. I just turned 68,


    3. It does for some. For many. I used to work with the elderly, and now I’m one. Never thought I’d be one who is so discounted for intelligence and wisdom merely because of my age. Now I’m like a ghost, a nice old lady that ceases to exist once out of sight….in businesses, by politicians, or in church. We are not all the same, and I find nothing stimulating or satisfying about being at a senior citizen gathering of people I have nothing in common with except that we are all old. I do not want to sit and talk about aches and pains and the past, cards and board games bore me. My only intellectual stimulation is online research about a lot of topics, and social media where I get into deep discussions on my Christian faith, politics, important world events. Of course, I don’t list my age, because then I’m more likely to be less sought after for discourse. If the president of the United States can be so productive, intelligent, energetic, at 72, why do people assume the rest of us aren’t?

      1. 5;28 am. Yhats says a lot right there. I stay up late and i have to force myself to start winding down from whatever im into at abot 3 am. Usually cant though. I compose or arrange music and send it to an agency looking for background or film music. It keeps me busy, bur some days im just not into it.
        Ive got things to say too and im not amused at age descrimination ven though I have done it myself
        Getting sick of the lies and false politics and illogical thinking in politics. Seems like pople want to talk about the same irrelevant crap every day. Theres things going on in the world too that we just plain dont hear about anymore.
        Seems like only adversity makes people think outside themselves.
        Do i sound negative? I am and I mean it!

      2. I understand. I am only 69 but find most my age whine about aches and pains and “what am I going to do” topics. It can be quite distressing. Been divorced for over 25 years and live alone and keep active by volunteering with people that are as active as I am.

      3. Good morning Ginger,
        Found this post by accident. Don’t know if you are interested in e-mailing back and forth. Yes, my interests are so all over the planet. They never stay the same and my drive and curiosity never cease.
        Would love to hear from you.
        Respectfully, Regine

    4. I’m 78 and live alone in Portugal. Originally I’m from the UK but moved to Portugal 12 years ago.
      I have two daughters, 5 grandchildren and 3 Great Grandchildren.
      Would you like to chat with me?

      1. I want to read f2f more
        I want to read more.
        I wouldD
        like to talk to you.This site keeps knocking me off.

    5. I am shocked at how many people on this site are lonely and sound like reasonable people. Maybe everyone should find some way to contribute to society and stop worrying about being “alone” and lonely. Volunteer at some task you are actually interested in and everything will work out. I was in the library recently and met a man who was shelving the books that had been returned that day. I started the conversation and he told me that he was a widower who had no intention of sitting around at home feeling sorry for himself. I asked what else he did with his spare time. He volunteered at the local school to help those whose language was not English. He helped kids learn and he told me he thought they were hopeful for their American futures. I started the conversation. If I had not I would never have found out what this man was doing. Maybe that’s the answer. Get out of yourself and see who is out there, what he/she is doing with this precious gift of life and try to connect with those who share your interests. If you have no interests, it’s time to discover some.
      I am a 79 year old woman who has been a widow for almost five years. The only time I have ever felt lonely was when I was in second grade and my father died in front of my sister and me of a ruptured brain aneurysm. I. have more interests than I can actively manage. If that is the key to not being lonely, it is also an answer for many. of you who feel so alone. It is so important to get out of yourself. Surely, someone can benefit from what you have experienced and learned in your long life.

      1. I applaud you! I will be 77 on Feb 3rd, 2020. It appears as though you have figured out how to conquer the pitfalls of age! WAY TO GO, GIRL!! I send you best wishes and may all your dreams be lovely and positive. With much love and hope for your future, I send all good vibes for your future.

    6. Oi am 75 and not needed. Spent life raising four on my own then dads ca then bro emphysema then mom passed. I have never not needed to do or be somewhere. I am lost. My adult kids ass ume a lot due to the n u m b e r of my age. I live alone, bus everywhere. Am an introvert which no one believes….I am today lost. Need to lose weight, exercise, walk….but my butt is glue and days fly by. Oh it’s Friday again. I live in a 62 plus community have been around it since 1998 when I moved muy mother in….everyday with 200 apts 62 plus someone else fails one way or another…I fear new close friends and the loss. I am very blessed to be capable and basically healthy and ashamed I just sit. Which is more weight. Need a life!

    7. I just had a senior moment,I pushed the wrong button and wiped everything I had texted out. For those seasoned saints,age cannot be the variable to believing life is over. We love and we commit and we pray our future blossoms. When something changes,the commitment you entered didn’t stop and people fall out of bed,chairs and trucks not love. Marriage is sacred. If you have no idea why you have stopped being in love,check whether you ever really were committed.
      Each note I read was filled with much just living to know your value,if anyone cares,if you matter. We,at our age need to be the examples for the younger generation of those who think only about themselves. I’m certain none of us were born with a silver spoon,so life has no obligation to provide anything but the raw materials for us to decide we no longer will sit friendless,instead with the pain you’ve suffered,life experience you’ve lived…become someone’s hero. You do crafts,begin doing anything for a charity for children’s hospital,find a library read or mentor those who can’t read. Just because it seems as though the world could care less,shake off the lethargy and become someone’s hero. If you don’t think I speak truth ,take a look around. How many people do you see homeless,younger than you. There’s so much you can do besides focusing on what you don’t have…learn gratitude…learn whether you love or simply lust? Love commits lust leaves when the thrill is gone. We are filled with wonderful untapped potential to share,don’t withhold information from the younger generations that can’t seem to understand what it means to be consistent & considerate. If you are not an example,how will those who need to know learn? Living out your core values shows people that you truly are real,what you say is important and when your actions show what is in your heart words become unnecessary.

    8. Hi Dwight my name is Kathy I understand it when you say that it’s awful lonely around your house during the day I to live with my son and his two children since his wife left him but I still feel very lonely they all have very full lives would you like a penpal I would love to chat with you

  13. I am retired, in my 70’s, healthy and active but feeling very much alone in my senior years. Love to be around people but find lots of phoniness these days like older people, especially, seem unwilling or unable to just be who they are, warts and all. It took some work but I now like myself well enough (don’t think I’m flawless but like who I am). Got myself stranded out west (Ca.) having moved around some (my home town is Philly, Pa.), married and divorced in Ca., but am resigned to staying here now. My daughter is here so love to be nearby.

    I would love to hear from someone who also feels lonely and who has little or no family to enjoy holidays, etc. with. Holidays are the most painful for me as I love family stuff but have had very little of family closeness. My daughter is fine (we like each other) but she and I don’t have many interests in common. I don’t get to see my best friend anymore as she lives in Florida. The phone is my main source of communication with a few relatives and friends (east coast mostly) and though I do mix with people at church, Bible studies, and art “clubs” (H.B. Art Foundation), I have no local significant friend (to just go for coffee, lunch, shop, talk, encourage each other, for instance) so feel pretty unspecial to anyone in Ca.

    I love animals (especially horses – I am an equine artist), the out-of-doors (especially camping), just plain “hanging out”, games, Vegas, and people in general. If there is anyone who would like to do e-mail, write letters, or phone calls (maybe later), please answer this blog.

    1. Hi Claire, I am in my 70’s as well & have a horse ( had 2 for many years , had to put her down @ 35 yrs of age ). I have a small farm here in NC . I am very active as well, always a social person but since I have retired feeling lonely & you are so right in saying how hard it is to meet quality people. Accidentally stumbled across this website ( not lookin for such ) & saw your blog. My home state is NJ ( on the shore )… not having any success in sending you this message !

      1. Hi Molly – I hope I am doing this right and you are getting my reply to your message to me. I don’t get on the computer every day, sometimes 1 – 2 weeks, hence, this pokey answer. How fortunate that you have a horse – I am a lifetime horse-lover but being a city girl, never had one of my own. I did, happily, get to help train two thoroughbreds in Va. with my horsewoman friend (she taught ME along with the horses). Loved it.

        How do you spend your days? With a ranch, I assume you might have other animals besides your horse. I love all animals, have always had more than one pet (mostly cats) but put my last cat down last year (cried a lot for awhile and still miss her). Now it’s really quiet at home but likely won’t get any more. Do you have family nearby? Kids? I just hope this gets to you – I am not very proficient on the computer.

      2. Hi Molly – thought I sent you an answer but will try again. (my capital letter button does not always work correctly) and I am not always sure my messages go through either. I’m retired, too, and have volunteered (helped out at three horse rescue stables and loved every minute). was glad to see you have a horse. sorry about your one horse being put down – I hate it when I lose an animal friend. they can be your best friends sometimes. (I just put down my last cat after years of cats (always more than one – up to four) I am from Philly and spent many weekends on the Jersey shore (barnegat Light for one). Love the Jersey shore.

        I am kind of stuck out here (Ca.) – long, boring story – been here since about ’68. was married here, divorced, with one child, a daughter who lives about 6 miles from me. she is lonely herself, sometimes, as she is also divorced with no kids. I do live alone and don’t mind so much but love to be around people, too. I make myself at least have some acquaintances but most don’t seem to have any interest in making new friends. a lot of people here (espec. older people) seem to have their support systems of family and friends set up and really don’t need or want to make an effort to include anyone else tho’ on the surface they are nice enough.

        I hope you don’t think I abandoned you and that you will write back. It’s a shame people don’t write letters anymore as it was always a good feeling to hear from people thru the mail. tell me about yourself – N.J., your farm, family, if any, what you like to do, etc., especially your horses. I am an equine artist and love to produce a beautiful horse on canvas. claire

      3. Hi Claire ! I wrote you an informative blog but as I sent it my power went off & lost it . Crazy thing to happen …. this was today ( maybe did go thru, just don’t see it ) I’ll wait to see if indeed it went thru, if not I’ll sent you another one ! SORRY for the delay ( explained in my blog ) hope this finds you ! regards, Molly

      4. Hello Claire ! I just saw my message on your blog ( they have gotten faster on getting messages thru ) ☺️ That’s a good thing ! Before it took several days. Oh well, I want to thank you for being so persistent in your efforts to get a message to me .. I had checked for a response several times then just got busy here on my property ( growing season started a little early this spring ) today checked & saw your messages to me. It’s a small world, I was married in philly ( many moons ago ) the good thing was my son from that marriage however the marriage didn’t go the distance. I love where I’m from just can’t afford property there ( prices & taxes ) crazy. My sister lives in cape May & loves it . Really enjoy the seaside towns ( great memories ). I have lived on this property close to 18 yrs. brought with me 2 horses a dog & a cat ( which 1 horse is still with me ) 32 year old Arabian ( still beautiful as ever & spunky ). While on this property I have adopted 3 dogs & 3 cats. Still with me my dog of 6yrs old & my cat of 17 yrs old. Precious are both ! I’m at peace with the passing of each one ( they had great lives here on the farm. You have a talent I always wish I had, your an artist ( has to be wonderful & fulfilling ). You had mentioned writing letters, yes it’s a lost art ( always nice to get the mail with a HANDWRITTEN letter waiting to be read ). I can’t complain I have a good life but does sometimes get lonely ( even tho I keep pretty busy ). My knowledge on the computer is not the best, my go to guy is my grandson almost 9 yrs old . My son & his family live minutes away ( but have such busy lives ) . Today life is more complicated for young families then when I was raising my son. I’m jumping around with my message, trying to answer your questions & tell you a little about myself. This morning I had written a message that was in order but it didn’t go thru. I apoligze if this message is hard to follow. I’m going to say goodnight now & hope to hear from you !

      5. I am new to this site. I am responding to Molly from NC .IBefore I write more, let me know where this note will end and to whom. Thanks. Faye

      6. Hi Faye, this is Molly & yes I did receive your blog, thanks & looking forward to hearing from you !

    2. Claire,

      I can relate to Holidays. I have no family. The friends I do have are all male, I worked in a male dominated industry. They are married, so I cannot call them up and ask them to a movie or to go somewhere for a long weekend.

      I have done all I can think of to move forward, although this is not positive,it is truth….” each day is simply a duplication fro the one before.” I remember joy, happiness, friends. For me it is not worth existing, all people need to live, have life. We all need a sense of community, purpose and feel we our loved, cared about. I have none of this. I go out everyday, I volunteer, but it is not fulfilling. I do wonder if I will be here tomorrow. I do not mind being alone, I mind the lonliness.

      Please write back if you feel like it. I wish you well.


      1. Hi Karen – It was good to hear from you. You and I seem to have a lot in common. I think of myself as very normal with normal human yearnings as in love and respect from others – family and friends, especially. without it (my capital letter button does not always work) life can be pretty dull even though you love some things about it (horses, for one for me). I was raised in a pretty normal family, a middle child – only girl of three kids and I understand my dad really wanted a girl when I was born (they had a family party for me at birth) but, for some reason, both parents (espec. my mom) never really “talked” to me (no interest in my grades at school, no compliments, encouragement, didn’t teach me how to do anything, for instance – they just didn’t talk to me other than rudimentary small talk). I won’t bore you with much else here, but emotionally, I was starving. Other relatives the same; it’s like I really didn’t have a family at all. some lady above said why do parents want and have children if they don’t want to nourish them and care for them. I asked that very question many times.

        I got kind of stuck out here; california (long boring story) – I do have one child – a daughter who lives six miles away. she is also somewhat alone (she has some friends having been raised here but is currently divorced with no kids. I love her but we have little to no interests in common.

        I’d love to hear more about your own life. I hope you will write back again. If you just wanna write for a while, that’s fine. I’m a little on the shy side, at least at first. I do understand your loneliness quite well, Karen, and I hope you will write back when you get a chance. i hope you will tell me more about yourself, your past, home town, interests. claire

      2. Dear Karen,

        I am 65 year old man interested in strengthening my mental health and helping others to find more interest in their lives. I am looking for groups on social media to participate in.

        I am married twenty plus years. We live together kind of like college room mates that are sick of each other and still have six months on our lease. I rode my bike 30 miles yesterday, and am getting ready after writing this to run five miles. In the Spring and Fall I have been section hiking alone on the Appalachian Trail. My hips and knees may not carry me to many more years at such activities.

        Where are older people on social media conversing about staying active, motivated, and helping each other with encouragement and understanding?

      3. Hi Karen
        I m married to an American soldier im originally from Germany . We moved around a lot but I’m still very lonely and feel isolated . I don’t fit in no matter what I do . I don’t have the same interest like my husband it makes life more complicated . What im trying to say is married life can be very lonesome and boring . I wish many times I would be alone but can only imagine what it would be like . Elisabeth

      4. Hi Daniel I am a 67 year old widow from California. My husband passed away about a year ago. Its not fun and I do volunteer. Would love someone to talk to we just need to be honest with one another and no games. Does that sound good? I just found this today I don’t know how long your post has been up if you already have alot of friends I will understand. Thank you for your time. Chris

      5. New here. I’m so relating to many of these stories, saddens me. I’m a 70 year old male, from NY. I have been in a eight relationship with who I thought was my dream lady. Unfortunately, I was blinded by the light. She has left me, obviously didn’t want to deal with my blood cancer diagnosis. I’m now alone, and getting treatment, Very hard and depressing. Prognosis is very good for remission, but some side effects. Every day a bit of challenge. I’ve always been active, long time runner, amongst other sports. Even with treatment I do power walking and some yoga. But still a tremendous void, which is sort of downward spiral. I try church helps somewhat. Not looking for a relationship necessarily, but if one came my way, I’d be ok. But friendship is paramount. Thanks to anyone who reads this

      6. Hey George,
        I am a woman, not much younger than you, living in NYC.
        I just accidentally came upon this website, so not sure how it works.

        Would be interested in corresponding through email,
        or by phone, with you. Interested in possible friendship if you are. I have interest in many things and enjoy meeting people.

        You are lucky in that, if you had to get cancer at all, you got a type that carries a good prognosis. Meeting new friends thru this website (including myself?) might be a welcome distraction for you. Hope to hear from you, Christine

  14. i am 60m and was born and live in Costa Rica. I have lots of friends, but, the more the merrier!!! I have twin grand-daughters and people often think they are my daughters!! Love working out and reading!

  15. Feminism has really destroyed many of us good single young men looking for a good woman to settle down with. And now unfortunately since so many of these women are very high maintenance, independent, very greedy, selfish, spoiled, picky, narcissists, feminists, and very money hungry, which certainly has a lot to do with it why so many of us men are still single today as i speak. The women today are really to blame for this mess since the great majority of the women back in the old days were certainly Real Ladies with very good manners and a good personality which they Don’t have today at all. And since i know friends that are having the very same problem today as well, which they really do feel as bad as me since we never ever expected to be single this long either. And now you have the women that have their Careers which they really think their God’s gift to men with their six figure salary which makes it even worse for many of us very serious men looking for love today. And i wish that i could have been born in the good old days which i definitely would have met a real very nice woman since even i myself would have been all settled down by now with my own good wife and family today as i speak, instead of still being single and all alone now which my friends that i know really agree with me as well. And being single and alone all the time can really be very unhealthy and depressing as well. Very obvious why married men live longer.

    1. Hi, I’m a 64 year old woman and I completely agree with what you wrote here. Feminism has turned this country upside down! AND, it’s the MEN being blamed:/ There are those who want a genderless society, but both God and Science show male and female differences and it was supposed to be ‘good’! The sexes were supposed to compliment each other’s differences. Only women can bear children. Only women lactate and can nurse their babies. As a former teacher, I have seen what having no one at home to raise children has done to society. Other people are raising these children. No one will ever love another’s child like a parent . You didn’t ask for suggestions, but if you practice a religion, maybe a singles group? Although, religion doesn’t always guarantee a successful marriage there might be a chance for you to find a denomination where gender roles are encouraged and appreciated for what they were intended., to support and uphold one another and make strong family units. For those people who want to raise their children ‘gender free’ they obviously did NOT study Biology 101. Both women and men can bring their special and unique qualities to the marriage. My daughter is a stay at home mom and she frequently is met with hostility because of not having a ‘job’. The most important job on this planet is the raising of one’s children! I feel for you and hear your frustration. My prayers are with you. Persist and don’t give up hope!

      1. You are ill informed. My prayers are that you accept changes in the world and mind your own business about the choices of people different from you.

      2. Hi Patrica, i made this comment about two months ago which what i have said was the truth. Most women today have very high standards, and they will usually go with men that have a lot of money which makes them real gold diggers to begin with. And they just can’t accept many of us good single men for who we really are since it is all about money for these type of women unfortunately. Women are age are a real joke nowadays, and to think how very different that most women were back in the old days since they were the very complete opposite of today, and most women were real ladies as well at that time. Just saying good morning or hello to a woman that many of us single men would really like too meet has become so very dangerous for many of us men now, and we really have to be very careful of sexual harassment too. And there are times when these very pathetic women will even Curse at us for no reason at all. That is why many of us good single men are just doomed to be single and alone, and the way women have changed today which certainly explains why. It is a real good thing that most women back in the past weren’t like today at all, otherwise this world would’ve never progressed the way that it did over these years very thanks to them. Too bad God didn’t make women today like the past. Well thank you very much for your support. I will never give up. Peace.

      3. Melissa that’s a shame . I’m an amateur futurist and within the next 10 years or so tech may have much better mental health treatments as well as aging process reversal and many other solutions. Why do you think you will always be alone????????

    2. Hi dear, you are so young (just 33 years old), for such a pessimist vision. Look out there still many good girls, who’s isn’t money hungry, narcissist, spoiled, greedy, and many other adjectives you have pointed. Maybe you are looking on the wrong places. For sure if you open your heart and stop generalizing woman, will going to find a real nice girl, and you are going to see her as God send gift to you. Good luck!! Be happy no matter!!

      1. Being alone doesn’t mean a person is lonely, but I desperately am. I’m a senior over 65 no husband or friends. My children are grown and gone. I go days without speaking to people. When I wake up in the mornings sometimes this gloom hits me and I don’t think I can do another day like this. I do get out and go to the YMCA two or three times a week but it’s not enough. I so desperately need someone.

      2. Hi Mailia – I just typed a blog comment on this site and see that you are struggling with lonliness, too, in your senior years. This is Mar. 16 (2019) so if you want to contact me, there is a web site (e-mail address) for you to use. ([email protected]).

        Lonliness is a very painful place to be, especially as we age. Never thought it would be like this. Claire

      3. Mailia,

        You are free to contact me. I feel exactly as you feel. Often it is unbearable. I have never found myself where I am today.

        Take care,


      4. Hi Maili . I recently lost my Mother. I stayed with her a lot, but had to travel back to be with my husband. I understand your loneliness. Text me and let me know how your doing. Rosalie

      5. Patrica, Quite a change today in the women compared to the old days unfortunately. Most women were real ladies back then, and the very complete opposite of today since most of their parents did raise them very well back then. Thank you very much for your support.

  16. I’m 48 with 5 and 7 year old children. I’m lonely, have no friends, or husband. I’m simply waiting for my kids to get out of high school, then I’m checking out. I have no intention of living single, unwanted, and unloved.

    1. You know your name means honey in Greek. I think you’re minutes away from falling in love Mellisa. I really don’t think knocking off is a good idea. I mean, god granted life, and we shouldn’t give it away so easily. I think you’re blessed with children. I always wanted them, but was told I couldn’t make them when I was much younger. What ever poison the doctors and specialists put in my brain, I believed them until I didn’t. No one has allowed me the opportunity to prove them wrong. I’m 55 and if I met the right person, I would be happy to prove I am capable of children. But I don’t think the world is ready for the next christ (born of a man unable to produce). Wasn’t the first one from an immaculate mother. It would make sense to have one from the immaculate father.
      Anyways, don’t give up hope. Love is at your doorstep. Remember to hold onto it when it arrives.

    2. Melissa that’s a shame . I’m an amateur futurist and within the next 10 years or so tech may have much better mental health treatments as well as aging process reversal and many other solutions. Why do you think you will always be alone????????

  17. Hi, I am a 64 year old male. All my kids live in different states. I am working a state different than where I grew up. I do have friends back home. But really none here where I currently live. Which is a small community. So all I do is go to work and go home to an empty place. Day in and day out. It’s getting really old. All my family and friends want me to move back home. I can not afford to live there. As the housing is so expensive. I do have a plan to pay off my vehicles. Then after that I plan on taking the deep sleep. I am that lonely and depressed. Never talked to anyone before about this. Just keeping it to myself. Just wanted to get it off my chest. Not looking for sympathy, help or anything. Just wanted to get what’s bothering me out. Thanks for listening. I’m not posting my real name.

    1. Hi Steve
      I am from India. Are u shocked. I guess I know how u feel . Though I live surrounded by kids and grandkid’s I feel pretty lonely too. I was so busy taking care of my family , I forgot to make friends . Now I feel lonely and I too feel exactly like u . When it’s time to go , it’s time . Until then Steve live yr life to the best .

      1. Hi I was widowed after 45 yrs of marriage . I met a guy 8 month after and fell in love with him . .We were together 4 yrs , he walked out on me and left me totally devastated. I also do not need sympathy . It feels better for me to post my feelings. I am trying to figure out how to cope.

    2. Hello, just want you to know that I read your post and also that I think I understand why you wrote it. While you make money to pay off your vehicles and before you plunge into the big sleep, is there someone you can help? Sometimes a smile or a kind word is enough and there are so many in desperate need of a friendly gesture. May your journey be eased and may you find what you need (even if it’s not what you want). M

    3. Hi Eric:
      I am 74+ and have been in U K for three months and now am off to USA…. to FL!!! I’d love to chat with you!!! Long distance friendships are always great…. just remember we will be 6hours apart time wise!!!! Your 6pm will be my 12 pm….I hate being lonely…. so glad got this site by accident!!!

    4. Hi Steve,

      Don’t know if you will see this since you posted a few months ago. Anyway, how fortunate are you that you have family who care enough about you to suggest you move back home. I only have a son and his wife. They found out that I gambled away most of my inheritance. I have never asked anyone for anything. They say I have been a burden. They want me to move out of state. My heart is broken. My son will help me, but things will never be the same. Please keep in touch with your family. You are blessed!

    5. Hello Steve,

      I read your post and thought,”Gee, that sounds similar to me”. Then I read further about your “solution”. I hope you reconsider and I hope anyone reading this will also reconsider killing themselves.
      I have run up against those same thoughts several times in life. I could never have planned for the type of hurt that I have been subjected to living this life, things for sure have not turned out as planned. The one thing that has gotten me through the bad places is the thought that Tomorrow is always another day. Not the day I am living right now but another day.
      I am struck by how familiar most folks thoughts, feeling, experiences are to mine. We all stand here with an the understanding of our mortality and fragility of our situations. I will try to bear this in mind in the future and try not to be judgemental.
      Obviously I am lonely also but more so I feel foolish and at times regretful. All I ever wanted to be was a husband and a father. After early dissolution I got sober, got a good job, got a black belt, married a “good” woman and moved to another state to raise a family in a positive environment,(not the Bronx).
      Fast forward, I’m 65, divorced, (married the Devil), lost the house,{put her on deed, she repaid by forcing foreclosure,also stealing 150k}. Forced to move to keep my job. Youngest son just starting college. Move 7 times in 7 years. Retired. Now living in the country on 27a in the middle of nature but all by myself.
      You could say poor guy but I am still here. I am in charge of my life. As long as there is another day there is a new shot at life. During my divorce I thought about killing myself everyday for about 6mo. I’d wake up and look at my .45 and say “not today”. Why? Because it was a new day and God helps them that helps themselves. And as a Catholic I know suicide is a mortal sin. Of course I was good at sinning before I got sober but now I have something to uphold and that is who I have become.
      Life is for living and it is our responsibility to so that as best as we are able.


    6. Hi Steve I’m Kathy I’m very sorry that you feel that lonely and depressed and I it scares me to think what you’re actually thinking of doing I would love to chat with you talk to you see how you’re doing I am also a single woman with grown children and I do feel very lonely some days but I would love to have a penpal if you would like to chat with me

    1. I know how you feel. I’m 55 and haven’t found a wife. I’m now resigned to the idea that I’ll never marry and may as well just swallow a bullet than to go any further alone. You, however, are still young yet. While you are young, there’s always hope. Hang in there. You may be pleasantly surprised at what your future holds for you.

      1. Hi Jack I’m 53 and am very lonely and depressed! I feel like my life is over! I don’t even know how I got on this sight and I’m sure I won’t find it again. I just want to wish you the best and hope GOD Blesses you with a long healthy and happy life! I hope you find what you desire Lynn Nazami

      2. Hi everyone, I stumbled onto this blog tonight. I’m 58 and alone. Married 29 years divorced no kids and all my family has now passed. I have a lot of friends but as someone else mentioned it seems there are a lot of fake friends too today. It’s a different world today. Loyalty, honesty, trust, respect was a code many of us lived by. Not so much today. I’ve come up with a saying…. friends not friends. Meaning not real friends we used to have years ago. I do have 3 dogs and always had horses but my last one passed at 26 in November. No more horses for me but I’ve always had dogs and they keep me going. Maybe it’s the unconditional love which seems so rare to find in this world today. I am a peer specialist which is a form of a therapist but we have real life experience, often very hard experience ourselves. In other words we just don’t learn from a book. I see a few who have had hard losses. I have too and yes I do understand. Sometimes you have to walk in shoes to really understand many things in life. Hearing the phases you’ll get over it or time heals all pain are just nice things for people to say when they don’t know what else to say. Sympathy and empathy are two very different things. Few look for sympathy what they want is empathy which is understanding. As we all age I think many of us do feel lonely and it’s very difficult to cope sometimes. We have a lot of the same fears but no one to tell or we don’t want to appear weak. But it is straight up honesty, it’s hard to go thru life alone. Our generations here weren’t really built for a life alone and we struggle. The older we get the more losses we have and we carry the pain of those losses. Holidays are the worse aren’t they? So many happy memories but no one to share them with anymore. I’ve thought many times of the old show the golden girls and how much sense it seems to make today. Sharing a home of friendship of men and women, supporting one another, independent yet a sense of a family. Like minded individuals who share same values just wanting a sense of a family who cares. For those who see nothing but loneliness ahead, you are not alone in your thoughts. They are shared by many but what do we do about it? I’m on the jersey border and many here are from all around the country. What do you think about a shared living concept for those who are alone? Do you think we’d be healthier and happier if we lived with others instead of alone? I believe I would feel much better sharing life with others knowing I had support and help if needed.

      3. I think that’s an excellent idea! I’ve been looking for senior communities with no luck. It is only we who really appreciate what we can do and who we are.

      4. Hi suzzane (my capital button doesn’t work correctly sometimes). You are quite a bit younger than me (I am retired and could probably be your mother) but identified with much you said. I wrote above about how so many people lately are really so fake (or scared to death you may get to really know what they’re like) and just spout off a lot of meaningless small talk (which gets mighty old).

        I am quite alone, live alone tho’ that’s basically ok. what I mean is I was married out here (Ca.) , divorced with one child, a daughter. she’s about six miles from me and is herself divorced with no kids. we love each other dearly but have little to no interests in common, hence, I get lonely and so does she at times tho’ she has some friends having been raised here. I don’t mind aloneness sometimes but really most enjoy time with people (espec. “real” people).

        we have no other family here except each other. Holidays are depressing for both of us so we usually grit out teeth and tough it out. I watch “golden Girls” sometimes and think it is a good idea to find pals to live with to help support each other. Wonder if it’s really feasible, tho’. Maybe some people will write and tell us if it is. I even looked into it once out here. Not sure how you go about it. some people already have their family and friends support system set up and don’t seem to be interested in including (or making the effort to include) anyone else into their circle. a lot of people here spend holidays alone for that reason.

        feel free to reply to this message if you want. I am in ca. (not really by choice), from Philly, Pa. love animals (espec. horses, dogs and cats), love to laugh and let stupid little stuff go by the wayside. Hope you are doing well these days. claire Owens

      5. Hello, I’m just your age but have no friends nor close relatives left. There are many studies that show how loneliness and hopelessness decrease our physical health. Being so, we should all find ways to live together. The sense of community is really important for our social well being: we all want to be part of something good and joyful. That said, in my country one has to relay upon the biological family net and since I have none, I’m doomed to be alone and on the outskirts of life.

      6. Sorry this is my first time and long.
        Hi Suzanne. I am 63 and live on the east coast. Your post brought tears to my eyes. Sorry for the loss of your horse. Right now i am dealing with my rescued Maltese of 13 years who has just been diagnosed with cancer and tumors. There is nothing that can be done. The other heartbreaking part of this is, I rescued a Yorkie within 3 months of each other. They have never been seperated. How do you explain where her sister went? It’s ripping my heart out.

        I too wake up so lonely every day. I cry for hours. I think of ways to take my life. It consumes me. The pain of lonIiness has become to much for me. It’s only going to get worse. I’VE done therapy, medication, activities. It’s not the same. It’s that connection that people care and you can call on them for help and vice versa. I cant believe my family who we have stuck together our whole life now see me as an out cast. How can your family do that??I have great friends but life has taken us in different ways. I have a daughter, brother and sister that live leass than 30 minutes away. My daughter got made at me for being honest with her and punished me by taking my grandkids away. We were so close our whole life and all of a sudden I am used for a scape goat for something my daughter did. My family talks behind everyones back, lies and my sister has been telling personal stuff to my family that was to be private for years. I never knew. I WAS SO DEVASTATED!! My flesh and blood. I raised my sister from the time I was 12 and then she had to move out at 28 as she was pregnant. There is so much more. I kept us out of foster homes. My sister is 4 years younger brother 19 months older. Of course there is more.

        Because I won’t let them tell me how to act, what to think, say, be like them, make fun of me and talk about me behind my back and then not be upset . I am now a trouble maker and there’s something wrong with me.

        All my extended family is gone and i would give anything to be with them. When i question my family about why they did or said that they ignore or threaten to block me. THEY ARE THE BIGGEST COWARDS I KNOW!! At least i know i still have integrity, honesty, morals, values, empathy, compassion and kindness in my heart. Having your only family turn against you is not normal part of life. No family holidays to share, hugs, words of love, phone calls to see if your ok, invitation to family events. THE BIGGEST HOLE IN MY HEART AND LOSS WAS MY DAUGHTER RIPPING MY GRANDCHILDREN FROM ME AFTER A LOVING 5 YEAR RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM. I wake up ill every day thinking about the.

        Suzanne, sorry so long. I think the Golden Girls and Boys are worth looking into. Family isn’t always blood related….

      7. Suzanne,.
        I have been searching for the “family” you describe in your post. I am 63, living outside of Seattle, divorced for 8 years. I have only Social Security Disability as income as I recently had to leave my last job due to spinal issues. Because I can not find a home of lonely seniors, I live in a “sober” home with others having addictions but I am by far the oldest, have no affiliation with addiction and the tenants change monthly. I have no children and siblings are involved with their own families. I cannot live the rest of my God-given life just existing. I lost everything through an abusive marriage and more abusive divorce.
        I want to wake up with a purpose. I would like to be in contact with those that are looking to live with others like ourselves. Is it possible that this could be a reality? Although I am grateful to have a roof over my head, I have to believe there is more joy waiting for me.

      8. Hi Suzanne,
        I think you have the correct insight. I also find when I try to make friends it seems that they are not interested because they already have their own family and circle of friends. Never in my life have I had such a hard time making friends. It all started after I got divorced. Even though my ex and I are still good friends. I moved to SC shortly after I divorced. I have tried to find a few meaningful friends. I don’t want friends that will back stab you or talk about others. I also don’t want to hear about all your health issues all the time. We all have our own health problems. I am a good listener and I would like someone that will also listen to me. I mostly like to be around positive people that like to laugh. I guess it’s hard to find good people these days.

        I too have watched the Golden Girls and have thought how fun that would be to live together with close friends that get along so good. Unfortunately that is not real life. I will say I am trying to sell my home and move to a 55 retirement community. I have heard so many good things about this community. Besides having so many things to do. The most important reason I want to live there is that they look out for each other. I have heard this from many residents.
        I hope my home sells so I can move. It is a huge community with neighborhoods. If I can’t find a few nice friends then I never will. At least I will be around people my age. BTW their is 3200 homes! No one can say to me that I don’t try to change my lonely life. I’m even willing to move. I have gone to meetups, tried to find nice friends in my own neighborhood. Gone to parks with my dog and festivals.

        I just hope my home sells so I can move to this wonderful community. If my house don’t sell I’m thinking of getting a tiny RV and take trips.

        I’m getting pretty desperate to change my life. Good luck to everyone and DON’T give up!


      9. i just wanted to check on lynn ,knowing how she feels i thought i would try and talk to to help if i could brighten her day a little ,,living alone ,being alone highly depressed at times it seems you dont or you aint gonna go on ,15 years ago i was diagnosed with CIDP,same as MS, same as GUILLEUM BURAY SYNDRUM, all three life long diseases only treatmeants no cures …..before this i was depressed ,i was still dealing with being an abandon child i’ve never been able to completely dismiss it because my biological mother passed before i was able to forgive her so that throws another stick in the fire so i’ve dealing with a bunch issues with my father that just keep escalating ,,,sometimes i dont wanna be here for all the pain i feel from it all many years i ran from it i could be around it ,thought it was closing in on me had to keep moving ,,now with the diseases i cant run no more but i still cant face it all ,started me a small busneiuss and i’m putting 14 ,15 hours a day into it get about 3 to 4 hours sleep a day ,,i dont want to live like this ,,and i’m close to running again ..when i read what lynn had writen i just wanted to tell her i’ll be your freind ..everybody needs a freind ,,if she decideds to acept a freindship i’m gonna list how she may get in touch first of all my name is shawn hughes i am 58 years old i live in va ..

      10. Hi I’m Deb
        I’m 54 and single my last child just graduated and will be on his own soon. I’m kind of lonely and looking for someone to go places with and enjoy my life now

        It seems that it’s hard to find that someone don t believe he’s out there. I hope he is.

    2. I’m 70 years old been retired 10 ..Married twice 20 years all together..Just want a friendship..Don’t want to get married but they see you own your House and your Car your doing good they want to get Married..I say can we just be Friends and they say I want something more..I say I can’t do it and its Goodbye.I’m along but I don’t FEEL ALONG..My Sister tells me to get a DOG…


      1. Some women of retirement age, have a lifetime of having their own homes, however modest. Things such as fine rolex watches mean nothing to us. Nice for you to have nice things, but that would never impress me. They are not mine, I did not work for them. Therefore I would never date any man who thought that was all that was important to me.
        Simple and basic, is all one really needs after all.

      2. I feel the same way, I don’t want a dog, that is what my daughter tells me . Haha ! I just want a friend to travel with and go to events with, so hard to find someone that wants the same. I am in Georgia, what part of the country are you? I am a 67 year old divorced woman, I have lived here for 2 years , I should have stayed in my home state at least I New a few people., now I am here and just don’t want the expense of trying to sell here and move .

      3. Hi Diane – I think you’re the same Diane who answered my earlier blog. I’m Claire from Philly living just south of L.A. (Love horses and you said you have a small ranch in N.C.) If this is not you, you can answer anyway if you like. =^..^=

      4. Hi , I hear you, J am 64 and go days without speaking to anyone , the silence is just awful especially at night… I took early retirement due to illness and now don’t seem to fit in anywhere. I guess my life was at work.. I raised 3 kids who are grown with their own families.. I am in MA and just wondering your location, I am remission of leukemia and now wish I had never retired..

      5. I am just curious. Why do you not want to get married again?
        If you are lucky enough to find someone that you care for and who cares for you, why would you not want to share your life? I don’t understand this. Yeah, I’m set in my ways and like to do things a certain way but I figure anyone I would love would also have these traits and yeah, it might be tough adjusting to one another. Marriage can be work but I’d rather be happy than right. I’ve always thought the best way to spend your golden years was in a duplex, the hubby on one side and wife on the other. Just kidding, sort of.
        Are you looking just for a friend, or a friend with benefits? What is about being single that makes you want to stay that way?

      6. Hey Willis,
        My sympathies. You have been lying to yourself for some time now, because you like your space and freedom and don’t like being nagged. This is why you tell yourself the lies about why women want to marry you.
        If you have women to care enough about you at age 70, you have it better than most. Women at that age are not looking to scam you. What they want is for their old fashioned morals to be respected. 70 years ago, women who were not married, but were living with a man were considered less lady like. If a woman loves you, allowing her to marry you is not for what you own outside of your body, its for what you hold inside of you.
        Soon as you stop lieing to yourself, you will see I’m right. Maybe, you needed to lie all these times so the next woman that comes along and wants to become an honest woman for you, maybe you’ll say yes, because you will know its love and not money, that brings joy. Best of luck to you.

      7. Hi Willis,
        I’m 68 yr old female. I own my home and car. I’m doing fine on my own. Not all women are wanting marriage. I’m looking for friendship. I seem to get along better with men for some reason. I live in SC near Charlotte, NC Where do you live? If you are interested in getting to know each other, I would like to make some friends.


    3. Hi Di. I am 64 and have arthritis in my hands. I live in Mississippi. We moved here 2 years ago. My Mom died this past September, she was my best friend. I have not found anyone here I feel I could be friends with. I have 4 fur babies. My cats. All rescues. I now live close to my son and grandchildren. They are always busy. I’m happy for them, but lonely. Take care.

  18. Hi
    I am Nash, 58, in Ohio, lost my spouse little over a year ago. This adjustment to a new life at this age is full of surprises to say the least. Dating at this age, is even more of a “challenge”. I am just looking for a like minded female to hang out with, do things with that like me, has their act together. Miss the companionship of someone to hang out with. I am very down to earth, no drama, no games, no BS. Exercise, look younger than my age. Like being outside, more of a summer person.
    Why is it so hard to find like minded people?

    1. Hello Nash. How are you i happened . To be reading what every one IS writing. About there different sittituations. My name is Yolanda i am single but right now taking care of my aging parents. At a crossroads with my life missing someone in my life too

    2. Hi Nash – just writing to encourage you to just keep on searching. You sound like a great guy (I am a retired senior and am not suitable for you but still know how you feel – long, boring story). There are women out there who would likely love to meet you so don’t give up. Just know that your dilemma is pretty common (but still painful, sometimes). God bless and help you. Claire

    1. To many of the comments, best thing to do is help save and rescue animals. Become lost pet detective. Work, volunteer at animal shelter. The worse you feel, helping one is worse off can bring you comfort and grace.
      Good luck and go with God.

      1. Very True! Helping others is certainly a good way to lift one’s spirits. Course we do have to make time for our own needs.
        Alone in this world after a lifetime of carring for others, i plan on being the best I can be. This year I’m going to make it a point to get out and talk to many more people, just one more dance and maybe a trip or two.

      2. I agree, I am a 56 year old widowed male with no children, low income and not too many friends. I always feel better when I can help. Weather it’s an animal or human. Helping somebody working on a project. I would like to have more friends but, as we know it gets harder after 50 and being single and no kids. Can anybody point me in the right direction. I live in Smyrna GA. I have looked at a few website for volunteer work. But all they want is donations. I don’t make much money. But I would be gladly to volunteer my time and maybe meet new friends.

      3. Hi John – Read your blog and you sound like a great guy. My heart goes out to you as some of us somehow end up in some pretty lonely and isolated situations. I am too old for you (in my 70’s) but you sound like you could easily be of interest to some woman somewhere. God bless you. Claire

  19. My name is Dennis, Im 49yrs old. Live in NY by myself and I lost my daughter to cancer. My wife divorced me months after the death of our daughter. I still can’t get over losing my daughter I have a great family but its just not the same I’m so lonely at the moment. I believe God does not cause our loved ones to die. Well, By choice I would love to get to know you become a real good friend whatever happens let happen.

    1. Hi Dennis…. Merry Christmas..
      I live in Las Vegas….yep, can even be lonely out here…but I seem to make the most out of what I have around me and I am not talking casinos because I never go to them.
      Had a beautiful Christmas program last night–lights are great and so is music.
      Write soon if you want.

      1. Dear Dennis I am so sorry for your heart breaking name is Elinor .I am a 54 year old widow from husband died of Alzheime’s three years ago. He was 64.

      2. God bless you Dennis, I pray for the peace of God to be with you. My name is Rosa and I also live in New York. I also know how is feel to loose a family member who you truly love, it was my brother die in 2017. Take care I hope you feel better. Chao

    2. Dennis,
      I am so sorry about your daughter and pray for you. I am sorry your wife left you as well. I lost my oldest son to murder 13 Oct. 1990. He was 20. I know how you feel. It has been 29 years for me and I still grieve each day that passes. Dont let anyone tell you its gets easier cause it doesn’t. Time does have a way of day that go by, I may not think of James, but most days he is with me.
      No writing you for anything, am 69, just letting you know prayers in my daily wake helps.
      God Speed
      Ps my husband left me this past friday after 18 years.

      1. Linda
        My heart goes out to you. I lost my precious child in 2001 and thought I would never adjust . In many ways I have not. It was a tragedy, Life Guard talking to the girls and my son slipped away.
        No one understands . My stupid brother in law was surprised when I was still mourning after 3 months!!!!
        And others gave me a year to “get over it”.
        You do not get over the death of you child.
        If we returned back to our lives as if nothing happened, then something is very wrong.
        This experience can only change you. For better or worse, I hope for better.
        You see the world through different eyes. You walk through the chaff until you find someone that understands. The world is so phony. Even many that attend church or synagogue.
        Thankfully I have my husband of 40 years and my oldest son. And now a new grandson. I must say, that baby truly lifted my heart .
        Life is not about fancy homes and cars, etc. It is about relationships. Real relationships where you feel comfortable sitting quietly with some one, or weeping.
        There is so much sadness in this world. And what angers me are the spouses that walk out the door because it is too hard???? Paleeze!
        That is what marriage counseling is for.
        My faith saved me , even though I first cursed God. He was faithful and I pray you all feel His presence.

      2. hi Linda,im in the uk. My girl(age 20) got killed +dumped +was left to
        rot for 6 weeks before police found her. that was 12 years ago.
        now my son wont talk to my terminally ill partner ,
        so im stuck in the middle of those 2,visiting my son in secret,
        pretending to partner im not in contact with son either to keep
        the peace. i left home at 16 cos of stepfather abuse +too many
        siblings at home. no privacy.lived with an abusive family friend.
        im now menopausal,suicidally depressed. ive met too many
        deceitful,manipulative so called friends,inc my ex employer
        who was secretly getting my girl involved in wrongful activities+he
        couldve prevented her death. I think about daughter every
        minute of every day +how iv failed as a parent. i should never
        have been born.At least Linda you understand some of my hell

        i go through.please do not any1 mention ANYTHING to do with
        religion. it dosent help. i have no beliefs.i just need empathy ,
        understanding which most people nowadays DO NOT have.

    3. I just lost my husband . Would love to just have a buddy in my life. Been married more than once. But I am not looking for a relationship. I am looking for a friendship. I am 59. I know what loss is all about. My husband died with esphogael cancer. It was a tough journey

      1. I do, so much agree. I want friends, platonic relationships. It seems everyone is desperate for a spouse At 65, I do look younger, but have 50 year old men intent on a relationship, which causes problems with female friendships. Would love just a glass of wine and good conversation. Being in a unique situation, not looking for relationship, can actually get lonely!

      2. Returning your email. Would love to connect.

      3. Hi, I’m 65, widowed to cancer also. Don’t even know where to begin, I really am seeking a platonic relationship, male or female. Everybody is looking for a date. Wish they had friend sites, for those of us not looking for more.

      4. Hi Lorrie…i am looking for friendship. I live in Denver, Colorado, and I am pretty .uch on my own. I am a “youthful” 67 and ha e led a good life…but now i find myself all alone in my big house. Not sure where to turn or what to do. I would like to share my home with someone too. What a lonely girl to do??
        Sa dy

      5. Lorri, I lost my husband from EC as well. Horrible terminal cancer. My heart goes out to you.


      6. I lost my husband last year to a sudden heart attack. I know how hard it is to lose someone close. I know all about the loneliness. I am 54 years old. I am just looking for friends to write to, I’m not looking for a romantic partner on this site.

    4. Hi Dennis, I am so sorry about your daughter.
      I am 56 years old widow without kids and would like to meet you and share a friendship.
      It is good to have friends, to talk, to listen to you to go for a walk to relieve yourself of loss and grief

    5. Hi Dennis, there are many fish in the ocean, life is to short to be waisted.Your daughter is your guardian angel now,if your wife leave you, her love is not genuine. Pray and do the good thing to others and a good woman from God will be send to you,cheers! This is Lanie from the Philippines., 45 years old widow with 3 snart teen ager son.take care and God bless you.

      1. Where are you located being alone is rough. I am 67 and have been alone for almost 2 years. Someone to talk to or text with is nice.”

    6. Dennis sorry for your loss. Its often hard to find the right words to say when confronted with a complete stranger sharing their loss. I’m not sure what to say, well I can say this never been on this page & god must of led me here for a reason.
      Keep your head up & know know another comllete stranger listened to your story & wants you happy! we all deserve that!

    1. Hello Dorotthea

      Landed on this site via a search phrase ….

      It`s only 1;17 pm, and just sitting in my hotel room with not a soul
      nor family to speak with.
      Just staring out at the eastern Utah foothills now covered with snow.

      Holler if you would like…


  20. I lost my second husband of 20 years this summer. He was a big man with a big heart . The last ten years were painful and lonely as he gave in to an eating disorder and depression. No different than any addiction. It takes a toll on loved ones. My first marriage was 27 years long, resulted in five children, and was filled with a combination of alternating affection and verbal abuse.

    I understand depression. It has been with me a long time. I have a bachelors in counseling, and just short of a masters in gerontology. But what has overtaken me in the past few months is nearly debilitating. It is not mental. I stay in my pajamas all day. Some days I get a burst of motivation and throw myself into continuing the job of clearing out all my husband’s clutter. I need help getting it all to the car and transfer station. The overwhelming job of cleaning out a garage full of guy stuff and clutter makes me angry. I like not having to answer to anyone about household matters, but the deafening silence is maddening.

    All my kids live downstate and work and are raising children. Before we moved to the north our house was always full of kids, grand kids and friends.

    I know about volunteering. For the past three years I have been a medical first responder on our volunteer fire department . I am also a writer but have trouble getting around to it now.

    Going to the store and roaming around helps. But my cortisol levels are off the roof from years of stress. During the time my husband was in the hospital and for three months after his death I was in an out of the hospital myself with serious intestinal problems, and then surgery. I lost a lot of weight. Now I have very little interest in food, and take frequent naps. What I miss most is affection and companionship.

    1. Dear Janet, I have struggled with an eating disorders and depression for over 30years. So I can relate to your situation. I lost 2 husbands because of my eating disorder/depression. Now I am alone. Very isolated, and find social situations very hard.

    2. I am 50woman I am looking for companionship Perhaps a long term healthy relationship. I look very young for my age very attractive not to sound conceited. Educated masters. I must say in these days and times I do have trust issues expression Li with strange people meet and strange people but I know I have to come out of my confidence own and awarded to continue living my life I feel like I’m dying every day

      1. hello Dickson 50 yrs. old and probly look 30 i am 77 yrs.young could pass for 60 i have been told i don’t know where you live i live in Bentonville, AR. in the beautiful Ozark mounts.

      2. Hi Jackie Smith.

        I am 71 yrs young. I live in Glendale Az. for the past 6 months. Long Story how I got here, but 6 months ago I lived in a small beach town in N.C. My husband and I of 52 yrs. owned a beautiful home, and our surroundings were to die for. We lived there for 20 yrs. Before that we lived on L.I. New York for 30 yrs. When we retired, we moved to this beach town and built a house, and put 20 yrs. of hard work and love to make it what it was. We came to Arizona sight unseen to move closer to family. Our daughter lived in Arizona for 10 yrs. During most of those 10 yrs. we were not in communication. It was only months after we opened channels of communication that she felt we needed to be close to family. She was living hand to mouth, pay check to paycheck. She moved here for the love of her life, which was a disaster. She became pregnant after just months of living with this guy she moved to Arizona to be with. That relationship lasted 2 years. She now has a ten yr old son, and has shared custody with the father. She cannot leave the state because of her son. The boy has many issues and problems. She knew we had money, ( of which we were giving her thousands of dollars while communicating on the phone) and we were convinced that we should be near family. We bought a house, that was viewed on line. Big Mistake!!!! She and her son live in this house with us. What my life was once, is the complete opposite. I was against this drastic life changing move, but my husband too felt the pressure and was convinced, this was the right thing to do. I am so lonely. I have no reason to get up in the morning. This move did not have to happen. We prepared so well, financially to be able to be independent, and we gave it all up. What is the sense of having money. I am a very good 71 yr. old, and I too do not look my age. I have a very young mind, which I wish I didn’t have. None of our friends would believe how we are living, and neither do I. I wake up every morning in disbelief of what we did. I feel so hopeless. alone and trapped. Our daughter is in complete control of our lives. I try to think of a way to get our lives back, but I have too much going against me. So much more to this sad, sad journey. I need to talk and see if someone out there has experienced what I am living.

    3. Hello Janet
      I carefully read your posted info o. This site
      I’m 59 and live alone. My very unfortunate
      Is I was married to a female professional for two years.
      I do other her due to selfish angry behavior she was
      Never happy and the master manipulator I couldnt even take a phone cazll from my brother and or best friend at any time. Well I was silly enough to remain with her aunt FOUR months ago she tossed my aside nd no real cloture
      I could write for hours I know how you feel it’s no better for me. No motivation or care
      You are not alone. Mason

      ve slone

    4. Janet – so sorry for your losses. My life is stressful (or was), too, and I know how painful life can be. I am retired (in my 70’s) and if I can be of comfort to you, just let me know (I am very new to this site – one week – and am not sure how you contact people here) but I will leave my e-mail address – [email protected]. Do take care and may God bless you and help you. Claire

  21. Hi everyone. I am a 55 year old woman who is baffled by all these comments. I have no health issues of any kind and still attractive enough to turn heads from younger men. I believe that attitude is essential when it comes to aging. I had a business once in an area where all the women over 40 complained about the inevitability of the pitfalls of aging. I closed shop and got out of there super fast. This is a toxic mentality that sooner than later becomes contagious. I am so tired of hearing how some people are “just lucky” to age better than others. In my youth I overcame serious illnesses I learned to heal myself through research of many modalities such as Qigong and diet. Ladies, there are ways to keep yourself up physically and yes sometimes as the years pass you have to do things a little more extreme with diet, etc. As for the social aspect of aging, I would suggest to always engage outwardly for example taking classes,, etc. Also from a romantic perspective let me say that my aunt married her last husband, a multi millionaire, at the age of 72. So you see, aging is not the end of the world for women anymore than it is for men.

    1. Oh Olivia. I’m so sorry you have had these burdens to bear. This earth gig can be a bitch right? The good news is that you get these days ahead of you. Some good, some not so good BUT they are all days. I’ve been married for 39 years now and these past few years have felt somewhat lonely. At the end of the day I’m hopelessly in love with my wife and she with me. We just seem to soldier through it. I’m not sure what happiness means anymore or if it’s even something that can be pursued. So what to do? Well, for me, I do my best to find Joy in anything and everything I can. It might be quick smile from someone I see on the street, or a passing hello, or my sweet little 4 year old Visla dog Stella who makes even my darkest days full of light. Find these precious moments before they are gone each day.

      1. I turned 55 I have been married 37 years. My husband only needs me for a housekeeper and cook. I feel so alone. I have been force to sleep in a room down the hall because he says I snore and he likes a radio on to sleep. I work night shift part time as Registered Nurse I tried working other shifts during my life but I cannot take the overstimulation I suffer attention deficit disorder and do better in small focused environments such as the night shift work. This can get pretty demanding some nights itself. Lately I feel so sad it’s like I see my life slipping away.
        I have never been a person who liked running around on the road I basically stay home doing nothing most days well I wait on my husband cooking and cleaning.

        Death stares me in the face every day at work and at home as well but death by means of hopelessness. I cannot stand people like the above poster Olivia who thinks it so easy and judges those who cannot see life the way she does.

      2. Dee, I’m in a lonely relationship also and wife has copd and colitis and sex is not her bag. We had the best sex life any person could want and now haven’t had any closeness or sex since 2011 and I’m 75 years old and just as sex minded as I was when I was 20. Think about it all the time and love my wife but need a FWB now in my life. People may say I’m a jerk or something but I can’t stop my feelings for being intermit with a woman. I would love to find a woman that is as lonely as I and I’m a true gentleman, will treat you with respect and dignaty. Just call me lonely. Live in southern Ohio. Bill

      3. Hi Bill I’m in the same situation God knows I really desire communication excitement whatever life brings. I took my ex back after he cheated and nothing has changed.
        Would to talk.

      4. Dee I’m with Olivia on some of the things she is saying. Life is one Journey so begin by finding God, go shopping for a church that fits your needs spiritually, which is also part of your health , the rest falls into place because you let your focus be on number one your master. The Omega that fits all needs, great counselor, spiritual mentor, love, physical healer. Once you allow him to be your first priority then all the things you need begin to take place. You have to have focus off of you. Your husband, well there is nothing God can’t change. The duties at home should be something you enjoy because it makes your life easier keeping things in order. It should be split or hire housekeeper. Tell him the budget will have to be out of his activity Find things you like to do at least every other week to give you life back You are a problem solver for goodness sake. Make your list of positives in your life and negatives. Then make a plan to pray for the negatives to change what ever that means. By the way I’m a Registered nurse and I am age 61 and a widow. My husband died after a long illness 18 years to be exact. You are in charge of your life and maybe this is a wake up call. Make a list and change the things you can that you don’t like. Prayers.

      5. Hi Dee – I am on this site for the first time and am amazed at all the sad stories, yours included. In a nutshell, I am a senior, divorced , no family support system, friends hard to come by as in Ca. (where I live) especially, people are quite phoney. I am living alone, love people of every kind but live a lonely life because the love of people in general is really quite cold and shallow in our world today.

        I am writing you today because you are so very distraught and hurting inside. I hurt, too, but one thing I find helps me fight on and press on is my deep belief that God dearly loves me and cares immensely about my pain (and it is daily pain). This world is a fallen world full of sin, pain, and suffering. But Dee, God so loves you and wants you for His daughter. He can help you bear this. Much of our suffering is our own fault but much of it is because of the sin and selfishness of other people.

        My heart goes out to you because, even though I cling to my faith in God , I too, suffer because of what others have done to me. I hope, and am praying for you, that you, too, will give your heart to your Savior (Jesus) and to your Father, who loves you dearly and wants to strengthen you as you face the selfishness of your husband. Giving your heart to Christ will not solve every difficulty in your life – Jesus, Himself, said it would not be easy down here on Earth – but you will have hope at last in One who will one day give you true life as it was always meant to be . Claire

      1. Hi Dee
        I understand very well what you are feeling and I am very sure that you are very love and affection given , and my heart goes to you , I am 68 year old man I am treated the very same after 39 years of marriage with it’s ups and downs with the results of flute growing up three men’s and final medical student daughter but back up to 15 years my wife discovered that she cannot sleep because I snore and I haves used every available device and sprays to stop , been asleep I don’t remember or wolkup or kicked by my wife but still complains she can’t sleep
        So I have to sleep in the box room for over 15 years on a single bed
        Now it has reached the state we do not compuncat at all and I suggest to seek family conuceling and was refused , I feel alone with my family and deep loneliness, missing the empathy, love , companionship and happiness even the family all taken mother side
        I only fee I am only a financial security that’s very heartbreaking and disappointment in human race
        I am returning pharmacist and I feel I am way into deep depressing state of mind, I feel I will be happy to get out of the house and live alone with the compliance large dogs

      2. I found this site a few days ago,looking to find seasoned saints with whom I could enjoy a bit if camaraderie;instead I feel as though I’ve stumbled onto a senior citizens pity party,everyone playing a victim …but guess what? There’s only one victim chair,so with all of the intelligence that I believe is within the corporate group,I believe taking a moment to stop to focus on how lonely ,depressed and mentally disabled if for only a bit you would acknowledge that not every moment of your life has been
        heart rending but you have been happy and for some reason someone has passed around the Kool-Aid of believing life has no reason because you are older. I’m a product of dysfunctional parents(my mom a woman-child) who never said we kids mattered,she never told us we were loved,no hugs and kisses.If you fell down,there wasn’t a mom to kiss away the boo-boo. I watched my parents physically fight,weapons were discharged and we kids became the collateral damage. The hypothetical story of 2teens who had an alcoholic dad,one became a drunk the other became a successful business person. Just because life throws horrid things your way,is no reason to allow the negativity to be embraced. I’m sure some of you think I’m extremely horrible,however,I lived in hell growing up. I knew that I wasn’t going to have a chance to go to college as other kids in school and even when I wanted to get a job after school to learn how to be responsible my mom became incensed and she physically punished me and refused to speak for a week. I didn’t know then,she was mentally unstable,however,I chose to leave home after she almost killed me because I at 16 didn’t want to date a married soldier. When I joined the military,it was hard,however,I realized my life could become whatever I decided I wanted to pursue. Working diligently,I went to several military schools and
        ,found out I was capable of so much more than I had been told.–(growing up,the same phrases,you’ll never amount to anything,no one will want a stupid girl like you ) my S-dad couldn’t understand why I continued studies in college,he asked if I was that stupid I still had to go to school? I knew in my heart the day I stopped learning would be the day I’d die. Today,I’m retired and yes,I do live alone…most males have been raised not to be a husband but simply to find another mother. I was naive which cost me a lot of pain and heartache,however,I heard a tv preacher one Sunday I had come back from a woman’s shelter because my husband had attempted to take my life,(he was arrested for attempted murder.)…The preacher’s message “Forever a Victim,I Don’t think so”! I bought the tape series and listened and applied what was shared. I went back to the shelter,retrieved my belongings,came home and made a choice. Happiness is my responsibility,it’s not someone else’s place to keep me happy nor will everyday be sunny and trouble free. In the military a saying,YOU’RE EITHER PART OF THE PROBLEM-OR THE SOLUTION. yes,I could sit and feel sorry for myself or I could use the mess I’d lived through and make it my message. I decided to surrender my life to Jesus,not in mental assent but truly submit and surrender. I,too, believe that years ago young women were taught their place,social graces and men were men who had a job not simply looking for a woman to take care of him. When I began to see those I’d loved had all passed,I realized that it was difficult if not impossible to find a gentleman that didn’t expect payment of sex for a dinner and movie. I made a choice to be acquaintances because friendship is a commitment that few people today know how to honor. I don’t think because I’m 66 that I have no purpose. I believe God as my creator is the one who has given me abilities and it’s up to me to look within and find the untapped resource that is not being used. As long as God gives you breath,you wake up,HE has a purpose for you. Militarily,we filled slots,with God’s kingdom,we all have a gift that only you can do,because you have the gifts and talents. The lady who stated she was a peer specialist,knows what it means to walk in another person’s shoes because of first hand experience. Watching the world we live in today,it’s not the good old days,and I don’t expect to see those days again. I believe just as you can’t go forward in a car looking always in the rearview mirror,neither can you overcome the mental mindset that has convinced people that age has to be empty,loss of hope and being alone doesn’t mean you have to be lonely. I believe the choices we make today,the words we repeatedly say form our tomorrow’s. Recall,I was a kid from a whacked out dysfunctional family but I chose to change my words. I began to frame my world with positive words,I refused to accept negativity as a mindset even though many times my family would deliberately ignore me during holidays…and yes the holiday season can be very lonely however,if no one else toots their horn for you,give yourself a party. Happiness is born from within not without. If people aren’t the author of your happiness…they can’t take it from you. I really wish with as much love,respect and understanding to challenge each of you to think about your self-talk. Learn to be kind to yourself. Don’t wait when you see a need,be a hero to someone who you never would have thought was hurting. A famous psychiatrist was asked what was the best cure for depression.His answer,was to get dressed,go out into the street,find someone who was in far greater need than you,and be kind to them. Jesus says in the Holy Script ‘as we give to the poor,we lend to God ‘ ….I know pain and I despise it,however,if I succumb to allowing it to control me,I become a prisoner of my own making. Learning to forgive is the antidote for bitterness. You think if you forgive the person who was guilty of hurting you is without punishment,forgiveness allows you to become free and opens your future for what ever choices you decide. Choosing to focus on the negativity of what you’ve been through,robs you of the opportunity for freedom to welcome your tomorrow’s with a positive attitude. I,in no way intend offense,however today,it seems unless you tell people only what they want to hear,not what will help them,people carry xtra offenses in their pocket. I share my heart because I truly care about people.If you knew the road a person was going down was dangerous and could destroy a life,you’d readily do what you could to help others be safe,I have been down the road,I hope someone will heed the words I share because I truly care.

      3. Hello Claire, This is my first time on this site. Your post caught my eye as your are really the first one who mentioned God. As he is the reason we are here. Also I believe you mentioned about the holidays and being alone, I believe that was you . I can relate to that also as I have no family left, no children No one the holidays are hard , I am almost 62, was an only child. Was married to a man who … abused and took everything from me, so trusting is an issue for me. Therefore, I keep to myself pretty much . I am a person with a big heart who cares about this world that is not the same any more sadly. I volunteer, rescue dogs and cats from Asia, yet, I am still alone . I have a purpose,, why I was put here, but still , I am from the northeast, and stuck in the south, where there is not much in the way of chances to interact with others. No culture, lol or many people for that matter, I am looking to move, just not sure where a single 60yr old alone can go. Without knowing anyone. I’m basically shy . Anyway I know loneliness, and if one doesn’t interact with others, one can sink into depression. Well Thank you for bringing up God. We need him . If anyone wants to talk, I am here.

    2. Olivia, No offense intended, but just because you have not experienced the same thing as other seniors doesn’t mean they are not real. Due to forced retirement, loss of my home, a move to a different state and miscellaneous health crises I am experiencing a serious social disconnect and I don’t know how to reconnect. Perhaps with your successful life and your great knowledge you can tell me how to do that since you know so much about the individuals who post on here.

      1. Hi Bonnie, I’ve experienced the same serious, and it is serious, social isolation. I’ve never had this before and really struggling with depression. over the last year and has gotten to be a way of life and now it’s hard for me to even get out to go to the store. I miss my friends, everyone has moved way and I am retired with no way to meet anyone. I just wanted to say I know how you feel and if you need support, we could talk.

  22. I am 57 yrs old with an mind of an 18 yr old. Have been through a lot in the last 10 yrs. Am living with my 22 yr old son in an apt for the past yr and a half. He now wants to move on and get an apt with his gf. I am low income and have nowhere to go. I am so alone. My 2 kids are trying to look for a place to dump their mom. I have nothing left to live for. They are the only family I have and I feel like my life is over now. I do not like being alone,yet I will never live with strangers again. I was just starting to feel safe until my daughter got an apt with her guy.My son thought about it and now wants to live with his gf. Which leaves mom out. After all the yrs I raised my kids and sacrificed everything,I am now at a dead end. Literally. The feeling of dread is with me everyday. This became a thing the day after Thanksgiving when my daughter visited us and it seems both of them got to talking.All of a sudden there is my daughter on her phone looking for places to put me. Seriously? I love the outdoors hunting and fishing,animals, classic cars,camping, and traveling. I have so much to give, yet I feel like I am wasting air. It is sad that a person can feel worthless and who has to worry about where she fits in the world. Oh, I’m sure if I won the lottery or had money coming in continuously, it wouldn’t be so bad. But now, I feel I am done. It is a harsh world for people who are about to be left out.

    1. I get it I’m 68 and have been here taking care of my now 94 yr old mother that was a harsh brutal mother to us 4 children I was the black sheep and the only reason I’m here is to take care of mother and I have no place to go but there is live in work which helped me in the past or at least til you get on your feet there are also a couple of places up north to live in a hippy commune and then there is where you can get a job in a resort setting some have live in facilities and then you can get a small camper or learn to live in your car until something pans out but the live in job is what’s helped me and advertise ….. you get room and board 1-2 days off start socking the money in a bank good luck

      1. App sleep Hi my name is Delors I suffer from I was wondering if anybody could give me any advice I’m 53 years old I live alone I don’t have any family I don’t have any friends. I have 3 children they are older and the stranged living their life do not see much of them. I took for granted raising my children I gave them all a vein I forgot to do anything for myself and clothing a social life noun I’m 53 and alone can somebody please tell me where to the lonely go?

      2. Susan King , Hello ,,
        Wow , do I get it , I am 60 yrs young and have been preparing for the thing you face , I also face , how scary can life get !!!! Although I am not rich , I am planning on traveling , I am all alone even though I have a daughter and son , I love them so , but my addiction to them has been money motivated on their parts ,they are WELLL to do should something happen to me , in the meantime , I am going to try to hit the road and be a road Warrior , yuppers !! Time to site -see and wonder in a bit of style , I am a SWF , not looking for any sexual stuff !!!! I am looking for someone who may want to travel and be Thelma / Louise friend , without the running over the side of a Canyon , Lol !! I have the truck and the new travel trailer and the income , I would love to speak , should you think this is up your ally .. Ms. Sami

      3. Hello. You have a wonderful attitude. I have to go to California for a few reasons and drive back east. Do not want to do it alone. Very good references, no smoking etc. I don’t think of myself as senior but a friend said I should check this out and I do admire your free spirit attitude.

      4. I would love to do this, but don’t have a home base or a place to come back to that is home. lost everything in a recent divorce. have some $$$ put away but dont know where to go or what t do. the friend I was living with told me I have tore out by April when she and her husband return for their winter home… I am in a very isolated very cold climate.. I need someone to reach out to me and pull me out. my son is in Seattle with his family… but living their own lives. I can’t afford Seattle on my own… venting here.. sorry.. but Thelma and Louise… sounds great if only I could… I’m turning 60… look younger and am so lonely and afraid

      5. Hi, I am 65 years old. Divorced when my girls were 1 and 4. They were with me 95% of the time, so I never dated… my choice (I guess). I worked from home; they were my focus…along with earning enough to support us comfortably. My social life was wrapped around them, volunteering at school, hanging out with the moms of their friends. I have great memories. But now they don’t have time for me, I’m still working since I helped them out financially over the years.
        My job recently screeched to a halt. Much of my socializing was tied to my business. So that has stopped and I just feel too exhausted to make friends, join clubs, etc. also have had to have a couple of surgeries which has isolated me even more.
        I want a ‘new best friend,’ or a guy friend to just fall through the ceiling and appear on my bed next to me, laughing and watching a movie.
        I relate to feeling stuck geographically (in SW FL).
        I feel like I woke up at 65, alone, without a plan for the rest of my life…
        I’ve suffered from depression all of my life…luckily I can laugh at myself.
        I feel like there are so many opportunities, and yet there are none.
        I really didn’t expect my life to be like this! It’s so hard!!

      6. Im 61 yr old mannever married hunt fush still want to do things low income.have 3 weiner dogs which give me a reason to live!

      7. Hi. Rick
        I’m in l;ate 60’s, never-married, with a Chiweenie (dachshund+chihuahua) who is my angel dog that got me thru the loss of my beloved parents (there certainly were no humans around who gave a damn.) I rely on God and my little dog and at the moment it seems to be enough. I’m in Central Oregon. Do you want to email ? Three “weiner dogs” – cracks me up just thinking about that !

    2. Hi Susan,
      When reading your story I felt a kind of kinship with you, although I have no children. I’m not sure which is worse, having children who make you feel unwanted and unloved or having no one who is supposed to love you.
      I too am 57 yrs old and low income. I have no siblings and my parents are in poor health and live 5 hrs away. I am living with a man whom I do not love as a husband or even a boyfriend. The past 11 years have been very rough for me, my “boyfriend” had a major heart attack and now is on Disability. It has been rough for him as well but I feel that I do not exist anymore. His needs have always come before mine and now more than ever.
      I work a full time low paying job and live in a 40 year old mobile home which used to be his mothers, so I too am struggling with depression and feel like I am stuck in my situation. I cannot abandon him because I would not want anyone to do that to me.
      So what do we do with ourselves?
      I’m not a very religious person but I do believe in God and am trying to leave it all in his hands and praying that my future will not be as bad as my present. I feel that’s all I can do.
      I will pray for you as well, hang in there! Hopefully everything will turn around for both of us real soon.

    3. Hi Susan,
      Saw your letter on Senior Planet. I’m feeling for you, believe me. I’ve just lost my wife Nov. 16th of this year and am still in disbelief but trying to return to my routine. Thankfully I have 2 wonderful daughters who are watching out for me continually. It’s hard for me to understand your children treating you that way.
      Feel free to write me if you’d like. I would like to know how you are doing.
      By the way I’m not young but I don’t feel 73 and I’m in good health and enjoy my life.
      Sincerely, Richard

    4. Pleaser remember this….emotions are like the ocean. They rise and fall but the waves keep coming. Your life keeps coming. What happens if you decide I won’t let life just happen to me here. I’m going to get proactive and find a way to start a new adventure in life. Maybe it’s a business of your own that starts from a little taco stand like Chipotle. Maybe it’s a diary that turns into a book. Purpose in life will find you if you’re only willing to seek it. Be like a dog to a bone on this one. Until the Almighty pulls the trigger to bring you home you’re not done! Pursue life and be relentless about it. The opera isn’t over till the fat lady sings and I don’t think you’re that gal K? GO FOR IT! You’ll find a new happiness will overcome you that you thought was never possible. Trust me, I know.

      1. Hi Tony, thank you so much for your inspiring sensitive words. They resonate so much. At the moment I struggle with lack of confidence and turn to spiritual books for comfort and reflection. Thank you again

    5. Hello Susan my name is Delores . I am in exactly the same place you are I am very lonely I live alone I don’t want to be alone looking for friend if you are interested in converse and I’m going to leave my email feel free to contact me I know what loneliness feels like it’s just another day of despair you have to look forward to it’s a horrible place to be alone.

      1. Hello Jackie,
        I am live in Farmington, AR just a few miles from you I am a widow of 2 years and would love to have a friend close by.

    6. Shuttles in Lafayette right near category. Except I’m not homeless I lost my wife 5 years ago. I live in California and I just couldn’t afford expensive lifestyle in California. So I moved back east the Missouri was born and raised Perico to my son’s here and I have one son. And we’re close but the only problem is he has his life. And I understand I don’t feel comfortable moving into it. So I live by myself. I love fishing hunting classic cars that’s what I was into four years. I’m 73 I was married 51 years. I never 7 days. And we got married.Yes and it definitely gets very lonely for me I am 73. I said I don’t look at but that’s beside the point. Definitely don’t have a 73 mind. It all turns out to be a scam because they want me to send money..

    7. Hello Susan King
      I’m replying to an old message you posted on Senior Planet and I just wondered how you are now in year 2020. I can empathise with you as my family situation is the same as yours. I live in the UK. If you want a penpal then please email me perhaps we can help each other.

    1. I agree. Holidays can be difficult to get through. When you’re an empty nester and feeling all alone such as myself. It would be nice to have someone to talk to and possibly go places. I am 59 years old and still working a full-time job. I find it very challenging to meet others.

      I live in Illinois, outside of Chicago.


      1. Hi Jeni
        I am 72 also live in Illinois Trying to decide what I want to do with my life to. I have my Dads house which I am working on to sell Not sure what I want to do . Have a hard time meeting others also .
        You say you are outside of Chicago . Is that north or south I live
        Lake Summerset
        A lot of people from Chicago have second homes here or retired here.

      2. Hi Jeni,

        I am 56 years ole with no children and also live south of Chicago, I know how you feel and the holidays make it even worse. If you’d like to meetup and make some plans, please reply. Deb

  23. Hello,
    I am 55 year old women and I have Hashimotoes knee arthritis and I tore my meniscus a few years ago, due to all of this I don’t leave my apt. much except for medical appointments.

    I am look for people who would like to talk on the phone, emails and messages take too much time.

    I have a daughter I’m estranged from and trapped in a horibly neglectful marriage.

    I live in a borough of NY and hoping to move upstate soon.

    Reach out if you would like friendly companionship.

    1. Hi Mary: I would love to be in contact with you. I am sorry about your marriage. I had one like that. My daughter is also estranged off and on. I have a son who I am in contact with several times a week. I am 65, single and live alone and get lonely, too.

    2. Hi, my name is Andrea. I live on Long Island in Nassau county. I too am in estranged relationships with 2 out of my 3 girls. However, I have an empty nest life and in a very estranged marriage. I am very lonely and looking for people to become friends with and just talk. I am so alone. I don’t know where you live but I hope you see this letter and just maybe we can become great friends. By the way I am 63 yrs. old. That might be too old for you but I can still relate. Hope to hear from you soon. From, Andrea Brown. I’m

      1. Ok ladies. I’m 60 years young. My husband in a nursing home since 2009. I’m not interested in dating. I was in live but I’ve been grieving him ever since his diagnosis in 1988. We married in 1981. Had our son in 1984 had our daughter 1988. In 1992 my husband. Old no longer do his own adl’s , I was his sole caregiver and I was the financial provider to my now adult , married, successful children. In 2004 i I was found to have a rare cancerous disease( a genetic issue on the part of one of the biological donors my mother slept with turns out the other kids were fine. I’m estranged from my small family my mothers preference. Turns out 2004 had me in sloan for two surgeries my son then 20 in 2005 had his surgeries he has the same thing and then my daughter then 17 surgeries in 2006 . I
        2007 husband had a heart attack while stair skating and we kept taking care of him at home. He learned to do life all over again but now the dementia from chronic progressive Multiple Sclerosis was so controlling. I couldn’t ask my daughter for the help he needed n my son well too much. The ostrich left. Both kids incredibly married n both my children are extremely successful. They have their own friends, watch their health n keep all their appointments with the life long mists at sloan Kettering n.y c. Yes; we laugh, we’re grateful! I did several years with chemo it doesn’t help. So I have a central pic li e because I gave up the port after an infection with my port. It was an infection I could do nothing about . It came from my body disliking the Hubert needle. So life has been a tad rough. I worked until 2 years ago. That’s when Mayo in Rochester Minnesota accidentally perforated my only left small intestine. Yes my daughter was told I wasn’t going to survive yet I did. I can’t work I have an 8 hour hydration infusion 7 days a week to stay alive. My ileostomy from my mayo surgery requires the help of htdration. Talk about a drag. My kids successful married and happy with something I lost while a caregiver and mom: FRIENDS and get this mantra are their colleagues close to my age. However I’m told u need to find my own friends! I did parenting correct, they are independent, happy despite it all. All of our lives have been invaded by illness that came as unwanted visitors to over stay their visits to our bodies. We move forward. I’ve done it all. What I’ve been in sear h of is friendship. I’m not interested in inserting myself into any male persons life. I’m interested in friendships to last my lifetime, to laugh, have fun, shop, talk, just be real. I don’t dabble in social media as I found it to be more detrimental than positive for me. Either there is too much coupling, family happy together( I dont have) friends that out did me with success, timeshares, early retirement ( women look at me as a threat) really. I can’t believe it myself. The others I can’t keep up with their lifestyle so they left me. I’m funny as hell given a chance, creative and just want to live life not exist. So if you have room on your friendship list I live on the East End of Long Island. For Christmas I would live a friend or friends to talk . I feel like I’m on an isolated island. How could this happen ? There are so many people in this world and I’m friendly it’s just not enough. Also, I’m told I look younger than my years. My heart feels high spirited n happy when I dont feel so alone. Mt daughter doesn’t have time for me between marriage, her life, her friends her career, her home, her husband( not in that order) I’ve tried various meetups but the ones I’m interested in for friendship state on line their “meet ups ” are full. Their membership three people. Seriously? I’m not in favor of traveling to n.y.c. it’s just not me, I don’t want to hang out at fast food joints. Other than that I’m an open book. No mysteries. My only con tact now is a phone conversation weekly with a woman , 80 yrs. Old who won’t leave her home. She has no interest .she has a gaggle of grandchildren and growing numbers of great grandchildren. My children can’t have their own children. So no grandchildren for me. I wish for grown up friendships without it being my daughter who is too busy. So if you like keep me in mind

      2. Home alone sucks. My husband died my grandson was murdered.there’s no point I want to go there’s nobody I want to see and I don’t want anybody to see me. I’m just so tired of everything

      3. Hey, Faye

        I hope your doing better. I just read your post and I feel somewhat the same as you. I could use a friend and it sounds like you could too

      1. Hi Richard, I am in Texas as well….where are you? I am currently in Arlington looking to move to North Dallas area about an hour away from here. I am 59, will be 60 in January. I was married for 30 years and have been divorced for 10 years now.

  24. I am in a small town in NE Ohio. Would love to meet people my age. I am a 62 yr old woman who keeps myself up, church goer, love the outdoors, love animals especially my dogs, like fishing, camping, yard stuff. I have had a crappy adult life. Never have known what real love is like as I never had a good marriage or a good relationship with a good man. I was adopted too so I have never felt like I belonged anywhere. I moved here to be closer to my kids but rarely hear from them. I have no friends here except for my church family. Nothing here for people to socialize. There is a senior center but they are way older than me and all know each other.

    1. I read thousands and ten-thousands of comments from people who are very sad to be alone yet none of them has been trying to contact the others to form a group and move to another town together and live in the same building or neighbourhood. Lets discuss our needs and capabilities, find a place and a life style that will be suitable to everyone in the group and work towards to realize it. Living in another country can be a good option also.

      Okay, I go first and give you an email address that I can discard if I get replies from some sick people, its worth to try:
      [email protected]

      I am a female senior, divorced and living alone. Absolutely no romantic connections.


    2. Hi, I’m a 55 yr old woman never married no kids and a medical professional. On paper probably look great. I make friends easily but through rhenyears treachery or something losing contact has. Lost them alll. I have no one to call when I need to talk. Prove a is huge part of,it. Fear is a huge Part or it. HwT to do ina few years and a woman whose no real physically strong living in the middle of nowhere. Not to mention I’m an lonely and depressed and anxious as a person can be. Modern medicine has been a joke.

      Is this it ? I’m so scared and my 2orst nightmare actually happened. I’m your 20 and 30’s you know deep down you still,have a chance , I feel my chances are gone. Huge student loans. Renting so no paid off mortgGe as I should have.

      I’m so damn lost. To meet me you’d never know it..

      My dog of 8 years just died a long sad dec.ine with demetia.

      I Can’t seem to get interested or focused enough to really build some hobbies but flowers did help this summer but now it’s grey for the next 8.months in upstate ny.

      No baby (my dog). Nothing to hold my interest . Menopause brain.

      I’m no good for the online thing. These men see me coming a mile away plus I am in too bad of shape to even think about it.

      I feel us women who are mostly normal with major issues and over 50 are screwed.

      Thank you for listening. I am ,ost and da. Near ending it

      1. HI There,
        I know the feeling of your friendly outgoing person, i have a question for you, is lonely to you without having any children,

      2. Patti, I’m certainly almost exactly in your shoes. I am retired medical professional. After leaving work and my babies (2 kitties) I have no family n or friends. Differently, I married nine years ago. Think I was looking not to be alone n have a partner later in life. To my surprise two years in I found out he’d fooled me and is adult Asperger’s autism. It’s horrible of horrible. He had health issues and of course I jumped in. That became my life, an extension of work, getting his health issues resolved. I was so busy even after autistic diagnosis, getting his health fixed I paid no attention to losing my life, friends, hobbies and activities I enjoyed. There’s too much of that except to say I was his primary caregiver and many said that’s why he married me…He never was a partner as I wanted in marriage and financially after retiring early, I need his income to stay in my house until I can sell it and then move n separate. He’s told me he’s going with me because he’s got nobody… well life has gone to nothing. For a while I went to a church I loved but he hated how close they were and we went to another place. There I never had friends n no resource info. I’ve settled into doing nothing almost daily except think how can I find myself again or should I. Depression n anxiety drive me further into isolation. A therapist had me join group at senior center but those folks aren’t me. I have nobody to call n talk for real. I used to love cooking but that became a burden cause he’s out of control n eats all in sight yet doesn’t cook or know how. I got hurt bringing n groceries last May cause too heavy fir him n him so so slow. Surgery to fix my quad tear started even more down spiral. He just went completely far out that I get nothing. He’s ruined my house I had 36 yrs before him immaculately. He complains about money cause no paychecks from work but refuses get part-time job. I did go back for a while but coming home to him ended that. There’s so much I don’t want to bore you. I just want you to know you’re not alone n spirit. To me having spiritual life is great yet I need contact n socialization I had easily before. Finally I tried a senior community n was told too expensive and I’m too young fir most….I’m lost now n dejected. Live on East coast near Washington DC. Don’t know how to connect if you’d want since this is public site. Perhaps if we reply again I’ll share email if you ok w that. Reading your info helps I still know need to do something as well as talk.


      3. Hi Patti. I can very much identify with your note. I am 63, have had some spine issues and very limited in my activities. Before this happened about 7 years ago I was traveling as a RN consultant in the medical field, I had a big circle of friends, children who loved and respected me, grandchildren, and a husband. Since my medical issues began I’ve not been able to do the things I used to, and my friends drifted away until there was no one left. They all loved me when I was entertaining, and when I was down – they lost interest in me as if I were bringing something negative to their lives because I had to spend so much time at home or in bed.

        My children used to think i was smart and contemporary, and I was always doing nice things for them like help them with money issues, babysitting, and making family dinners. Once I became unable to offer them anything, they began to treat me in a condescending manner, acting like my texts or calls were a bother and they just were gone as I had nothing to offer. Now they respond to anything I say like I am ridiculous, roll their eyes, tell me they do t have time for me, and say hateful things as if they are annoyed that I bother them. I’m amgry about that. They have take been happy to take all my money, but now that I have no money and can’t stand up long enough to make a meal. For thanksgiving coming up they are al coming to my house. I’ve told them it’s very hard for me to make a meal and that I can’t stand up for long, and not one of them offered to bring a dish, but they are bringing their families. I feel used. They talk about me like I’m a fool, often to my face, and they call only when they need something. They ask me to babysit even though, even though I can’t handle it for any length of time. They are very rude and condescending and disrespecful. If i say anything about their behavior I just get hateful responses.

        I have a husband, but he barely speaks to me and when he does, he says the same three sentences every day, has began making all the decisions without my input. He travels every week and takes female coworker out for meals and flirts, but of course lies to me, and for some reason I’m always made to feel like the jerk if I say anything about his lack of interest in me.

        Overall, it’s been very hurtful to discover I don’t have anyone who loves me enough to Include me in their lives when I have nothing to offer. Like you, I sometimes just want to end it. Am falling asleep but would love to know if you could use a pen pal. Maybe we could be that and help each other out. I’m going to send this before I fall asleep, but let me know if you’d like to write. Take care. Hope we can communicate and give each other someone to talk to. Take care, hope to talk soon.

      4. I read your letter. I understand how you feel. I have lost so much lately as well. My once in a lifetime dog Buddy died 3 years ago and I miss him every day. Losing him was harder than the death of my parents and brother. I just got a rescue senior dog whose owner had died. She was in a shelter for 9 months. She is so happy now and so happy when I come home. It has helped me immensely. Adopting a kitten if you like cats could help you as well. It was just my first thought for you.

      5. Hi friend,
        I, too, am 63 and in a loveless 34 yr old marriage. My husband is married to screens, and spends all his time away from work in front of them. Together, we have three grown sons who have gone on to make lives for themselves. Whilst the boys were young I spent all my energy and time focusing on being the best mom I could. My spouse was not a co-parent but enjoyed his solitude as he appears to do now. He earned the money and I did everything else, cook, clean, child rearing, yard work, etc. Now that my sons are grown and on their own I feel as if there is a huge void in my life. The spouse and I live in the same house but never communicate, ever. Everyday, I feel like I am going crazy from isolation, loneliness, despair and depression. There aren’t many options for me to try and bring joy into my life. Being able to chat with ppl my age in similar situations is a comfort, though.

      6. I am a 67 yr old woman. My husband of 30 yrs took his life16 yrs ago. He had severe bipolar disorder and in as much as he was the love of my life it was exhausting. I have no interest in going down that road again. I got a dog and 2 cats after he died and they saved me. I literally don’t know what I would have down without them. Of course they became my babies but that’s ok. I’ve now lost the dog and one of the cats but my last cat and I are hanging in there. Pets can be a blessing.

        I am recently retired and have moved from a city to a small town. I am living in my step-daughters remodeled garage. It has been a challenge with the move and settling in. The problem is there are no senior centers/ activities in this area and I’m talking about within 45 minute drive except those that are religious oriented which I am not intersted in. Its hard to develope friendships without some social outlet.

        I do alone fine. My life was so crazy with my husband that the peace and quiet are great. I can easily hermit down into my little apartment and let the world go by. But I don’t think that a great thing for me.

        I just found this website and feel for so many that write here. I know about depression and feeling as if everything is always focused on what “they” (husbands, boyfriends, kids etc, take your pick) need and want over yourself. The problem is there are no easy answers. Than God for the cat.

      7. Hey there middle aged healthcare worker. Sounds like some menopause…dont be dismayed im 64 & went thru what you are at this point.

    3. I’m a recent widower myself – Lost her to Alzheimer 2 years ago and I feel strong enough to make one or two contacts out there.
      I’m Rodney Sulch, from Chiswick Illinois (born and raised) but moved to Canada for work (with the NATO organization). I’m flexible and won’t mind relocating for the right One.
      I’m just a traditional laid-back guy seeking He’s Other Half. A great Companion can sure be priceless.

      1. Just to say hello!
        Merry Christmas & Happy New Year!
        I am a Chinese divorced (two and half years ago) woman, was born in Hong Kong!

      2. I k now how you feel I lost my husband in a terrible accident in april of 17 im so thankful my dogs lived I at least have them but it is not the same as having human companionship I feel soo lonely my family thinks I should spend my life alone live for me they say but they never come around or invite me to any activities I do not know what there reason is for that thinking

      3. If you would just like a friend for now, I think men in general, are more fun to be with than women although there are some good women friends out there (My best friend and I have been friends for decades and I love keeping in touch with her tho’ she’ s far away).

        Just a thought.

    4. I am a female and turning 62 in a few months. I have no family/friends anymore and feeling more alone than I have ever felt before. I wouldn’t mind finding some penpals/phone/text buddies. If interested in becoming friends please let me know!!!

      1. Hi. I am a 65 year old woman and live alone. I feel lonely although I do have weekly conversations with my son. It would be nice to be in touch with you.

      2. I am a young 70 year old man who stays active and busy. My girlfriend just died a few weeks ago and my greyhound just died on Sept 19, 2018. I have a servant’s heart but I am really lonely, a need some companionship and refuse to go on a dating site

        Alone in Ellenton, Fl My name is Chey

      3. Hello Karen, i have been thinking about penfriends for a while now, i was thinking of the old fashioned pen to paper sort.
        I live in England Uk, am 61 too.
        I have four adult children who have their own lives and so empty home as i am many years separated, oh and i have a dog that i adore.
        Karen, I won’t make a big thing of it, it would be just nice to get a letter like the old days, nan or grandad or penfriend, never get these anymore. Electronic has taken it.

      4. Hi Robert: so sorry to hear of your recent loses. Just thought I’d respond. I know how it is to feel alone. My name is Charlotte I live in New York.

      5. Greetings Pam writing to you from west central Indiana the Terre Haute area. My mother took het life at the age of 37. I was 7 then now 59 trust me when I state you feel like doing the same. Life is too short and it an or s9lve anything. My mother was a concerpianist. Drop me a line if you care to?

      6. I just turned 60 i wasnt blessed with a decent family of origin i divorced two abusive men.i raised classically selfish daughters of the its all about me generation Theyve been to jail addictions and one dropped her adhd fetal alcohol effected child on me with severe behavior problems and diappeared to do more drugs.Ive tried church and been to sereval i dont belong and frankly its the man show all over again .churches largely ignore older women.i have a number of serious health issues.I am introvert by nature but even introverts get lonely.I think aging in this day and age is for the birds .men around my age are jackasses who dont want an older women these old geezers want a 40 yr old.they had a shitty entitled attitude.and dont respect women only young and pretty need appy so i wait …i dont care about living anymore existing is more like it

      7. Susan, I too will be 62 in July, am married and also find it hard for to make new friends and get this….my name is Susan as well. I live in OH so not sure where your from but would love a pen pal.

      8. Karen, I turn 59 in two months and never had a pen pal.I live in Indiana, I ran across this site early this morning, sounds kinda fun&interesting!

      9. Karen – I just typed a whole reply to you but it disappeared so I’ll try again (tried to leave name, etc. but clicked myself away from my message.) I know how lonely you can feel when few if any, family and friends are not around. It seems to be harder to make good friends when you get older and I, for one, though I have many interests, don’t like doing things by myself only.

        Most people thrive best with a strong support system of caring family and friends, women especially need this. We are wired to be with men and family and to have some girlfriends and men friends in our lives. I know I miss my ex-family and the few family members I have are 3000 mi. away across the country. My only family is my daughter – we love each other dearly but truly do not have many interests in common. Thus, I do without.

      10. Hello Karen
        I came across your old message on Senior planet and was wondering how you are doing now in year 2020. If you want a pen pal email me

    5. Hi
      I live in Ontario, Canada and oh my I can so relate..I live in a very neglected fact I have been living like this for years.
      I have two beautiful little grandchildren..
      I would very much like to meet people who also can relate and perhaps live close enough to meet for coffee.
      I’m 72..and so much lack attention..some compassion and just pure friendship.
      If you wish to contact me
      My name is Beth

      1. So sorry for your loss. It surely magnifies the holiday blues. It makes me sad to see so many of us as we get older feel so alone. We all have a story but yet so many are similar. Holidays are very tough for me. As our children grow up they live in a me world. I hope my grand children do not hurt my own daughter as much as she has hurt me by shutting me out of her life. It would help to know what she shut me out for but I believe she is just unhappy her self and takes it out on me. I seem to have a good life on the outside but it is very lonely on the inside. Come on January help me get through this. Living in Florida should be wonderful but yet it’s so lonely.

      2. So sorry for your loss. It surely magnifies the holiday blues. It makes me sad to see so many of us as we get older feel so alone. We all have a story but yet so many are similar. Holidays are very tough for me. As our children grow up they live in a me world. I hope my grand children do not hurt my own daughter as much as she has hurt me by shutting me out of her life. It would help to know what she shut me out for but I believe she is just unhappy her self and takes it out on me. I seem to have a good life on the outside but it is very lonely on the inside. Come on January help me get through this. Living in Florida should be wonderful but yet it’s so lonely.

    6. I no the feeling im 62. Looken too meet a nice from ohio also i enjoy being.with. my.grandkids and my daughter and i also.enjoy the things u do i been divorce from my ex wife 2 year’s. Now. I know the feeling of being alone if it wasn’t for my grandkids i dont know what i on.facebook if.u.would like too talk.

    7. Hi, I read your profile. I’m a lonely married for 23 years female seeking friendship. I just want a friend whom I can vent to from time to time and will not use my kindheart. I’m from Charlotte, NC and just seeking a honest loyal friendship.

    8. Hi, Anne I live in NW Arkansas–moved here alone sight unseen–lovely place to live but I find it hard to meet people. I am single, never married and no kids and I live alone. I have long term issues from a serious car accident and I am not as mobile as a lot of people my age. Basically estranged from all my brothers and sisters except for one brother and all my life long friends fell away due to moving, alcoholism ,whatever. Sometimes I feel I am drifting in outer space with no gravity. I have lots of hobbies and I can spend lots of time alone happily but do long for deep connections. I do have two friends here that I feel good about but want a wider network and it seems many come for a while and then don’t work out

    9. Hi Suzanne, also live in southern Ohio and just love to be friends. You may be wanting a younger person to be friends with but I’m 75 and still feel like I’m 25 but you know how that is, that only a mind thing but keeps me young at heart. Still married for 52 years but wife is not interested in me sexually anymore because of copd and colitis but just looking to chat and maybe lift someone up and become friends. If interested I have email and phone or FB. Bill

    1. I am going to be 65 in a few weeks. I have been disabled since I was 52 I am alone. a widow who had no children. I am alone, lonely , broken, sad and broke. I live pay check to pay check. I long to live some where a lot warmer than Michigan. I have been around death a lot in my life and taken care of four of my own family. Now I am afraid that I will die alone. What do I do?

      1. Sorry about all your pain and losses I lost my first wife and went back home to take care of my mother for 18 years just lost her thus year 91 years old got married again last year lasted one year she left me .I’m in tenn trying to get back to Florida I’m 72 years old,would love to chat with you do you have a Facebook or e mail

      2. Hi Lorraine Was saddened by your story but after reading many of these notices, it seems our culture here in the U. S. is proned to abandon their own (family and friends). The Bible says it’s not good for a man to be alone (including women of course) but many people, including family especially, seem to grow colder and colder regarding their concern for others. I am quite alone now. My family support system is very weak (two bros’ and best friend are 3000 miles across the country) . People here are nice enough on the surface but stick to their own support systems like glue – older people don’t seem to be willing to “let you in” to their tight knit family and espec. friend “circles”.

  25. You may be interested in the results of an Older Bloggers Survey—I was. The friendships and social life in the world of older bloggers was their second most important reason for blogging, and was mentioned again and again in their comments. They may be virtual friendships but they are powerful and positive. Older people (like myself) seem to find blogging far more comfortable than other social media networks such as those on Facebook or Twitter or Pinterest. Lots of discussion here, if I’m permitted to include a link:

  26. All the lonely people. I need a new city or town to live out my senior years. Los Angeles and all California are too expensive for me now, even though I was born and raised here. I will have to leave all the past I know and start over. Are you living somewhere you love that is welcoming to new comers who are no longer young? Any suggestions for me? Thank you friends.

      1. Gena….btw, I spent a few months in a mobile home park on the main road in Alamogordo in the 1970’s. As you said, it was low cost and low crime and didn’t see any snakes or scorpions as I was warned about. :)

    1. Buck Eyecreek, , I’ve actually been considering CA as I’m in need of cosmetic procedures and the best doctors for me all seem to be there. However, for now exploring the DE shore areas and want to meet fellow unlimited life extensionists there or considering spending any future time there.

    2. hello lonely lady i am a lonely widower living in a wonderful town in Arkansas in the beautiful Ozark mounts i am a very nice looking 77 yrs. young man i have a beautiful home big. you will love it hear i think i plan to be married in January but you will be welcome in my home until we can find you a place to live that you will like Jackie Smith Bentonville, Arkansas home of wall mart.

    3. Hello, when I sell my house in rural Michigan I will move to Greensboro NC and have an apartment. It is not particularly expensive and there is a lot to do there. i am passing along my plan in case it suggests something to you as well.

    4. Hello Yvonne where do you live? I am 62 years old, living in Miami. I don’t know but lately I am feeling so lonely and alone.
      very worry. sometimes I need someone to talk.

      I would like to hear from you again.

      Martha T

      Hi Buck: Check Miami area, you may love this city if you love the sunshine and the ocean.
      If you look on Collins avenue or Ocean Drive in Miami is very expensive but you can find Comdominiuns in the same
      area one block distance to the beach with very good prices.
      I love Miami, I live nearby. I am 62 years old and still working. By the way, I am not a realtor.


    5. Hi This is for Buck I’m 63 and presently live in So Ca. I Am also lonely and would like to find a new place to live. I just don’t know where! If youde like a friend please

      contact me. Laurie

  27. Hi
    I live alone in Portland , I moved here a year ago to be close to my son who promptly moved away.
    I have no one and I do get very lonely. My dog died 4 months ago, I keep busy but there are times when I just long for company. Im 73 and being old happened so fast

      1. Hi Yvonne;
        Since I feel the same way you do, there might be some merit in exchanging emails?
        I live in So. California (Ventura), very lonely, but full of life. Would like to exchange ideas, maybe visit each other?
        I usually spend the month of May and October in the Olympic Peninsula, renting a lake house.
        I am in my seventies. Ursula

    1. Yvonne, my name is Bill and I will chat with you anytime. I’m married but need a womans friendship. I’m on most medias, email Phone messinger and Fb. Would love to hear from you sometime , I’m a young 75 yo. I live in southern Ohio.

  28. Hi, I’m 60 years old with a 16 yr old only child! Moved out of NYC after retiring 5 yrs ago. I live in Fayetteville NC now. Worked as a teacher for 31 years and I am a single Mom. Obviously my child is now at an age of impending independence, so I have been on the lonely side of things. I don’t know if I’m looking for a relationship so much as friendship with a guy. Definitely not looking for marriage! Dating sites are awkward as you don’t write in your profile “ love long walks , but oh yeah, can’t really do it anymore.” Physical limitations catch up with us all, some sooner than others. But I still like to vacation, go out, etc. Just “with who? ” is the issue.
    If you’re close by and want to meet for coffee, let me know.

  29. I’m 64. I have health issues so that I’m not always able to be out and about. If I go grocery shopping once a week it’s a big deal. Sometimes I can manage to go to the movies but it’s just not the same going alone. I try to keep my mind sharp; I’m an avid reader, a writer and a beta reader. I have online friends, but nothing replaces being able to actually be with someone and hear their voice and look into their eyes, and have a good laugh together.

    I feel pathetic at times because loneliness strikes randomly. I’m not sure where to go from here. I can’t do more than what I’m doing now, physically. So how do I meet people?

    1. Hi Debbie
      I’m almost 68 years old I’ve lost my husband recently. We had been married for 46 years. I have two children and three grandchildren but they don’t bother very much( I’ve only seen my son once this year.
      Everything I need to do is overwhelmingly difficult because I too struggle with a chronic back problem.
      Iwould love to be able to talk to y more if that’s what you want. Not sure who can see this so don’t knohow to go about this.
      Anyway it’s even nice to share a little bit.
      Hope you will maybe talk to me again.
      I enjoy reading and talking on phone to friends and going out as much as I am able.
      I hope we can speak again

      1. Ann,
        I currently, perhaps temporarily, live in West Palm Beach, FL. My husband left and lives with another woman .

        I seem to have so much in common with Debbie and you.
        It would be nice to speak.
        Shirley Piazza

      2. I’m 62 and live in Port St. Lucie Florida. My grown children moved out of state. My husband works very long hours and I’m so lonely too. Can’t afford to retire yet. We moved to a new neighborhood months ago and everyone keeps to themselves and it’s so quiet. I’m going out of my mind daily trying to figure out how to get out of here.

      3. Donna, not sure what you mean about trying to get out of here. I’m trying to get out of PA to the warmer South.

      4. Please list places to live that are great to live for seniors. I need to be in a place where people are friendly, good medical care, public transpoetation

      5. Hi Ann Garrard and everyone! Hope you all are hanging in there. I too am very disabled from a orthopedic spine problem. but am able to exercise, sit a little, stand a little if I don’t stand still and can sometimes walk over 30 minutes, IF I haven’t strained my back lately. Looking forward to the anti-aging stuff that’s now in the experimental stages. It may be able to help with our back and many other problems with aging. You know what they’re saying?! — that almost all diseases and conditions are caused by aging — some even before we’re born! I’m sure a lot of you guys have heard of telomeres, an aging marker. They say we all lose 1/3 of them when we’re born! So the anti aging may help children and the unborn.

      6. Hi ann. I would love to talk. My husband has a poor diagnosis and I am afraid I too will be alone soon.

      7. Hi Debbie,

        I am 64 and struggle with back problems and a scoliosis also. I would like to meet someone and get married again but I find men do not want to marry again.
        Anyone have any ideas I live in WI…


    2. Hi, I am 73 years old and am divorced after 28 years being marriage. I lost a lot due to divorce and getting ripped off by contractors who were supposed to fix a home I purchased. I don’t have much money. He got most of our things. I am now living in the state I was divorced in, which is the same state we were married in. I left him and filed for divorce five years ago. I am now regretting the divorce. We still talk, but he says he doesn’t want us to be a couple again. I have no family for friends here, I have only been back here for one month. I am so lonely I can hardly stand it. I can’t get pass leaving him and filing for divorce. I want him back, but don’t think that will happen. I live in Henderson Nevada and need to find some sort of help. Maybe a good friend also. Anyone have any ideas?

      1. Gracie, I’m not anywhere near Nevada, but if you can get to the point where you don’t want to be with a guy who doesn’t want to be with you, it may help but I don’t know why he doesn’t want to be with you so I’m kind of lost when it comes to helping with this issue. As for just being alone, if you’ve seen my other posts on here, you know I hate the idea of being alone, especially living alone.

      2. Gracie don’t regret the divorce. I am sure you had good reasons at the time. Being alone at an older age is hard well after a divorce it is hard at any age. I think sometimes it is easier to look back at the relationship and try to gleam something good in it than to hope for the possibility of a good relationship in the future.

        Being an older women is not for the weak. With the ratio of women to men being uneven as we age I think we have the right to be concerned but not necessarily hopeless. There is a site called Meetup. It is not a singles site but an interest site where people can get together and do things like movies, crafting whatever. There is not cost to sign up other than what the event might cost. They have groups all over the world. I go to a couple different groups.

    3. That’s how my children treat me to after my husband passed away in2013! I have no one plus I never learned to drive so I go out once a month to get meds and food! I am looking for friends to talk to and smile with I have not smiled in years

      1. I am 78. And alone. Ex with another woman. 54 yr old daughter living w me now. But with her work I get left far behind. I have serious back pain and frontal lobe brain atrophy. I am purely miserable. Hardly can go out much. Discouraged. Guess all I have is God. /Pat

      2. Hi, I am sorry for the loss of your husband. My mama never got a license until her hubby passed, she got car and licenses after 50

      3. I’m not sure if we’re replying to me or not! I was in a car accident when I was 16 when I get in the driver’s seat of a car all I see is the red 18 wheeler coming at us, I wasn’t the driver! And I see the jaws of life cutting me out of the car. At 55 I have never forgot those images I don’t like to ride sometimes and with new drivers and people it’s not a safe feeling at all!?

      4. I am also in need of people to have conservations with – I’m widowed and elderly – in good health, active – still drive but just live alone and only have TV for companion – not interested in dating – just a friend

      5. I need someone like you in my life! I’m 55 widow and can’t do much after having 2 back surgeries and 2 neck surgeries! I need a friend! I’m miserable liveing with my sister how verbally abused me all the time.

      6. Hi Jamie Lee. Would love to chat with you. I’m married but you can never have too many friends. I love to listen and sometimes give a little advice. I’ve been married 52 years but very lonely with wife being sickly. I’m a young 75 yo. Don’t know how old you are but if you need a smile or someone to console you then I’m your man. Have email, phone or messinger. Bill

    4. Hi all,
      I’m a 58 year old woman who lives alone in N.Y. I have been divorced for many years. I have tried different dating sites, but nothing has worked out for me. I’m wondering if there are men and women who live close by who would like to get together for coffee, lunch, whatever. Thanks

      1. Hi Debi – I’m in my 60’s and recently retired. I have 2 children, but do not see them often – though they live in the state. I live on Long Island. Where in NY are you? If fairly local, I’d like to meet for cup of coffee or lunch. What do you say? I am looking to make new friends – it’s very hard to make friends at this age – btw I have been divorced for over 10 yrs so I am single.

      2. Hi Lisa…….Im on Long Island also, Im 63 and divorced now for 12 years. I hate living alone. I have 2 daughters and thats about it. Im at a point in my life where I feel stuck and dont know what to do . Im feeling depressed about everything in my life. If you want to meet up for lunch etc …. let me know. Im in Suffolk co. :) Carrie

      3. Hi I’m in NYC and NJ but stuck up in the boonies near Cornell U in Ithaca. I’m trying to sell my house to get back to civilization down the shore. I haven’t had good pizza in 10 years. My husband left me and my mother was buried yesterday. I have never been so scared. My rescue dogs, cat & turtle keep me alive.

      4. Hello Maureen, I am 54 in phx az. My 1st time on this site or any site announcing the emptiness inside. I didn’t say how old you were but all the same I’m sorry you lost your mom. Has been over 18 years and I still wake myself up at night shouting for her. But what really caught me about your comments but the fact that the dogs cat Turtle keep you going ever me also is my dog three cats that adopted me and my hundred fifty pound tortoise who has is on the fork to eat with yes I said Fork then he doesn’t pick it up he expect you to hand it to him. As I sit here right now my little dog he’s been having a hard time breathing for 3 days now the vet on Friday take him some antibiotics it’s only come back in a week but I couldn’t wait a week cuz he’s breathing like 90 breath in a minute. It took him back in today we did blood work some of the test will be back tomorrow. The vet thinking valley fever I’m thinking congestive heart failure but I’m hoping not these tests were mainly roll out valley fever and tick fever. But I just had to get back with you but I was reading and saw that the cats and the dogs and turtle keep you going. But hey you’re from New York-New Jersey area you’re tough a bit and you’ll be okay

      5. Sue – Is your dog okay ? I so hope so as I know I panic every time my little angel coughs or throws up or something. I pray your little friend is all right.
        So funny about your huge tortoise !! And I thought I was weird having guinea pigs – I love the way they “Wheeek, wheeek,” at me ( but only if I wait too long to feed them.)

      6. I’m sorry for the loss of your Mom – it is like no other loss. I, too, have just my sweet dog and two funny guinea pigs for company and find they are more attentive to me than most people have ever been – unfortunate state of the world today !

      7. This I think is for Maureen. Don’t understand my computer. Writing to say I fear losing my husband and mother every day. We are all disabled to some extent, all in different ways. None of us are able to do much physical work. I’m probably the healthiest of the 3 of us. Mom and my husband are not actually ill but husband says he has no energy due to fatty liver and he’s hunched over and won’t go to a doctor to find out why. He does need a shoulder replacement, which he doesn’t want to get and I doubt it’s a matter of life and death. Mom is in good shape for her age, as she looks very young for her age (she had a little cosmetic surgery many years ago), and drives a Ford Expedition, which takes some strength to get in and out of. But any time, there could be bad news and I worry. We are all life-extensionists but we are not all that disciplined with the lifestyle. (Look up “longevity escape velocity” for more about life extension.) AND do far there is NO real anti-aging available! I have no children, no siblings, no local family, no local friends, just a small family in South Carolina, who I see yearly, and just a clan on father’s side who I talk with but haven’t seen since the 1980’s. I do not drive and don’t want to. Maybe I will never need to because self driving vehicles may be available in a few years. Again, scared every day. My goal is to have a community home for life extensionists, which of course would be a very positive environment, or at least have extra positivism because everyone believes anything is possible nowadays with life extension. Right now I’m in Pennsylvania but hoping to move to either Myrtle Beach or Charleston, SC asap. I do not want to live alone because all my loved ones died off!

      8. Hi Sherry,

        My name is Nicole I live in Greenville S.C.I am 38 year old woman with a beautiful 3 year old daughter. I realize I am not a senior obviously but I too am very lonely. I am an only child with no real family or support system either only a young child who depends on me. I am in a very bad marriage of 6 years. I have been a stay at home mom since she was born and I just recently went back to work part time. I was forced to leave home young and made my living in the restaurant industry so that is what I went back to. I am very scared because I don’t have the means to support my child on my own and leave my husband unless I work 2 jobs to keep afloat which obviously leaves my young daughter in the lurch. I had planned on just sucking it up and staying with my husband despite his sexual dysfunction and emotional abuse. So that I could home school my child and educate with good Christian values and the idea of throwing her in public schools these days terrifies me I am sure being from your generation you can understand why. Unfortunately I now realize that to be impossible as I am married to a man who does not behave in a Christian way at all which I imagine will make it very hard to achieve that.
        A few months ago I suffered a violent miscarriage that lasted for about 3 months. During that time my husband began cheating, drinking excessively, all while continuing to verbally and emotionally abuse me. Now he threatens me every day with leaving me and my child homeless and says he doesn’t care what happens to either of us. Last night was the worst he tried to find his gun which I hid threating to kill himself while my child was scared and crying. At a minimum I could use someone to talk to. But my ultimate goal here is to find someone who needs companionship, help around the house, and someone to ultimately take care of them in the twilight of their life so they won’t have to face being alone sick and forgotten with no one to care for them. In exchange I am looking for companionship, hopefully blooming into a surrogate mother daughter type of situation, and a home that is safe, calm, and godly to allow me and my daughter a safe haven while I find a way to support us without working 80 hours a week. I am saving up the money to get my real estate license but even after I get it will take me a year or two to become financially solvent enough for us to live alone. I am not looking for a sitter for her I have that worked out. I just need a safe, secure, home environment for us both. Also I am not interested in dating or anything of the kind just raising my daughter so no worries of strange people coming around etc. I don’t drink, I am clean, responsible, and kind. My mother is still living but doesn’t offer much in the way of emotional support and won’t allow us to stay with her even for a little while so I can get on my feet financially I have begged and the answer is still no.
        Maybe we could chat and learn more about each other. Perhaps if we found we would be good companions we could help one another of a bad situation.

      9. Hi Debi,

        Like you and many others, I’ve realized that I should develop new relationships with other mature singles, who live within, at least, driving distance of where I am located (NYC) and have some common interests. I’m single, live in and work in NYC, don’t smoke nor drink alcohol [just my personal preference], and prefer being outdoors. After reading your post and those of others women on this site, who live in/near NYC, I thought to propose a casual meetup. You and anyone other woman, who is looking to meet new potential friends in the NYC area – let’s meet me at Central Park this Saturday (July 14th) at Noon. For our first ‘new friend’ meetup, let’s keep it to women only then we can decide way-forward after we meet. Right now, you can’t miss me as I have a boot cast and crutches – these are temporary due to an accident. Normally, I’m very active and enjoy the outdoors (biking, hiking, walking, volleyball, exploring, etc.); however, for the next few months, I’ll have to settle for shorter walks and/or relaxing on a blanket in Central Park – hopefully, with some new friends. So, if meeting in Central Park this Saturday (July 14th) at Noon appeals to you or anyone else reading this, let’s meet at the Fifth Avenue & 86th Street entrance to Central Park. We can then find a spot in the Park. If you decide to come, bring something to sit on, a beverage, and snack for yourself. We can relax and just talk. Should it get too hot or rain, we can find a nearby alternate (e.g. go into the Metropolitan Museum of Art or other). The more the merrier. For those of you not near NYC, may I suggest that one of you take the lead in your area and post details for a very casual ‘getting to know you new friends’ meetup in your area. First steps are always hard but they usually lead to great things! All my best, Grace

      10. Hi Grace,
        I was wondering if your “meetup” on July 14th, 2018, in Central Park, was a success. If you get this, please let me know. I live in Hackettstown, NJ, about an hour from NYC. If you have a group I would love to join!!

      11. Hi Grace,
        I am so happy to have found this website. I hope your “get together” yesterday went well. I live about an hour from NYC, in Hackettstown, NJ. If you have a group I would love to be a part of it. If you can, please let me know.

      12. i was in the same situation when i was in my twenties. im in my sixties right now . the best thing i ever did was to get out. dont ever allow anyone to abuse you and your child .

    5. Hello all. Senior centers. Friendly visitors. Social workers. Volunteer. You have to leave the house. Or else find someone to invite in. Do something. You really can make a small effort every day. It requires you do something. Different.

    6. I am also a widow — with no family, not a single cent to spend after paying the monthly bills (gas is rationed here!), a free-and-clear thankfully home in a town of 400 that has not one single business (not even a bar or grocery store), and no work/friend support system. I’ve gotten over my disappointment that a lifetime of monthly savings was spent on cancer treatments for my husband, who was a contractor and who during the 2008 meltdown, had to cancel his privately held company’s life and health insurance. My company was separate and I had those insurances through it. He didn’t want to worry me and we’d both been so healthy, he figured..he’d get it back soon. After all, he had paid for those items also for a lifetime.

      We moved to a small town to rehab this home — cosmetic needs and now, rats, a roof — and months later, he was diagnosed. I shut down my business to take care of him at home.

      Whenhe died, I was left standing there alone and broke. And then I discovered that neighbor wives don’t appreciate the widow asking their husbands for help. I understand. And I discovered that socializing costs money. I scrounge for groceries. I quit playing tennis. I quit a church bible study group. Why? I could not afford them. I was asked to lunch/dinner but when I cannot afford restaurant food, people start to pay and I do not want them to do so. I lived a life previously where I had plenty of money.. this is a new experience. I have a great resume but now I’m 66. I keep sending it out. Not one bite …and I have to keep in mind the distance to drive as my vehicle is now aged.

      But those things I can handle. What I’m having trouble with is planning for health problems. I do not know the prices of ambulances or hospitals but I know I cannot afford them at all. Safety is on my mind. What if someting happens here at home and I need help? What if I need the care my husband needed? What if I’m driving rural and I don’t make it home? Who will notice?

      I had a flat tire not long ago. I couldn’t get the lug nuts off the SUV. I ended up walking 6 miles to town. I’m glad I have my health to do that. But…it was a wake-up call. Another time I had a problem with one eye and had to get to town (20 miles) to get something for it. I could not close it. My other eye had bad sight; I used contact lense only on the other eye. No glasses. I drove very slowly to town on gravel road, after calling two people to see if I could get help. They were out of town. Two others…well, I was watering their plants as they were with family out of town. I was proud that I did it but again… a wake up call.

      I want very much to refuse ambulance/medical service if something happens as I don’t want to live alone afterward and worry about bankruptcy or creditors. Good grief. I have only hospitalization for Medicare. I really wish I knew of safety solutions….and I’m perfectly content dying .. I truly do not get bummed out at that. I just want it to be painfless and fast. I sometimes wish I was able to know of an off-button so in the case of a health issue, no medical…just push off button I’d actually find comfort in that!

      I go weeks and months without using my voice or being with another human. It’s funny how I’ve moved from totally weirded out by the silence of this new world — after a life filled with way too much busy and people — to accepting it. It’s not the best, I know. I do miss the fun things we did…camping, backpacking, ATV’s, hunting in the back country. I dream about it!

      But it is what it is. LIfe is now a matter of acceptance. What would really comfort me though is knowing how to deal with safety issues — with no money to pay for the support others usually get to deal with such topics. That’s what I want to know. Anyone able to help with ideas? Safety when away from home and when I don’t return… Safety if something happens to me at home and no one is around to provide help. Safety if I have an illness and want to die rather than have treatment — and no rolling eyes. or pressure to change my mind. Safety. That’s what I fret about.

      1. Hi – I just want to say how much I relate to you. I’m 63, but started realizing how alone I am in my early 50s. At that time I was having a lot of cluster “headache” (clusters are tortuous pain, much worse than what tend to be called headaches or even migraines). I was far from any hospital. I don’t know if there’s anything lonelier than being alone for hours & days in pain, or the fear of it, & feeling like no one really gets that, or cares. At the time I was in a relationship with a guy in Wa. State but caring for me beyond a point was beyond his emotional range.

        Now it’s over a decade later. My parents are gone & my brother has pretty much abandoned me. I had moved to the West coast from the East in 1990, so have lost ties with older friends, other than sort of superficial contact on Facebook. The chosen family that replaced my family of origin has all died or left this area in the last ten years. I have a couple of friends left & try not to lean on them too much. But whenever anything happens for which I need help, I sort of sigh & steel myself to walk next door & ask for help, apologizing all the time.

        One of things I want to say, & that occurred to me when I read your message was, “What has happened to this world?” Why are people so cold & uncaring toward others? I had a sort of spiritual awakening around mid-life & realized how much richer life is when I am awake to where I can be of use & service. But I feel surrounded by people who are all about their own little family units, who don’t seem to think of the world as a community.

        I live in the middle of a big city (San Diego) that is overrun by younger people who come here for school, partying, the social scene. I used to be a sort of big deal on the local poetry scene but my collaborators & supporters have died or left. Young people tend to be disinterested in what an older woman who has lost her looks has to say. I get out there & attempt to meet people. I volunteer at a place that helps sick people get their laundry done & get food a few times a week. When CL still had “platonic” personal ads I met a woman through that but she has faded as my life became so difficult in the last year or so & I had to keep saying I couldn’t do stuff with her. I don’t know what the answer is, other than continuing to try & meet people. I think of all the opportunities I had when I was younger – stuff that just seemed to fall into my lap. Now yers pass & nothing happens. It’s so hard to re-establish a social life when you are older. I wish there were communities for people with similar interests (political, social, creative) to support each other – more than just online. Anyway, a sincere best to all.

    7. I am also very lonely, I am a young 73 and before I had my illness, M.E/CFS I was out and about socializing with people who I believed were friends, I soon found out that they nor my family were in the least bit interested about my illness.
      I have bought myself a mobility scooter so that I can get out and about on good days. As I write I am stopping myself from crying because I am lonely.
      They say, join a group! there are no groups where I live.
      I would do anything to have a genuine friend who I could visit and vice versa.

      1. I too am 65 and am blessed to have some clients (I now only consult). I no longer worry about the ambulance, I simply don’t go because they cost 650 dollars. My situation is that since i’ve moved to the southwest to escape the cold, I have no friends, and believe me, I’ve tried I am planning to move to southern cal in a hud senior home within 2 years and that seems like an eternity living around people that don’t get me I haven’t had any neighbors invite me to their apartments since November, even for a cup of coffee. My lease is up in November and I’m considering moving back East to be near my friends until California has a placement for me

        My mom told me as she was waiting to die in rehab to not go that route. She fell and had temporary paralysis and had that alarm around her neck and called for help Her life became a nightmare in rehab ( a very expensive one with a great reputation) and she made me promise that if I fall as a senior, get up if i can and if not wait for god because it’s a short wait (she was a nurse and lived til 93). I think she gave me good advice because I am tired of reaching out to people who are to scared to have me over because they think I want their husbands Never did that in high school or any part of my life. My sig other and I were getting ready to get back together in May – he was very healthy and died suddenly. He was my rock through all of life’s happenings and was there for me emotionally w.hen my parents died. I miss his emails and the loss of reuniting with him is huge.
        So I guess my question is due I “cowboy up” and go back to freezing cold where my friends are, or stay here in isolation

      2. kath Lawton:
        wish you lived close by I’m in magnum ok and 62 and alone no kids, own home quiet life would love to meet and chat for lunch with someone…in great health no problems …take care maryanne

    8. Hi, where are you located?

      My mother is around the same age as you and would love to meet new people and make new friendships. She Too has some health issues but would love to meet someone she can speak to and meet up with etc

    9. Debbie I am in your shoes and 61 with Chronic Immune Disorder and several other medical issues that complicate it. Like you shopping is a big deal or just doing laundry. I try not to mess my house because I know I will have a cluttered one or dirty one to live in because I just can’t clean it. Getting to the shower some days is a big deal. Today I got up at 5pm after taking meds twice in bed, I finally was driven to get up because of pelvic pain from laying down. All this because I went out to do laundry yesterday, thats it. I am now facing being alone and living alone for the rest of my life with a progressing medical issues situation. What do we do Sis? I feel your pain, I really do, but I just don’t know what we can do about it. Sometimes I think there isn’t enough ‘goodness’ left in me to offer anyone. Who would want to have someone that can’t be counted on FOR ANYTHING. I never know what I am going to be able to make a show I have prepaid for or even shower some days until afternoon or later. God help us girl, God help us. (((hugs)))

    10. Debbie:

      I live in magnum ok are you near me at all…I’m 62, alone and healthy great shape but no one no kids, parents in Biloxi have a good time… I own a house and would love to either get a roommate or work babysitting to make a few extra bucks to go see some of the cities around me…Amarillo, tulsa, dallas great cities…

  30. I too am feeling very lonely and disconnected from everyone. I would like to have someone that I can talk with, laugh with and be supportive in the time of need. I feel like I’m stuck!!!!

    1. Charlene, I feel the exact same way. It hurts, it really does. So much more. Have no way of knowing what to do. If you have found a solution please let me know. 64 yes old and never, ever did I think I would be this lonely. Andrea

      1. Andrea, I could have said the same thing you did – never, ever, did I think I would be this lonely. I’m 70.

      2. Hello Bonnie
        I am 71 , married, but we are now on different paths ,I never ever felt I would feel lonely, but I do , my son and daughter ,are very good but have their own lives to lead, and the last thing they need is a”needy” mum.
        I love to have fun, laugh .in good company, share meals out, and theatre trips.
        I realised that if I don’t get a grip and reach out, I am going to become a shrivelled prune.and perhaps a recluse”!!!!!oh shudder!!!!!
        So perhaps as you Bonny and I all feel the same , perhaps we could all become friends. and who knows , we will never feel lonely again .
        What do you think girls ??

      3. It’s all consuming. 69 years old, wanted a happy marriage to one person, but he had other plans. That lasted 25 years. Have three beautiful kids and four amazing grandchildren. Remarried someone I respected and trusted, He turned out to be a narcissist. That lasted 17 years. He left me on the day my son in law died from a brain tumor. He was having an affair with an old flame whose husband was in hospice dying from ALS. Ya can’t make this stuff up.
        Two years after that divorce I started seeing someone I graduated high school with. Turns out his married female best friend, 18 years younger, is more important than the loving, meaningful relationship I thought we had. I had a difficult time with him taking her to the movies, lunch and just hanging out. So he left me after 2 years. He thought I was unreasonable. This happened today, so I’m hurting once again and venting! Thank you to anyone who reads this and can relate.

      4. How do I join this group? I’m almost 70, in great health, but more or less a recluse. I’m an artist and a Pomeranian small dog breeder. I need a lady around my age to live with me, do arts and crafts with, and someone who loves lots of tiny dogs to play with. I live in FL.

      5. And I thought I was the only one. I am 71, with severe chronic pain, so I don’t get out much. If I could I would certainly do volunteer work but, alas, not to be. I am married, have 2 sons, who make courtesy phone calls. In fact, one lives 2 blocks from me with 4 little grandchildren I would dearly love to see. Not to be – his wife wants no part of me and my son visits with the little ones every 2 weeks for 2 hours max and now he is moving away. I doubt I will ever see either of my sons again in this lifetime. My husband who is in great shape with my encouragement has made friends and visits them often, passing at least 2 full days a week with them and when he is with me he spends entire days, from sun-up to sundown outside tinkering with all his toys. I feel discouraged, abandoned, lonely. I would volunteer or at least try but he demands that when he is here or is outside ignoring me that I be in the house. I had a good career, I was busy, spent a lot of time with my elderly mother. I have no brothers or sisters and have lost all my friends along the way, partly because of the agonizing pain no one seems to even want to talk about – family, doctors…. no one.

        And so I know how it feels. I have a lot more the say but no one to share it with. Maybe we could start chatting, learning about each other, and progress to a genuine friendship leading to more positive outlooks knowing their is 1 friend out there willing to talk of whatever and we could start putting some kind of positives in our lives, each leaning our each other to make us see out others or start doing things… who knows… maybe some day even meeting…. I reach out to you as you reach out

        Who knows maybe there is some light out there. I wanted to kill myself yesterday but when I read your post I thought – there is someone out there in my very shows. We could try in each our own way to find happiness and rid ourselves of this loliness….. just maybe

      6. Maddy and all, I am glad you did not kill yourself, Maddy. People don’t know that a better existence is coming. Those who don’t about me think I’m speaking of God, but not really, although this could come purely from God and through technology. If enough research is done, you’ll find the experts are saying what I am, and in fact it’s through research on life extension and futurism that I know this. Most experts are saying within 10 years, we will have greatly expanded life extension through medical control, so vast that it will seem as though we have no maximum lifespan! So it will not be just a continuation of what we’ve always had but so much more. And if we avoid accidents and don’t have an “existential” type of event to end humanity, we may be able to live who knows how long.

      7. Clara I’m in same boat… 4 children who don’t ever bother calling. I’m 61 and just recently became disabled… I don’t even have transportation… So lonely don’t know why I’m still around

      8. you know I know what you mean I have the same situation for my kids but however we could get together and we could be happy and the feeling of love that we will have between us flowing in each other’s bodies I would love you care for you and be there and never leaves you I’m 69 but I look 45

      9. Being ignored by ur children sux, I know I am a divorced 61 year old man, Still active as a 30 year old,And I can’t seem to get close to my three kids, My twin girls are 30 and my son is 24. My two girls have found their place in life,And my son,Who knows ? Maybe he’s jealous because his mother and I divorced six years ago.
        All she did was go out on weekends and party until the wee hours of the am,W/guys and my niece (she created
        all of my hard feelings toward my ex-wife) Anyway I know what it feels like to be alone ! That’s y I am looking for a new home back in Fla. That’s where I belong, I never had any problems there,I was there for approximatly 25 years on and off,W/never any problems w/anyone
        years I hope soon to get back to Fla. and start over again Thanx for reading this, I will survive ! JDR from NY Burbs

      10. James,

        I am a 63 year old widow. I have family (a son) but only hear from them if they need anything. They, are always on the go and my son is not allowed to contact me, unless they need something.

        I have helped them alot financially and have done alot of baby sitting. I have lived in Florida (Coral Springs) for over 25 years, it gets very lonely and the few friends I have don’t ever want to do anything.

        Basically, my family would like me to die so they could sell my house and travel.

        Contact me if you would like to.

      11. Me too Clara. My entire adult life has been terribly difficult. I moved closer to my one son and his kids but never hear from them unless I initiate contact. In a bad relationship with a man who does not live with me, but have been together for years. We are not intimate any longer and he blames me. I want a commitment and am trying to follow what the Lord wants. I am tired of being emotionally neglected and starved for affection. I blame him. So tired of being alone. I moved to a small town from the city also so socializing isn’t an option. Love to all the ladies on here. We all deserve so much more than poverty, loneliness and disrespect.

      12. Hello you are still young and it is good to enjoy the good things in life, just like walking next to the beach, massage talk and laugh. I am a 56 year old widow without kids and would like to meet you, I can talk, listen to and share a friendship.

    2. Hi, my name is Andrea and I am in the same situation as many as you are. I’m 64 yrs old in a a loveless and unhappy Matt. I tried meet ups but that did not help me. I would just like to meet a friend that I can talk to, listen to and share a friendship.

      1. Hi Andrea
        My name is Paul . I am 60 yrs old . I have 3 children. I was a single parent. My ex wife l eft then when my youngest daugher was 3 yrs old. Now they are full grown and married. Now I live all alone and I’m trying to look for friendship . Or someone to chat with everyday. I’m a retired Chef for 40 yrs. Sometimes it gets frustrating being all alone.

      1. Hi Mariana-
        I joined a few meet-ups, but they don’t seem to have enough events. I live in Manteca, CA sbout an hour or so from you.
        I am 67 years old. My 65 year old husband left me on May 9th to live with a 75-year old woman he met on a dating site at the end of March. I am going through separation and will be filing for divorce hopefully soon so I can go on with my life. I love dancing of all types. I am looking for women to go out karaoeking & dancing with, movies, musicals, traveling, dining, etc.

      2. Yes, there are meetup groups in the twin cities are full of women. We all may need to look at men and women once again sharing rental homes together. (we did in college)
        The meetup groups in the twin cities are boring. I want , specifically, now that I cannot find what I want, a person or person to relocate with me to a retirement community ON A COLLEGE CMAPUS. There are 5 in the usa, where residents mingle intergenerationally and take classes on campus, use facilities…and I do not mean THE LIFELONG LEARNING PROGRAM that is in most cities where you drive in to universities for , once again ,boring presentaitons
        When we had ballrooms and many dance halls in the twin cities with thems, it was real nice.
        My retirement as a professional ed. is boring but it does not seem to be boring overseas?.

        Good Luck and stay in touch. Nan

      3. Wow, I go to OLLI in my areas also.
        I thought that it would be more interaction with seniors and making friends more easily. Most are interesting enough to share current topics. Can be fearful of themselves or afraid of making new friends.
        The topics have been good though. wish there was a better dynamic for us seniors that are still vibrant , young and wishing to share conversations without any walls or barriers.

    3. Hello Anne, my story is very similar to yours, lost my dear hubby 5 years ago, 46 years married when he passed… i’m like you … i’d like to do more but have sore feet and cant walk that much .. cant do a great deal, you can talk to me whenever you like, it would be nice if you lived in Perth, i do have “friends,”but not always interested in me and i have 3 children and 7 beautiful grandies… they are very good to me and i baby sit one or the other during the week.
      I’d love to chat with you sometimes , need more adult interaction, not looking for a man, at this stage of my life i nearly need to be looked after never mind having an old man to pick up after or cook for etc…. anyway, keep well and hope to hear from you


    4. I in some way feel your pain. I absolutely hate this article with a strong passion. The author tried making a standpoint that “15 million people under 65 years old” made the choice of living alone. Either you’re ignorant or it is 5x in me for not reading the rest, because that’s only natural. You are trying to justify a shocking number of 15m people not wanting to be married (again) as a statistic? You have no underlying results, and the quantifiable analysis on the wide margin of an age group is bogus. You are rallying people without relationships, with short term relationships, mid term relationships, long term relationships, people with loved ones who passed away, and everything inbetween. You are a joke and you’r publication is not researched. End results to all who read this, be happy, find what makes you happy, and pursue it (as long as it is violent) and make sure you treat everyone as you want to be treated, in a friendly manner. At the end of the day, you’ll never know what nice comment you gave someone that they’ve thought about until they went to bed.

      1. hello Jamie would you like to be happy living in the beautiful Ozark mounts of Arkansas i am a 77 yr young male white. widowed very lonely have a beautiful home.

      2. Wow are you serious? That would be my dream come true! I would love to leave Georgia! I would not be able to get there because I have never driven a car at all and I will not get on a plane! I’ll check back to see if you answer back! My God bless you every day. Faith, belief, love of God my have answered my prayers! What do you enjoy doing! Are you a Christian?

  31. My name is Rachel.Im 63 years young and refused to let a number to determine my feelings. I’m a happy-go-lucky girl and I love to travel and I love to eat different kinds of foods I’m looking forward to a 15 day road trip with a sweet little friend of mine who was my neighbor 35 years ago I’m reaching out and I’m trying to do things I’ve never done before and now that I’m no longer married after many years I’m ready to go and have a good time. Come on girls and boys let’s begin to live let’s don’t sit here and wait to die alone get out have a good time get a job.
    I hope I have said something to encourage you to get up and To Live and Let Live have a ball.

    1. Thanks for these open, honest comments. I’m 62 and don’t have any real family or friends to speak off. No children, lots of moving and unexpected traumatic events. I’ve put a small little life together but can’t imagine how to make new friends & connections. I don’t seem to have much in common. Lived a very different kind of life. But the loneliness gets to me after too many days & weeks by myself.

      1. I am in the exact same boat. I have learned that a domestic partner was the way to go for me. No kids. Then, she passed almost 2 years ago. I think that my reason why no legal marriage had to do with my upbringing. Our attachment style is formed early in our lives, between us and influential caregivers. I have no regrets exept the cancer part. Best.

      2. Hi Sherry
        I am just the opposite have to many kids and would like to get away from them all .. So count yourself lucky.
        I to am lonely and looking for some friends my age to hang out with . I raised 3 of my own children and adopted 6 more so I have been busy raising them now they are grown and expect me to keep raising them the youngest is now 23 my oldest is 51 . Time for me to live my life. My dear friend since high school always said we would
        travel when everyone grew up we are now 71 and she is still working. Plus she is in pain and can’t even manage
        to go out to dinner after working at the office . I live in northern Illinois and seriously thinking of selling my house
        and leaving the country.. I have my heart set on Nova Scotia I have not been there yet. But keep studying everything about it . I plan to go in June and check it out.

      3. My name is Terry hi Sherri I’m with you had 1 child but ended up raising many. I’ve been a caregiver my whole life. Just want to talk go places but I have no money. I would just be glad to have someone to go to movies or out to eat. I’m way back in country .Gets so lonely

      4. I’m looking for a warm climate not a cold one but I hope you like Nova Scotia if you move there. I have never wanted children, yet envied the Duggar family’s large support system and all the positive excitement that goes with it. Wondering how your family compared to that family. When you say she is in pain, I’m not sure who you’re referring to. I too have issues with pain due to a lower spine problem but I’m not bad as long as I’m not on my feet or sitting for long. :) We too are trying to sell our house and move South. I’m looking for people who are interested in indefinite life extension through medical intervention and accident reduction/eradication. [email protected]

      5. Hi Sherry,
        I have always dreamed of going to Nova Scotia too. Tell me if you went on your trip & how it was. I’m a big traveler and can’t believe I’ve never been there. I live in NYC right now:)

      6. Sherry, I see your name a lot. Is this just a sounding board or how do you meet the people you are talking to and have so much in common to talk about?

      7. Andrea, I have lots of posts here because I really feel there is potential to make connections here, although it may be a sounding board for some. Anyway it seems like a successful thread because it’s lasted so long. So far I’ve been emailed a few times asking for more about the community home I’d like to start in the future. I’m a relentless person so I keep trying. Also I think it helps all of us because through this thread we see we have a lot of company when it comes to loneliness. Not easy to find real connections though.

      8. Not certain how this site works but can relate to most of you. Also not sure how safe this is as I googled “retired single women who want to relocate” & this appeared for all the world to see. If anyone can advise I would appreciate it.

      9. and I don’t know why people without children by choice, like myself are not sticking together. Even the online sites for those without children have closed down. Seems crazy!

      10. There are actually about six secured dating websites out there. So I am not really sure what you are viewing on line.

      11. I didn’t know there was even one dating site solely for those without children. I was on one forum just for people to connect online, friendship or not. (I think it was mostly ladies — talking about how to cope in a world where it seems you’re alone. and whether or not the holidays are a special type of problem, for example. That one closed down soon after I joined and the other similar sites were also closed.

      12. Terry I don’t know where you are but I’m looking for people who are excited about the anti-aging research going on now and who are interested in how all diseases and accidents can be gradually eliminated. If interested in this and other things, you can email me: [email protected]

      13. I’m new at this too! Maybe we can help each other out with this new adventure! I’m Jamie and my husband passed away in 2013 with lung cancer at age 53 I am 55 now and I am disabled and can’t work but I have a check that goes into my account it’s just not enough to keep up with morgage and other bills and I never learned to drive so I am alone 99 percent of the time! That’s what lonely really is! I have know one in my life and my children and grandchildren don’t care enough to check on me! I live in Gainesville ga

      14. I am exactly in the same boat. Don’t seem to make friends and no relatives. 54 now and I often think how I am going to manage in my sixties and beyond

      15. Yep. People can say to each their own meaning that no one person would never be correct to direct any other adults actions. I have personally found that if one lives in a metropolitan area that it has more clubs more resources. At the same time, it is all about companies spending their advertising to get the word out there. I have seen people in hospitals never having any visitors. Still, some people that become patients prefer it this way. No for me. And, am working on being pro active to improve my life in a relationship.

      16. Hello Katherine
        I’m kinda like lonely too My name is Mike I’ve worked ever since I was fifteen I don’t trust to many people but I’m looking for someone that I can trust and share the things that I’m sososo Lonley about What I really want is a friend to talk to about problems I have and I love hearing a friends problems maybe take short walks in a park or walks around campground or by a peaceful lake or a pond maybe we could get together and be friends

        Thank you

      17. Im 52 feeling the same way. Last man I was with was my husband 12 years ago. I want to share with someone. Male female just companionship

      18. Hello Kathy, I’m 55 and I’ve been divorced for a long time too. It would be nice to have a conversation with you.

      19. Hi Andrea, I have no family either, but I am lucky to have my son and husband even though I’m not really happy, we don’t have any other family, well I have 4 siblings but they are so toxic I had to write them off, 1 brother I like but he doesn’t call or anything and is going through a divorce and I think he’s on crack and drinks, I don’t even talk to my parents. They treated me like crap my whole life, all us siblings, no one talks to anyone. My mother is selfish bit– who shouldn’t of had kids, she favored 2 and was nasty to the rest, now no one gets along, she is the cause of everything and had the nerve to say on mothers day a few years back “I’d have money if I didn’t have kids” I told her you shouldn’t of had kids – I don’t know what it’s like to have a caring mother. I thinks it’s worse when you do have siblings but their abusive so I had to get rid of them. I got married at 36, I used to get abused at jobs then come home and get abused by my parents and siblings. But I truly believe what goes around comes around. I’m so worried about my son he’s any only child when he gets older he doesn’t have family, I couldn’t have any more children, got married so late. My husband is a loner, he has gotten screwed over by people so much, doesn’t trust anyone, doesn’t want friends or be social so I am lonely too. My son and 5 cats and dog keep me going.

      20. “R” – I stumbled across this site and I share a lot if the feelings described, but I didn’t see anyone near my age until I read your post. I’m 53, no children, nor close family and now dealing with the end of a bad marriage. No idea what I’ll do if something serious happens… I truly have no one to count on.
        I related to another person here who said they had no children due to “a lot of moving and unexpected traumatic events… ” I would love to have had children, but it just didn’t work out that way for me. I’ve always tried to maintain a positive attitude, but I’m just so tired of starting over in life. I finally got married at 42 and that was just a waste of 10 years and a self-esteem killer in the end…

      21. Some of us don’t have a choice. I don’t have the money to go traveling; in fact, I don’t even have a car now. Friends? I moved to this little town because I could afford to buy here, at the time. And never fit in. Everyone is related. Church, too. My family is far away and I’m forgotten. I have some health issues but can still be active, usually. Doesn’t matter, I’m stuck. So don’t tell me it’s a matter of attitude and just getting out there. I’m sorry I sound so bleak. I used to be so bouncy and busy and productive. Now I’m just a nice old lady that walks to the grocery store, bank, post office. Everyone treats me like how they see me….a sweet old lady. My friends are online now. I love good, deep conversation, keeping informed in politics, world events, Christian beliefs. Better than nothing, keeps my mind busy…..but pretty lonely. I’d like to sell my small house for what little I can get out of it, get a vehicle, move to a place with more access to shopping and things to see. But it’s all overwhelming.

      22. Hi Linda. I feel like I am stuck also Linda. The town I live in has no activities for seniors. My husband has been gone for 7 years now and I have been lonely that whole time. I don’t have any family here but one daughter and they are too busy for me. They have a huge camper but they never invite me to go camping with them. I would be so excited if I could just go with them one time. I do have a car thankfully because I need a car to get to the grocery store and to run other errands. But that is about all I do in my life is running errands and get groceries. I have been on depression pills and they helped a little but there are days that I am just really sad and wish I had someone in my life. I do not want to get married again have been there a couple of times and do not wish to do that again. I just wish there was some way we could all get together and be friends.

      23. Just read your post and I know exactly how you feel. Moved to a new location approximately 10 years ago. Am single & do not have many friends here. Had to retire a few years ago & suffer from severe loneliness most of the time now. Hope your situation has improved since your post!

      24. A Widow
        I lost my husband who was my best friend and now I’m alond because my “children” abandoned me. It’s very sad especially on Holidays when you pretend it’s going to be Ok but it never is
        Selfish daughters know I’m a heart patient and cancer survivor but said I’m dead to them does anyone know if there are Familes who need a Grandmom or just a Friend
        It’s scary being alone

      25. Oh my!! My heart broke hearing your words! My husband passed away 5 years ago and my children and grandchildren abandoned me to! You have a friend now me

      26. I am in exactly the same boat–no kids, no husband, moved around a lot so I don’t feel grounded and am having trouble making friends. I am 60. I would like to connect with you.

      27. I am in the same boat. Have one daughter and son-in-law that lives near me but both are so busy that they really do not have time for me. I only have one good friend and we used to do things together but she has been ill and her husband has been ill so that has kept us from getting together. I don’t think I have seen her in the last 2 years almost. So I am very lonely too. I have three cats which give me some companionship but not having any friends to do things with is really hard. I have gone to church before but have neverfelt a part of anything there .It would be so nice if some of these letters that we read here where we could find out who they are and how far away they live from us so that we might be able to make friends with each other so that we would not feel so alone and lonely.

      28. Hi
        I’ve been trying to find a site where older women like me feel dating men is not for them!
        I just turned 60 , I’ve had medical problems most of my life
        I divorced an abusive man 20 years ago.
        I tried internet dating several times and it is not for me
        A year ago I met a chronic liar who had a substance abuse record. I had a cat for a long time who died and I don’t want another
        I wish to find other women who think dating sucks

      29. Zachie, even if you’re NOT asexual, you may be accepted on one of the asexual sites. Some are paid, at least one is free and there are a few facebook pages, although they may not be active enough. If you explain yourself, as you did in your post, you have a chance to get some good responses.

      30. Hi Zachie-
        At present I am having trust issues with men in general. I do love dancing though and I am trying to grt the courage to go to older dance clubs alone, and line dancing.

      31. Being lonely hurts. I know exactly how you feel. Just longing to say “hi, how are you doing? Wanna get together?” Just to have someone to talk to, go out and have some fun. It really does hurt.