Top 5 Dating Sites for Seniors

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What’s the fastest growing group of online daters? If you’re thinking men in their 30s, think again. Bowling Green State University professors of gerontology, Dr. Wendy K. Watson and Dr. Charlie Stelle, have been researching the landscape and found that people over 60 represent the most rapidly growing demographic in online dating.

The study authors also delved into the question of which features make a dating site a good fit for seniors. Of course, there’s no one-size-fits-all, but their number one criteron make sense to us: an emphasis in profile questions on mutual interests and honest self-representation over looks and sexual prowess. You can read an article about the ongoing study by clicking here.

With Watson and Stelle’s study in mind, we’ve tested several popular dating sites, looking also for easy online experiences, and come up with five – both free and fee-based, senior-specific and all-ages – that we deem senior-friendly. Take a look and see which is a good fit for you.

  • Why it’s senior friendly profiles provide plenty of opportunity for you to explore your potential mate’s education, faith, politics and other choices that you might find important. And this dating site can’t be beat on sheer volume: It boasts a membership of over 17 million, 2.5 million of whom are seniors. The odds are with you.
  • What makes it easy The site lets you breeze through the profile creation process by checking off the basics first. You can save the paragraph sections for later, if and when you feel like further expounding on your life story and getting into the nitty gritty of the type of partner you’re looking for. The site also offers online guidance.
  • Downside: Browsing is allowed for free, but you can’t make any actual connections without joining a paid plan.
  • Price per month for 6 months $19.99 including Mobile, Matchtalk for narrowing your search by using keywords, and Stir events – offline groups that gather locally for happy hours, cooking classes, etc. What a great way to mix it up with other singles. If you can’t find a Stir event that’s right for you, you can organize one of your own.

Click here to visit


  • Why it’s senior friendly: eHarmony is dedicated to helping seniors find long-term relationships. With over 20 million registered users, the key difference between eHarmony and traditional senior dating sites is the intricate Compatibility Matching System, which narrows the field from thousands of senior singles and claims to find the most compatible matches based on your profile.
  • What makes it easy: Answering 258 multiple-choice questions based on psychology tests may not sound easy, but once it’s done eHarmony does the rest. Members aren’t allowed to search. You simply sit back and wait for the experts to send you matches by email.
  • Downside eHarmony totally controls your dating choices. It’s not for everybody. Plus, because the site has a Christian ideology, it does not entertain same-sex matches; those are relegated to a new separate service run by eHarmony, called Compatible Partners. The site also will not admit members who are legally separated but not divorced.
  • Price per month for 6 months: $23.95 pays for eHarmony experts to decipher your perfect match based on your answers and their methodology. Mobile access and Facebook connection are available, but don’t offer on-the-ground events.

Click here to visit eHarmony’s Senior Search


AARP Dating Powered by How About We…

  • Why it’s senior friendly has recently partnered with AARP for a version targeted specifically to the 50-plus population – which is no surprise to us, since we had HowAboutWe pegged as the most senior-friendly online dating method. How About We and its AARP version are built around proposed dates: You can propose a date or scan dates that potential partners have proposed. These range from the generic (coffee somewhere quiet where we can chat) to the specific (a bike ride to the Met to see the Matisse show, or I’ve got Knicks tickets for Friday night. Want to join me?). Either way, it’s simple to “read” someone by the type of activity they want to share and find a good fit that way.
  • What makes it easy The site has a fun, laid-back feel that’s easy to maneuver. You can post a date for free without the muss and fuss of completing a daunting profile, and if you use the “Play” function while you’re browsing, you have a quick and easy way to sort the ‘This one looks nice’ from the ‘No way in Hellers.’ You’ll get a daily email from site with potential dates based on your preferences (age, political and religious leanings, etc). Social networking connections are also available. If you like the idea of a live meeting without spending hours online, AARP Dating is a great option.
  • Downside AARP Dating promotes face-to-face meetings, so it’s not a good choice for those who’d rather learn more about the person before going on a date.
  • Price per month for 6 months An affordable $12; AARP members get a 7-day free trial and 50 percent off membership.

Click here to visit AARP Dating


  • Why it’s senior friendly 1.4 million hip, mature seniors visit Ourtime each month. It’s one of the most popular dating sites catering to the over 50 set. The personality section is a great feature if you’re looking for more than a one-night stand. And the profile questions range from ‘Do you like to cook?’ to ‘Are you a punctual person?’ – traits that most younger users don’t really consider important, but many seniors do.
  • What makes it easy The profile is a straightforward mix of multiple-choice questions and paragraphs, without much glitz or glamour.
  • Downside Online dating veterans may miss the extra features that other sites offer.
  • Price per month for 6 months Browsing is allowed before joining the plan for a modest $12.99 per month for 6 months, but you’ll need to answer some basic questions before delving into a full-fledged search. Online chat is available, but no Facebook or mobile connections, yet.

 Click here to visit OurTime


  • Why it’s senior friendly With over 3.5 million active users, OkCupid offers a plethora of unique visitors, seniors included. Some of the questions are geared toward the younger set, but seniors get around it by answering the mature questions about what you do on Friday night, the types of books and movies you like, and (a biggie for those who are set in their ways), ‘What six things could I never do without.’
  • What makes it easy The profile is primarily Q&A based. Many of the questions are a bit bizarre, but easy to skip over. Don’t let the profile creation process discourage you from taking advantage of the gratis membership account.
  • Downside: It’s fun and easy, but you get what you pay for. Enough said.
  • Price per month for 6 months: FREE – unless you find ads distracting. If you’d prefer fewer flashing banner ads, and more access to information on who visited your profile, go ahead and upgrade to A-List status for a monthly fee of $14.95. Connecting with Facebook and Twitter is a free option.

Click here to visit OKCupid

Note Be aware when signing up for auto-payment on any online dating site: Complaints have been filed that certain sites continue to charge monthly fees after a member cancels. Keep an eye on your bank statement.

See our updated Best Senior Dating Sites (2014)

Thinking of trying online dating? Check out more Senior Planet articles:

How to set up your online dating profile in 4 easy steps
11 ways to quit lurking and write your online dating profile

Do you have a favorite dating site? By sharing it in the comments section below you’ll help out some other seniors.

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  1. mary says:

    I have tried all the date sites and never had any luck.They all tell you what you want to hear and all become lies. Or all want money. No luck with any or them

  2. Moi says:

    Free or not, every senior dating site sucks! They claim and advertise things that are not true! How can we, as seniors, who are disgusted and tired of their lies, bring them down? Is a class suite the answer? I’d love to get all my money back I’ve spent on these horrible dating sites.

  3. operasinger says:

    Anyone else notice that, even tho Our Time’s website claims to be for folks older than 50, their recent ads on TV don’t mention this any longer and show young singles. They never restricted membership age anyway, so I guess now they are openly appealing to younger singles.

    So, one less Internet site for senior singles, altho Our Time was awful anyway. Even AARP won’t restrict age of members to just seniors. Another black eye for us senior singles.

  4. Raleigh says:

    Dating sites listed above, I used to be on some.. I’ve been on couple of sites.. OK Cupid do not favor me and I deactivated my membership, sick of lies. ( and Zoosk) I’ve got no luck on there also. I got several messages from younger ladies wanting a fling but I needed something more. So we had no chemistry. I’m 57 and seeking a woman btw 50-67. Anyone that would recommend a better site where I can find my soulmate. Thanks.

    • Phyllis says:

      If you find a good website let me know. I too am tired of all the lies and the requests for money.

      • Moi says:

        There are NONE. I quit trying. Nothing but lies, or fake profiles. It’s a game you can’t win.

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  6. Phyllis says:

    Have tried Match, Our Time, OK Cupid & POF and have been asked for money on all of them. So depressing and frustrating.

  7. dancinglady says:

    I have been on these sites, not for long but, I also noticed that the men seem to want young ladies,
    I been on zooks,

  8. buddytd says:

    I think it’s interesting that you damn OK Cupid with faint praise. If you are paying money for ANY of the other sites, you are likely wasting it. The folks at OK Cupid have devised a series of questions. The more you answer and the more the people you are looking for answer, the better the suggested matchups.

    As an example, I am very close friends with a woman I would otherwise have never met. We are a 90% match to each other. It would be more, but neither of us wants a long distance relationship. BTW she is 60 and I am 66.

    As the best example of all, I was already in a committed but open relationship when I found OKC. By being totally honest about what I was looking for – an activity partner – and about my current relationship, I found three lovely women. The first two would have had to be long distance relationships, so those didn’t work out.

    The fourth person I met (about a year ago now as I write this) turned out to be the other love of my life. I have NEVER met anyone I am so compatible with.

    You get what you pay for, indeed!

    • Moi says:

      I’m glad you found someone. I’m also on OkCupid and have been matched with several men who are 85% and higher. ALL of them live long distance, like over 500 miles. How does that help me again?

    • LadyLovinHerLife says:

      I’m amazed that OK Cupid is even listed here. I thought it was set up just for scamming. Once my profile was complete, the first 7 men who contacted me were all scammers. That’s right, 100%. I couldn’t delete my profile fast enough.

      Why isn’t Plenty Of Fish listed? I’ve had good results there, and it’s a free site.

  9. country girl says:

    I am looking for someone to have an intelligent conversation with. Someone that can make me laugh and just enjoy life.

  10. Moi says:

    If anyone finds a great, free senior site, besides OkCupid or POF, PLEASE let me know! I am exhausted with trying and not getting any where near what I’m looking for.

    • Barbara, Senior Planet editor says:

      FYI, we’re working on an updated list of sites that includes some new options – pros and cons of each. Stay tuned… We expect to publish it in the next two weeks.

    • Moongirl says:

      Lots of scammers on OKCupid…

  11. operasinger says:

    OK, what’s going on? Just joined Singles Over 60 (I’m 69) because most guys don’t seem to want women my age, and I want a guy close to my own age. So the first guy who contacts me on SO60 is 43–WTF? PALEEZE! Why are these so-called Senior single’s sites allowing all ages to join? It’s frustrating enough being an older woman on all of the other single’s sites because of competition with younger women, but we now must put up with this on the senior sites, too. Why? What are the senior site creators thinking?

    • Paula says:

      Hi operasinger, I was also on SinglesOver60. org. But I feel good so far. I was also on other general dating sites like Match etc, that’s where I got a lot of contacts from really young men that could even be my grandson :( But the situation is much better when I am on SO60. Though there is not that much contacts but most of them are serious contacts that I can tell. Maybe there is some patience needed.

    • homentx says:

      I’m with u opera singer! I’m 68 and have not done well on any of these sites at, especially Perfect Match….35 yr olds reaching out to me! Uhhhhh….. NO! If any one knows of a truly focusing on seniors I would like to know.

      • Barbara, Senior Planet editor says:

        Hi homentx and operasinger, we just published our updated dating sites list. We have big hopes for

        • operasinger says:

          Thanks, Barbara. I’ll check out Stitch. I recently joined OurTime and have been hugely disappointed. Again, they let all ages join. But reading email only on their site is a disaster and very difficult to manage in the crush of those who put only something in the Subject line and no message. You also get a flood of really dumb stuff from OurTime, notifications if a guy merely looks at your profile, etc. But worst of all, their Search program is virtually worthless. So I will end my subscription when my 1 month runs out. It’s just not user friendly.

      • ponyup says:

        Have you tried Zoosk? It has men your age. Just as in any site, you have to pick and choose who to learn more about.

        • operasinger says:

          I’ve done a lot of research on the various single’s sites, and Zoosk has by far the lowest ratings and some really scary comments. Also, I don’t like how they have implemented the profiles. So, in short, this is not a single’s site that I’m willing to risk my money on, especially as a senior looking for a serious relationship and not just casual social flings, which seems to be the purpose of Zoosk.

  12. Moi says:

    I’ve been on senior dating sites off and on for several years. Out of all the first dates I’ve had, finally met one guy who I actually enjoyed. After 4 dates, he decided to call it quits with no explanation. He wasn’t perfect either, but at least I was willing to try. So, I keep trying, but refuse to pay to find a good guy any longer. And even though I’m still attractive and in shape, being 63 seems to be a huge factor. Most guys my age want a younger woman, even though most of them are not much to look at or have that much to offer. But wanting a woman who’s 15 – 20 yrs younger is ok, right? Yet as soon as a older woman wants a younger man, say 5 or 10 years, all of a sudden we’re Cougars. A word I absolutely hate! Personally, an older man who thinks he needs a much younger woman, has some serious issues. I stay away from players and fakes.

    • buddytd says:

      Most men are a-holes, what can I say? When I was younger, I preferred older women. I am 66. I prefer women my age, within 10 years.

      Older women know what they want. Older women are sexier.

      Generally speaking, if someone is single at our age, there’s a reason for it, and a lot of times the reason is that they suck at relationships.

      Look for a guy who has a legit reason for being available. Look for a guy who knows how to treat a woman. Look for a guy who has worked on himself, to become a better person.

      We’re out there, we’re just rare. Don’t give up, and DON’T SETTLE for less than what you want.

      As my current love says, you definitely have to kiss a lot of frogs. You do NOT have to sleep with them.

      Eugene Oregon

      • operasinger says:

        You can’t know how someone treats another, who has worked on themselves, etc. until you spend time with them. You can’t tell this from their profiles because many people say things that are not true. The problem for women is our age. It is our biggest obstacle because soooooooo many men want younger women. They simply won’t respond if you contact them, and we don’t come up in their searches.

        Plus, the so-called singles websites for Seniors are NOT just for single seniors. They let all ages in. So us older women are ignored there, too. The only website that claims to verify their subscribers is I have not tried them yet because, frankly, I’m burned out from doing this for several years, wasting lots of money from membership fees, and going nowhere with it.

  13. operasinger says:

    So you know, the AARP single’s website is not just for seniors and is open for all ages. I was shocked after joining to find that out, and the first (and only) man to contact me is 42 with a 6-year old son. I’ve been on this site for several weeks, and no other guy has contacted me. I’m an active, fit, intelligent, and attractive women, but I’m 69. I’m looking for a man my age, but apparently my age is a huge factor, and I don’t come up in their searches because they want a younger woman. In fact, they don’t even respond to my messages to them. Had the same experience on This was the polar opposite experience when I was in my 50s.

    • avlavl says:

      I can understand where you are coming from with having to reveal your true age and men not even attempting to look at your profile. I am in the same boat. I look so much younger than my actual age. So what do I do? I hate to lie, but I have to – in order to get the attention of men I’d like to date. I haven’t had a problem with it YET but I have not found the man I would like to spend the rest of my life with either. I do want to say that even though I don’t reveal my true age, the men that are younger than the age I put on the site looks so much older and I feel like they are my father. Truly. So go figure. Even with lying about my age I am still getting older looking men who are fuddy duddy, big bellies all out of shape and here I am in shape, exercise, eat healthy, look very good in my cloths ( I am slender) and look very youthful. I can easily pass for 50 years old if not younger. But I don’t flaunt it. Went to the ER once, gave all my info to the gal. Yet another gal came in to ask my age and I told her someone already had taken that information. She just wanted to make sure that person had it right because I looked no where near what I had put down and it was my true age. I was happy. So gals, do what you have to do to get that man you want. I am almost there. Men lie about their ages too. I call it a lil white lie. And I do tell them on the phone before we meet that I did not tell my correct age.

      • operasinger says:

        Thanks for your feedback. I’m in almost the exact situation that you are in. I do not look my age, am active, fit, intelligent, educated, blah blah blah, but this doesn’t seem to matter to men now. But what’s bothering me most is finding out that single’s site saying that they are for seniors are lying because they let anyone of any age join. So there seems no where to find men our ages who genuinely want to a woman their age. Even on the senior sites, they want much younger women and can find them there. Senior sites should have an age floor. Period.

        • avlavl says:

          I totally agree. Senior sites should have a way to not allow men under a certain age to register. I am sure they can monitor the postings before posting them. They should also let men know upfront that this site is for SENIOR MEN ONLY. The do the monitoring so there are no surprises. But you know what, I doubt there will be many senior men joining. They want that young gal. Get it. We’re in a sorta catch 22 situation. Youthful and beautiful yet that age number is standing in the way. We all need to think of a nice site that would work well for us youthful senior women and create it together. Let it be FREE to all. Count me in!

          • operasinger says:

            Yup, I agree. But also, no women younger than, say 55. If it’s a seniors single’s site, then it should be ONLY seniors.

            If I had better website creation skills, I’d put this together myself. But someone needs to address the true needs of senior singles, especially women. We are society throw aways.

  14. Seanner says:

    There are far more senior dating sites as I know. Most of them are basically the same. You need to pay for a membership to make real contact with other members you are interested in. Actually any luck needed on these kind of dating sites. My friend finally met her current wife on singles over 60.

    • AVLAVL says:

      It might be quite nice, not sure how women would feel about this, but have the dating site strictly for senior women. No men. Men interested in this singles site for women only would surely visit it. It would have to be known that the site is strictly women 50+ seeking men 50+. And broadcast the site all over the Internet. Women sign up for free and MAYBE let the men pay a lil something to see us. We would weed out those that are not serious about a relationship or companionship? Something like that.

      • Baygirl says:

        I am 65 and would love to find local men my age interested in women my age too. I think your idea to have a women site and the men have to pay to see us us great. The concept is genius! I am just researching which site gets best reviews and dang none of them do. I have known a few from Chrisian Mingle and EHarmony that have found do done and gotten married and 3-4 on Match that have been out several times with different guys so I don’t know.

  15. JAMILFUNJOY says:

    It s all commercial ,love is commercial ,attraction is commercial , fun is commercial ,when money maters involved how it can be natural ? I tried since longtime ,I can’t find any free site ,tired from all this ,if there is any direct me please . Thanks !

    • Moi says:

      To Jamilfunjoy: Try okCupid or POF. They are both free, but you still need to be aware there are still stagnant profiles and you may receive many out of state or long distance messages. It’s always up to you if you want to respond, of course.

  16. Rare says:

    A disaster. I joined POF, met a nice guy. Had chemistry on first date. Lusty. Second date was scheduled. We spoke on phone and he said he was stoned from smoking pot. Well after talking about it in length as I don’t date drug users, we said goodbye but was still going to meet as he promised not to smoke. he text back canceling our date and ending everything. I was disappointed. Pot came between a possible future relationship. Why is he on any dating site?

    • buddytd says:

      I’ve been smoking marijuana since I was 19. My current love does not smoke but does not mind if I do. What’s your hangup that this is a big deal to you? It doesn’t sound like he was insistent that you smoke too.

      I smoke mostly at night, to relax so I can sleep. Before the operation, I did it to help with lower back pain that was severe.

      Some of the best sexual experiences I ever had occurred when I was under the influence.

      If someone has an addictive personality it is one thing, but if you’re uptight about a harmless drug, I would say YOU might be the one with the issues. He probably figured out that you are intolerant, and who needs that?

      Why is HE on any dating site? Wow. Why are YOU?

  17. Fannytoo says:

    I am very disappointed in Dating Services
    for Seniors. You do not receive photos
    nor profiles. I will not rejoin this site and
    I have cancelled my card so you cannot

  18. kkns says:

    I have used plentyoffish ( off and on for about 3 years. I have never paid and like the fact that you have the chance to do free emailing to all members. It also allows you to sort members in numerous ways……height, distance, smoking/non, etc.

    • Moi says:

      POF is completely free, but there are still so many jerks and losers on there it’s laughable. Most guys think it’s alright to be very aggressive on the 2nd date. Wrong! How about asking me first if it’s alright to kiss me instead of thrusting your tongue down my throat? There are no quality men on these sites. Stay away from POF, Match., OurTime, eHarmony. They are all crap! You’re better off alone.

      • Second Time Around says:

        I too have played around with POF. Let me tell you something, the same men I see on POF, I see them on all the other sites I’ve visited. Leaving me not placing an ad. I feel these men on POF really do not know what they want except that pretty young gal who doesn’t want him but his money. If he has that. Some of them are seeking an older woman as a sugar mama. And those men that are older, want the young but feel horrible because they most likely cannot do the sex thang. Get my drift? Some 50 something have a hard time. So, trying to find a decent man is like trying to find a decent job. When you were looking for one.

  19. CharlieD39 says:

    Visited several senior dating sites. Nothing is free as the old adage goes!

  20. Steve says:

    These sites want me to fill out numerous pieces of information and then it turns out there is no one that lives in my area. Bad humbug.

  21. stardust10 says:

    Looking for something real

  22. Madbarraza says:

    Looking for fun

  23. JIMBOCRIMBO says:

    Hi there,

    A very good friend of mine is moving to New York in a week and the love Gods have not been on here side.

    Does anyone have some suggestions on where she can go to meet people, she is moving to Brooklyn.


  24. lucylou says:

    recently widowed looking for companionship ,someone to have a nice dinner with, a movie or just stay home and watch tv

    • vee says:

      hi lucy

    • 1lovebasketballhoops says:

      I live in Martinsville VA.

  25. DatingGranny says:

    I have another great Dating site that I highly recommend… SeniorTimeDating

    It’s been really fun meeting new people, the site is very secure and easy to navigate. Every one I have meet has been great.

    Only downside is Its not free but pretty inexpensive for the quality of members.

    • Barbara, Senior Planet editor says:

      DatingGranny, thanks for your recommendation!

  26. Lisa says:

    I am a member of AARP & decided to
    Take a look at their dating site. Supposedly
    A several day free browse. I put in my
    Desired ages, zip code etc & all the
    Site did was “loading” but it never fully loaded & I was not shown any matches in my area.
    Nothing happened….Don’t waste your time
    They do not have it together!!!!!

    • Barbara, Senior Planet editor says:

      Hi Lisa, we’re sorry you had this issue with the AARP site. We can’t attest to results, but we do know several people who have used it without having any technical issues. After you enter your basic details, the site loads a pop-up window asking for email – ie: registration. It’s possible your connection was slow – or that you have pop-ups disabled in your browser.

  27. Dreamer says:

    Living in Norway, I , as an English speaker, have been trying to join dating sites where I hope to find English speakers….
    But for some reason, if you cannot give an address in England, you also cannot join……
    This is so frustrating!
    Perhaps you can explain this?
    Surely, in this digital age, one should be able
    to find that special person worldwide!!!:-)
    Yes: is also refusing to let one search..only get norwegian profiles….! Thanks!

  28. Juliet says:

    I would want someone that is kind, caring, loving, enjoys life, one that knows there is stress in life..but doesn’t let it run her life, one that isn’t afraid to show and express their feelings, someone that agrees to disagree at times.two one eight three three two seven five eight four.. text me you can also email me at greenjuliet 55 with those that come…

  29. cbmetronyc55 says:

    Based on your high praise, I paid in advance for a 6-month membership to AARP’s site and have found it to be a total waste of money. I’ve sent messages to some members and none of them show “read” That doesn’t seem possible unless they are no longer active members that were never removed from their database.. I should have canceled within the first 3 days (their money-back period) but since it was holiday time I thought things would improve when everyone was back in town. But it’s just as bad.
    I also signed up for OK Cupid for free and it’s far superior.

    • Barbara, Senior Planet editor says:

      cmetronyc, thanks for your helpful feedback. The AARP site was fairly new when this article was written but we had tested its non-AARP version, How About We, and found it worked well. We wish you the best of luck on OK Cupid!

  30. ol' green eyes says:

    that’s what happens if one doesn’t delete their own profile before cancelling, also remove auto-renew in settings…

  31. vegas gentlman says:

    looking for my special lady

    • Fayzie says:

      Hello, I am looking for a quality gent also but I do not sites. It is so degrading as the older gents want younger chicks. I am 81 and tell the truth but nothing happens. I look younger so maybe I should lie???? I wonder if the gent from LV found his lady. Although I would not want to live in LV, just visit.

  32. STL60 says:

    GREAT article – thanks!

  33. Irish Eyes says:

    I found that profiles continued to be posted after the subscriber has decided to end membership on OurTime.

    I, too, kept getting “flirts” from the company months after I had stopped my 1 month trial.

    My effort to stop these contacts was thwarted by their policies. Now I have just blocked all e-mails(and I guess my profile is still showing!)

    • Barbara, Senior Planet editor says:

      Irish Eyes, thanks for posting your experience – it’s valuable information!

    • Moi says:

      Irish Eyes, you must go back in and hide your profile or delete it if you no longer want it on the site. Go to help and continue on from there.