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Top 5 Dating Sites for Seniors

What’s the fastest growing group of online daters? If you’re thinking men in their 30s, think again. Bowling Green State University professors of gerontology, Dr. Wendy K. Watson and Dr. Charlie Stelle, have been researching the landscape and found that people over 60 represent the most rapidly growing demographic in online dating.

The study authors also delved into the question of which features make a dating site a good fit for seniors. Of course, there’s no one-size-fits-all, but their number one criteron make sense to us: an emphasis in profile questions on mutual interests and honest self-representation over looks and sexual prowess. You can read an article about the ongoing study by clicking here.

With Watson and Stelle’s study in mind, we’ve tested several popular dating sites, looking also for easy online experiences, and come up with five – both free and fee-based, senior-specific and all-ages – that we deem senior-friendly. Take a look and see which is a good fit for you.  

Match.com

  • Why it’s senior friendly Match.com profiles provide plenty of opportunity for you to explore your potential mate’s education, faith, politics and other choices that you might find important. And this dating site can’t be beat on sheer volume: It boasts a membership of over 17 million, 2.5 million of whom are seniors. The odds are with you.
  • What makes it easy The site lets you breeze through the profile creation process by checking off the basics first. You can save the paragraph sections for later, if and when you feel like further expounding on your life story and getting into the nitty gritty of the type of partner you’re looking for. The site also offers online guidance.
  • Downside: Browsing is allowed for free, but you can’t make any actual connections without joining a paid plan.
  • Price per month for 6 months $19.99 including Match.com Mobile, Matchtalk for narrowing your search by using keywords, and Stir events – offline groups that gather locally for happy hours, cooking classes, etc. What a great way to mix it up with other singles. If you can’t find a Stir event that’s right for you, you can organize one of your own.

Click here to visit Match.com

eHarmony

  • Why it’s senior friendly: eHarmony is dedicated to helping seniors find long-term relationships. With over 20 million registered users, the key difference between eHarmony and traditional senior dating sites is the intricate Compatibility Matching System, which narrows the field from thousands of senior singles and claims to find the most compatible matches based on your profile.
  • What makes it easy: Answering 258 multiple-choice questions based on psychology tests may not sound easy, but once it’s done eHarmony does the rest. Members aren’t allowed to search. You simply sit back and wait for the experts to send you matches by email.
  • Downside eHarmony totally controls your dating choices. It’s not for everybody. Plus, because the site has a Christian ideology, it does not entertain same-sex matches; those are relegated to a new separate service run by eHarmony, called Compatible Partners. The site also will not admit members who are legally separated but not divorced.
  • Price per month for 6 months: $23.95 pays for eHarmony experts to decipher your perfect match based on your answers and their methodology. Mobile access and Facebook connection are available, but don’t offer on-the-ground events.

Click here to visit eHarmony’s Senior Search

 

AARP Dating Powered by How About We…

  • Why it’s senior friendly Howaboutwe.com has recently partnered with AARP for a version targeted specifically to the 50-plus population – which is no surprise to us, since we had HowAboutWe pegged as the most senior-friendly online dating method. How About We and its AARP version are built around proposed dates: You can propose a date or scan dates that potential partners have proposed. These range from the generic (coffee somewhere quiet where we can chat) to the specific (a bike ride to the Met to see the Matisse show, or I’ve got Knicks tickets for Friday night. Want to join me?). Either way, it’s simple to “read” someone by the type of activity they want to share and find a good fit that way.
  • What makes it easy The site has a fun, laid-back feel that’s easy to maneuver. You can post a date for free without the muss and fuss of completing a daunting profile, and if you use the “Play” function while you’re browsing, you have a quick and easy way to sort the ‘This one looks nice’ from the ‘No way in Hellers.’ You’ll get a daily email from site with potential dates based on your preferences (age, political and religious leanings, etc). Social networking connections are also available. If you like the idea of a live meeting without spending hours online, AARP Dating is a great option.
  • Downside AARP Dating promotes face-to-face meetings, so it’s not a good choice for those who’d rather learn more about the person before going on a date.
  • Price per month for 6 months An affordable $12; AARP members get a 7-day free trial and 50 percent off membership.

Click here to visit AARP Dating

OurTime 

  • Why it’s senior friendly 1.4 million hip, mature seniors visit Ourtime each month. It’s one of the most popular dating sites catering to the over 50 set. The personality section is a great feature if you’re looking for more than a one-night stand. And the profile questions range from ‘Do you like to cook?’ to ‘Are you a punctual person?’ – traits that most younger users don’t really consider important, but many seniors do.
  • What makes it easy The profile is a straightforward mix of multiple-choice questions and paragraphs, without much glitz or glamour.
  • Downside Online dating veterans may miss the extra features that other sites offer.
  • Price per month for 6 months Browsing is allowed before joining the plan for a modest $12.99 per month for 6 months, but you’ll need to answer some basic questions before delving into a full-fledged search. Online chat is available, but no Facebook or mobile connections, yet.

 Click here to visit OurTime

OkCupid

  • Why it’s senior friendly With over 3.5 million active users, OkCupid offers a plethora of unique visitors, seniors included. Some of the questions are geared toward the younger set, but seniors get around it by answering the mature questions about what you do on Friday night, the types of books and movies you like, and (a biggie for those who are set in their ways), ‘What six things could I never do without.’
  • What makes it easy The profile is primarily Q&A based. Many of the questions are a bit bizarre, but easy to skip over. Don’t let the profile creation process discourage you from taking advantage of the gratis membership account.
  • Downside: It’s fun and easy, but you get what you pay for. Enough said.
  • Price per month for 6 months: FREE – unless you find ads distracting. If you’d prefer fewer flashing banner ads, and more access to information on who visited your profile, go ahead and upgrade to A-List status for a monthly fee of $14.95. Connecting with Facebook and Twitter is a free option.

Click here to visit OKCupid

Note Be aware when signing up for auto-payment on any online dating site: Complaints have been filed that certain sites continue to charge monthly fees after a member cancels. Keep an eye on your bank statement.

See our updated Best Senior Dating Sites (2014)

Thinking of trying online dating? Check out more Senior Planet articles:

How to set up your online dating profile in 4 easy steps
11 ways to quit lurking and write your online dating profile

Do you have a favorite dating site? By sharing it in the comments section below you’ll help out some other seniors.

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134 comments
  • phil
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    It seems that experts are out there rating dating sites. However, their flowing reviews are vastly different than those who actually have experienced the sites and used them. Blogs & forums about the sites are generally negative with stories of corruption, deceit, & general frustration. However, we know that people who do reviews tend to be critical and maybe not bother to review if something works well.
    I have experienced online dating and feel I can be objective & real about a couple of the sites.
    As a male, and I am 64, these sites are difficult to have success with. It seems that many more males are on dating sites than women so ladies can be extremely, & in many cases, unrealistically selective. A fellow can initiate numerous messages and for the most part, be ignored. A man’s height and image of being highly successful seem to be the biggest lures for the ladies. A man’s sense of decency, intentions, integrity, may count for little if he is only of average height and has modest assets in terms of possessions.
    Ladies , again, due to the imbalance, hear from numerous men, and therefore are in total control.
    Plenty of Fish: a free site and worthless. The ladies look nice and there are many seemingly on the site, but men will overwhelmingly be ignored. I tried it and would never consider it again. The profiles may be old or fabricated.
    OURTIME: many users report corruption from the company itself, I have not experienced that. I am finishing up a 6 month membership with them. The rates are reasonable. Again, for every 15 ladies you contact with thoughtfully crafted, sincere messages, expect to hear back from 2-3 ladies. Then , due to the competition, communication with a lady can very easy come to a halt with you wondering why this is so, where did she go? I did meet a couple of ladies from this site but disappointing considering my efforts.
    Match: I have not tried it yet. However, I previewed the ladies on this site. They appear very nice, but I have seen that before. I did notice however, that quite a few of the ladies about 60 yrs. of age, state that they are seeking a fellow in the 40- 55 yr. range. Why is this so? Again, it points to the numerical imbalance favoring the ladies. Again, they can be demanding & shoot for the moon.
    For the record: I am of average ht 5’9”, well traveled & educated. Decent looking & in excellent physical shape. I am financially and emotionally responsible. That said, the odds on dating sites count against me and make success a needle in a haystack. It is difficult for men and I am sure that females have their own issues such as security.
    In life, career, etc. I get along with ladies just fine. On dating sites, being ignored, lied to, deceived etc. is something I am no longer going to subject myself to.

    • Beverly
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      I tried match and it is a waste of time, talk about unrealistic. First of all I smoke and almost all were non-smokers but would take a smoker, if I didn’t smoke I wouldn’t want someone who does. Second, I can’t even count how many men in their sixties are looking for an 18 to 25 yr old. Really? That’s as unrealistic as you can get, very disturbing. I thought we women as we get older must be the problem but those types of men, and there are plenty definitely have and are the problem. So dating sites may work for a few but for the most part I would say no.

    • Nina
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      Phil, you sound really nice and sincere. Why I’d date you❗️I’m 62 and want s man near my age so we have more cultural things in common I appreciate that you took the time to write your post

    • Susan
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      I disagree with you Phil. I have just started with these dating sites about a month ago and am already turned off by all the fake profiles. The men that I have corresponded with have not been anything to write home about. They don’t seem to put any effort out to meet a nice woman. The last jerk (and yes he was a jerk) completely forgot that we had made plans to meet only two days after we talked. When I sent him a text confirming, he responded with I completely forgot all about it. If he changed his mind, he should have been a big boy about it and been honest with me. Instead his reply made me feel awful. I wasn’t important enough to remember to meet for a cup of coffee? And this is a man in his 50s. I thought guys would have grown up by that age. I’m a nice woman, not bad looking with a lot to offer and it seems to be the impossible to find a nice, honest guy. Well, probably not on these websites.

  • arya azadi
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    i have read all of these words and must say agree with almost all. i do not even go on these sites. i am 67 but look fabulous, am an international artist and the one thing i want to say is i can not believe that there is no option saying ” woman looking for woman or man…it does not matter. someone kind, intelligent, open minded, loving …who cares what sex the being is….what a limited world i have to be thrust into….
    i love beauty…inner, outer any kind of beauty. it is very difficult for me to live in a world that is literally upside down and inside out. ya…i can relate to greta garbo whole heartedly. it sucks when you want to love someone and there is no one to love. hmmmm

  • Marsha
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    As a 62 year old woman, I find it near to impossible to meet anyone even remotely within my area who ARE someone I would like to get to know better. I care nothing for one night stands, nor friends with benefits people. I just am not that type of person. However, after being married only once for 23 years, and divorced for over a decade, I guess I am realizing how tough it is to grow old “alone.” I’m not looking for anyone to take care of me. I can do that myself. But a nice companion for dinners and movies would be nice. It seems however that men my age want someone in the 35-50 bracket. Who does one trust? At this point, after e harmony, Match.com, I don’t have a lot of faith in these dating sites.

    • Wanda
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      I totally understand your comments.. I paiid Our Time 6months met one man and after month talking.. Time to meet!! He did not look ANYTHING like his pics!!!! I was so shocked after xoffee I never spoke to him again… So many years younger pics they post… Be honest post current pics.

    • Diane Young
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      Hey everyone I was on Our time 3 different times and all 3 times met great guys or so I thought the first only lasted a couple of months he wanted to be possessive.
      The second one lasted 8 months I really fell for him then found out our relationship had been based on lies and deceit
      Then the last one ended about 3 weeks ago after talking on the phone and texting each other every day I found out he wanted me to send him money
      Lord what is wrong with this older generation why can’t we be honest and open with each other ,life is short guys why do you have to lie you will eventually be found out

    • Linda
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      I have enjoyed reading everyone’s comments on this site but it reinforces my idea that the internet is not a good tool for meeting anyone. If there is a chance for hurt, deception or broken promises from someone you don’t know, why risk it.

      I have decided to reenter the dating game after 15 years of keeping silent and to myself with family. I just woke up one day and decided at 66, I want to meet a man that has similar likes and dislikes as me. I have a small farm that I dearly love working on and grow all my food, including chickens. It is almost impossible to find a man that likes this sort of lifestyle, much less wants to be involved in it. The perfect partner for me would certainly be a small farmer that loves the soil and works it with love every day. He would also have to like salt water fishing because next to the soil that is a big love of mine as well.

      So it is not going to happen for me unless I take the time and pursue this in places where farmers and fishing are prevalent. Therefore, I will begin to go to those farmer days and outings and I will spend lots more time at the beach fishing. If I meet someone special that is great. IF I don’t, I have gotten out and enjoyed myself trying. :)

      Good luck to everyone looking and be safe always. Don’t fall for those silly lines that make you think they care and always be independent in your thoughts and actions.

      • Dean
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        Linda I totally identify with what you said. In up state NY my options are almost non existent Love to fish be in the oods and grow things .yet alone .

      • Mark
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        As I read your comment,I felt a little ftustrated.I have the same comments about these sites as everyone else.I was on Farmers Only for several months and experienced much disappointment.
        I am a retired rice farmer but still have a small cow/calf operation.In my profile,I stated who and what I was and that I desired to connect with woman who enjoyef rural life.Truly believe most women on that site were looking for a dtugstore cowboy with a new shiny truck.
        I try to be conservative in grading myself “average”,raised “old school”,and still work fulltime.None of the women on Farmers say they wanted to meet a man with rural roots which I found rather odd.I wish you luck if you should try “Farmers”,and remember,there are quality men left out there just as there are quality women.You just have to keep turning stones.
        Mark A.
        alloyantique@yahoo.com
        Texas

    • Bob Buchholz
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      Strange but unlike most comments here I have found the dating sites overwhelmingly populated by cougars. The 61 yr old female looking for 25 to 50 yr old men. I no longer frequent any of them since most ladies never respond to any show of interest but keep coming back to view my profile but never leaving a message at all. One thing I am not looking for is more frustration in my life.

      • CECE
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        I AM NOT A COUGAR AND CAN NOT MEET ANYONE NORMAL, WE MEET FO RLUNCH OR WINE, AND THEY DON’T COME BACK BUT JUST KEEP SEARCHING FOR A 10, AND THEY ARE MOSTLY OLD, UGLY, AND IN BAD SHAPE, THEY THINK THEY WILL LAST FOREVER, WAKE UP YOU MEN I AM A RETIRED FORMER MODEL, ETC WIDOWED, ON LONG ISLAND INDEPENDENT AND WOULD LOVE TO HAVE A COMPANION FOR TRAVEL, DINING THEATRE, ETC ETC. IF ANYONE READS THIS CONTACT ME AT SIX THREE ONE, FIVE ZERO SIX, SIX ZERO FOUR THREE AND LEAVE A NUMBER AND MESSAGE. CECE

  • ‘Linda’.
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    It’s a jungle out there. However, this article is extremely honest and well written. You have to keep safe and keep playing. Lots of people I know are now part of a twosome. It does work.

    • Emily
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      Couldn’t figure out how to make a comment other than go through ‘reply’ so apologies! I don’t recommend ‘OurTime’ – today I looked at the category ‘my flirts’ and, as I’ve heard others complain about, there were entries that I had not made, to people in whom I had zero interest. So sometimes simply clicking on a profile shows a ‘flirt’ result. I’ve read from one subscriber that they had changed his profile info. I can’t figure out how to make criteria choices enough to, for example, eliminate smokers. Word search isn’t reliable. Don’t bother.

    • Dennis
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      Oh Really am new to all this i have also meet a lady that posted her old pictures when she was young .
      please write me
      dennisbraun60[at]yahoo.com

  • Lynn
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    After reading some of the shared comments, I would like to add my two cents worth. It does seem to be challenging to meet quality people (for me -men) that would like to have q good relationship with a good woman Their mouth or pen is moving.but nothing substantial is coming out. . What is wrong with getting to know a person first? Finding out if you like each other enough to forsake others and try to see if you two can make a go of it? This takes time, a certain amount of commitment, honesty and knowing of one’s self. At our age we should have experience enough life to know what basically is negotiable vs is nonnegotiable. Why try to be and act like you are in your 20’s when you are in your 60’s. How about being comfortable with not only who you are, but where you are in life? No, I am not talking about sitting all day in a rocker and playing dead. But , enjoying life with whatever disabilities, lumps bumps, etc. you may/may not have now. It does seem challenging to find that special someone that is willing to accept you as you are “warts” and all. I
    Whatever happen to old fashion values/ being concern about each other?being family as well as couple -oriented?
    Now a days-there seems to be more inference on sex than anything else. Sex-when has that ever determine the value of any relationship? Don’t get me wrong-everything has its place-but sex is one thing verse valuing true intimacy -is all together different. . Many people (old and young) want to rush to “do it” and don’t even know each other’s last name-Why?? Whatever happen to wanting to get to know one another? Which can lead to true friendship and companionship. Do you remember when you could talk to each other about everything and nothing-but still enjoying just being together? How about when you were looking across the room at each other , and sharing that special smile -that special look that said so much?. Yet to others, it said nothing-but to you two ahhh-it was like a secret code that only the two of you knew.
    Call me what you want, but, I think I’ll wait until…. .

      • Dorene
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        Well, Steve Harvey always says the 90 day rules applies to everyone. I realize at our age we don’t have all the time in the world , but we can wait 90 days.

        • Connie Bennett
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          Yes Dorene I agree with you as well. I love Steve Harvey and own both of his books on relationships. What he is saying makes a lot of sense. Men should earn getting the “cookie” and we as women should not give it away. I was in a very bad marriage for 26 years that was hard for me to get out of as my ex was abusive in very many ways. Since I have been out in the dating world I find that everything seems to have changed. But after 26 years I was sure it would be. When I left my ex and found a gentleman who truly was a gentleman and waited to approach me about being intimate. It may have not been the 90 days but it was a while and we dated for four years. Since we broke up unfortunately I of little self esteem thought I should give the “cookie” away to keep a man interested. Not a good idea and it didn’t work. So now I hope that I can find someone who would at least give the relationship time instead of hopping in the sack. I see a psychologist because of my past and let him know of what I am finding in this new world of dating. The bottom line is men and there are women as well are not respectful of one another anymore. It’s really a shame and something that makes me want to give up at times. I wish everyone well with their searches and may God bless you .

    • Faye
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      Lynn,

      What a well written post, and I totally agree with everything that you said. What happened to men who respected you for the person you are and enjoyed being in your company for the purpose of conversation and connecting mentally? Does anyone believe in companionship or friendship anymore? Perhaps not, it’s all about jumping into bed. And when that’s over the mystery is gone. Men say they want a good woman but that’s a lie. They want anyone they can control or use, or at least that’s been my experience. I’m in my 60’s, still working, pursuing a second degree, looking to retire in a couple of years. Would love to meet a man with honest values and one who is capable of making a commitment. Some men don’t realize a good woman when they see one. Men Do want younger women and younger men want Sugar Mamas! These dating sites have been a joke. Just stumbled upon this site, loving it.

      • Lansing
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        Well I just stumbled onto this site too. I appreciate the thoughtfulness and honesty of the posts here Your post is something i could have said too about women. I think the sad truth is that most people are not capable of having a truly intimate relationship. It seems the older people are, the more it is true. Most people become more rigid the older they get, and certainly more set in their ways, making them less likely to give up the freedom they have as a single person. My ex-girlfriend said about someone she had dated, “He liked the idea of us being together, but that’s about it.” That comment my ex made turned out to be true about her too. It wasn’t that she didn’t want to be with me, it was that when she found out I was serious she simply could not meet me. I think most of us like the idea of being in a loving relationship. What i have found out is that finding someone who can actually show up when the heat is on and wants to be with me, and i want to be with her is rare, especially being over sixty.

  • Stan
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    Having a personality and mutual respect is what the foundation should be for any relationship regardless of the age of those involved. It is unfortunate that self serving agendas (sex & money) create issues that prevent folks from establishing long lasting relationships. It is true that the men are seeking sex…..and the women want the money to be spent on them with the hope that the man might get lucky….so to speak. Just be honest if u want a friend with benefits then let the guy know. If u are not into the guy, pay your own way on the date and move on down the line. No gentleman wants to be considered as an entertainment center at this point in his life and would hope that the woman in his company actually enjoyed his company and was not simply with him for A Night out and a free meal. Of course, it is my belief that doing the everyday things of life….. Will let us know if we are compatible with one another…. Sitting across from you at some restaurant tells me nothing about you except your table manners. For me at this stage of my life …66….and before it has always been about the personality and respect, if those are in play then all the other parts that go into a successful relationship should follow. Best of luck to each of you….november2015

  • Connie Bennett
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    After reading some of the comments about online dating sites I would like to make a comment about Plenty of Fish. I thought it was a really good website until I got kicked off because all of my emails from them kept going in my spam. Try to get back on there and it is next to impossible. Technical support?????? I have written to them several times to see if they could help me get back on. I also read other people’s comments in the forum section for which I for some reason I could get back into. The scammers are everywhere on all of these sites. I never answer anyone that doesn’t live close to where I do. I was almost scammed 3 times I am ashamed to admit but they are very devious! I am 61 years old and find that most of the men I talk to have nothing but sex on their mind. Don’t mean to be stereotyping men but that’s what I get! They don’t want to meet for coffee or whatever first they want sex on the first date. I think our world is going to hell really quick. It is very depressing and I wish there were more honest people on these sites and not jerks! Needless to say I am still looking for a good man. In March when I officially retire I think I am going to start looking at activities through churches and community buildings to try to meet people. It seems to me that would be the only way to meet someone as I am not a bar hopper or nor do I go to clubs. Good luck everyone on finding your soul mate!

    • Kevin gillham
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      Connie Bennett there are still good men out there I was married for 27 yes myself and did everything a man suppose to do for the women he loves but after the kids were grown an on their own SHE wanted to be free to do whatever I’m a good hard working soft loving kind of guy that believes in the old way a man should open doors,pull out her chair bring or send flowers leave love note here and there be respectful show her that you love just her (did all that and still got my heart ripped out ) there are good men keep looking and yea its not all about sex but I still like to cuddle on the couch together and watch a good movie I’m 56 but young at heart hit me up I’ll show you what a TRUE gentleman is all about

      • Connie Bennett
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        Kevin Gillham it is good to hear there are good men out there. I am sorry that your marriage ended the way it did. Unfortunately some people don’t realize when they do have a good person in their lives. I have stopped going on the online dating sites. It has been better for me because I don’t need the stress or the games people play. I was diagnosed with another health issue that I have confronted and in the process have lost forty pounds and am doing really well. I know my problems were due to an abusive marriage and now I am feeling more confident about myself. God bless you. I enjoyed your feedback and hope to hear from you again. Take care, Connie

      • penny
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        Hi Kevin Same thing happened to me. My second daughter left for college and so did he after 35 years of what i thought a good marriage He every gave me a surprise party in a very prestige hotel in n y c for our 35 anniversary He told everyone how lucky he was what a great wife/mother i was And they two weeks later pick up left just like that Didn’t look back

  • RDOKET
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    Hi Everyone….This is the First time I visited this site…. And out of curiousity i read many of the comments and the replies… there seems to be quite a bit of confusion about sex and indivuales ….so I offer the following enlightenments… Reguardless of age, there are many persons who want to have an active sex life and also persons who do not want an active sex life… wherther it’s casual or regular, or long term… It seems to me that if a persons Profile Indicated What Your Preferance is Concerning Sex a great deal of misunderstanding, embarrestment , insulting statements and request would be eliminated… Sex should be viewed as an Extra Reward of all your other mutual activities and joys as a “Couple”…. So …Therefore Petition The Web Site to add a Section into the Profile Data to indicate sexual preferrances etc. .. Until then add your own into your Discription Of your Self that other members read of you…
    IE: Not Sexual – Some What – Yes – and just plain NO … ” MAKE IT KNOWN WHAT YOUR PREFFERANCE IS” *** Bob ***

    • Armie Ting
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      Hello Connie Benette! I agree with you on almost E very thing that you said. If you live near or close to 92672, we can bond and explore .. Thanks and God bless! Armie

    • Marianna Rhodes
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      New also and none of this real sounds like it is even worth the effort. However, I thought I would respond enough to say that although it is a good idea to be up front, I don’t think I like to say, Hello, my name is Beca and I sleep with everyone. Thank you very much. I think it more says, well I want to know what I will get for my dollar coffee and of course my one hour of invested time. I hear the women and the men and my view for what its worth sounds like both are a little defensive, with good cause. Maybe both could say something like, “gee I will take a dollar, hour, manners, afford respect/compassion a human right and go meet this person. You may find a treasure or merely a friend. You will have gotten to know another person. Enough said, no lecture intended. Just a perspective. Ū

  • buddytd
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    Look, ladies, let’s face it. Most men are jerks. There is ALWAYS a reason why men our age (I’m 66) are single. Most men get older but not necessarily more mature. Most men never learn how to be friends (first) with women. Most men are too concerned with sex as if sex is the answer to everything. Ridiculous.

    I don’t think it matters what dating site you are on, the nature of (most) men doesn’t change.

    I wasn’t looking primarily for sex. I wasn’t looking to find a rich woman. I was looking for compatibility and connection, for communication, for shared interests and values.

    If you had read my profile on OK Cupid, if you had answered a few hundred questions, like I did, it would be easy for you to determine that I was a quality guy.

    It’s not what dating site you pick. It’s not whether or not you pay for access. What matters is that you carefully weed out the wheat from the chaff. You just have to sort out the frogs from the princes.

    Not all women on these sites are prizes either. There is usually a good reason or two why women are single later in life.

    I think what our society does in general to men is not conducive to making them good in relationships. Men are told not to cry, not to show emotion, not to be vulnerable. To “be a man.” Few men can ignore this or overcome their socialization.

    I was just lucky to be born into a culture that rejects that view of men and teaches respect, if not adulation, for women.

    Don’t blame the dating sites. The larger issue is how men get to be the way they are. You know the old saying, about the hand that rocks the cradle can change the world? Well, it’s true.

    Just keep looking. There are good men out there, like me. Sure a lot of us are taken, just like a lot of good women are taken. But not all. The time you spend complaining can be better used in searching.

    Good luck!

  • EUNICE ITTY BITTY ME
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    I AM SO LEAARY OF BEING ON THESE SITES AS ALMOST ALL OF THE MEN WANT TO TALK ABOUT SEX THE FIRST CONVERSATION YOU HAVE WITH THEM. WHEN I LET THEM KNOW HOW I FEEL ABOUT TALKING ABOUT IT ON THE FIRST CONVERSATION, THEY DROP ME. IS THAT ALL THEY HAVE IN MIND? IM NOT HERE TO PLAY GAMES, BUT IT SEEMS ALL MEN ARE THEY ASK ME TO SEND NUDE PHOTOS, SAYING THINGS LIKE “OH YOU LOOK SO SEXY, SO THEY EXPECT MY BODY TO LOOK LIKE A 20 YEAR OLD, BUT YET THEY ARE IN THE SENIOR PLACES LOOKING FOR A SENIOR.CAN ANYONE FIGUR THAT OUT?.

    • operasinger
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      Eunice, I’ve never had that experience on any site! It sounds to me that these are sex preditors lurking on the site and their profiles are probably phoney. Absolutely do not respond to them; rather, please report them to the site. These guys could be very dangerous.

    • BISHOP SOLOMON
      REPLY

      Not all men are the same may be if you fall on the wrong hand you can’t blame others. There are good and honest people everywhere, some may not be in your location so if you such you have to sacrifice to get them.

  • kalyna
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    after my last comment i scrolled thru other comments on here and their seems 2 b a theme of maltreatment by society as a whole! ive personally experienced it. i believe AARP sold us out a llooonngg time ago. this includes their dating sites! does anyone out there remember the GREY PANTHERS??? anyone up 4 reviving it? it was great in concept but perhaps a little 2 “radical” 4 seniors @ that time. i say its time 4 nikes attitude! “JUST DO IT” AGAIN. anyone interested? i hope so. somethings gotta be done! soon!!! let me kno. thnx

    • operasinger
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      Reviving the Grey Panthers isn’t an interest for me for the simply reason that their agenda didn’t really deal with the needs of aging folks, but dealt with social issues such as supporting a single-payer healthcare system, increasing welfare payments, pacifism, lifelong public education, workers’ rights, reproductive rights, abolition of the death penalty, legalization of same-sex marriage, legalization of medical marijuana, and environmentalism through advocacy, education, and action. Whereas I support most of that, the complexities of such an agenda are too great. What’s needed in our case is finding a way to deal with the huge disparities with which women vs men are treated, especially as they age. For example, it’s now sexy for men to have a “dad bod,” but women are held to extreme beauty standards of how sleek celebrity women look after only weeks of having a baby. In other words, if you don’t look like Twiggy weeks after childbirth, you’re not attractive; or a 37 yo actress being “too old” to be cast as the wife of a 55 yo man in a movie (Maggie Gyllenhaal); or at 45 you’re too old to be cast at all but too good looking to be cast as an old woman. The “youth culture” for woman is a very serious problem in the USA, and this is what needs to be addressed.

      • kalyna
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        APPEARS 2 ME THAT MANY OF THE ISSUES U LISTED THAT THE GREY PANTHERS dealt w/r many that seniors deal w/2day. thnx p.s. i believe that the GREY panthers was 4 we people ho have grey hair? dont kno 4 sure but im gonna google it. ciao

      • buddytd
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        All that counts in this society is money. We have a crass commercial culture that is totally about what you look like, how much money you make, the car you drive, the house you live in, etc.

        My woman is gorgeous, not because of her beauty, because she isn’t conventionally beautiful, but because of who she is.

        If you don’t like the way things are, do something about it. Don’t just complain.

        • kalyna
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          exactly!!! thats why im wanting 2 do something along the lines of the panthers. of course we want it 2 b better,etc. reviving it doesnt mean duplicating point per point.obviously it didnt work 4 us. im thinking of a group 4 seniors BASED on their premise. i used that verbage based on their group. this would b OUR ORG!!!we dont need to COPY anyone! we have too much 2 offer to copy anyone!!! thnx

  • kalyna
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    whats the deal w/guys on senior sites? they never follow thru. they dont pay attn. 2 what im looking 4. consequently 50 y.o. waste my time. im a young spirited 70 y.o. 55 y.o. is pushing my boundaries but i can live w/it.

  • zerrais
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    Heads up for men who are broke: my dad (54) swooped-in on an unsuspecting 65 year old woman, married her, and became 50% owner of her wealth (he had little). All the while he was a white collar criminal. He finally got caught and went to prison. The state took everything [of hers and his] and considered all assets to be fruit from the poisonous tree. She lost everything.

  • kkns
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    I sure wish I could find a way to no longer receive email messages about this thread. I have sent 2 messages to your site, and I never get a reply, and I still get an email every time someone comments. There is no unsubscribe anywhere.

  • Charlie
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    If you ladies think you have it bad. I am 71 and a widow. I too, look a lot younger. I have been on our time for only a short time and had several contacts. Three of them I have met. They were nice GENTELMEN. Only one was close to my age. The other two were 80 and 84. But, like of you said, they want women 10to15 years younger. So the way I look at it it’s their loss.

    • Ladybug
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      Charlie,
      Hi there. Would you mind telling me which side you have checked out.
      Almost dread starting all over again with the new site.
      Thanks
      Sally

  • GatorGal
    REPLY

    I have been on several of the senior dating sites for several months. I finally figured out that men are not interested in women over 60 no matter how good the women might look. Do not waste your time or $$.

    • operasinger
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      I’ve been on the sites for several years, and this is also the conclusion that I’ve come to unless they have financial and/or health problems. Then they are looking for anyone as a nurse or a purse. Very sad how women our age are so disrespected–even by AARP. Look at the women they feature on their covers. All are celebs who have had facelifts and/or other “enhancement” surgeries/procedures. As we age, we are this society’s throw-away women.

  • mary
    REPLY

    I have tried all the date sites and never had any luck.They all tell you what you want to hear and all become lies. Or all want money. No luck with any or them

  • Moi
    REPLY

    Free or not, every senior dating site sucks! They claim and advertise things that are not true! How can we, as seniors, who are disgusted and tired of their lies, bring them down? Is a class suite the answer? I’d love to get all my money back I’ve spent on these horrible dating sites.

  • operasinger
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    Anyone else notice that, even tho Our Time’s website claims to be for folks older than 50, their recent ads on TV don’t mention this any longer and show young singles. They never restricted membership age anyway, so I guess now they are openly appealing to younger singles.

    So, one less Internet site for senior singles, altho Our Time was awful anyway. Even AARP won’t restrict age of members to just seniors. Another black eye for us senior singles.

  • Raleigh
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    Dating sites listed above, I used to be on some.. I’ve been on couple of sites.. OK Cupid do not favor me and I deactivated my membership, sick of lies. (Match.com and Zoosk) I’ve got no luck on there also. I got several messages from younger ladies wanting a fling but I needed something more. So we had no chemistry. I’m 57 and seeking a woman btw 50-67. Anyone that would recommend a better site where I can find my soulmate. Thanks.

      • Phyllis
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        Thanks! I have tried Our Time and Senior People Meet and have not been real impressed and been asked for money from men on both sites. I am taking a break from the sites for now because it all became to depressing but if I decide to return I will try one of the others.

      • operasinger
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        You gotta love it: Check out the SeniorMatch website. It has a photo of a 30-something woman with a 50-something man. So another slap to senior women. Plus the ages that they allow are 30 years and older. Per their website: “senormatch.com [sic] is specifically designed for senior citizens…” PALEEZE! 30s and 40s (maybe even 50s) are not senior citizens! This is infuriating.

      • operasinger
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        Also want to comment about Our Time. I tried them and hated it because of how it works. Truly awful. And you show know this: Per their website, “OurTime is a service that’s designed for singles over the age of 50 years old.” That’s bunk because they allow any age to sign up. I kept getting hit on by 20+ and 30+ guys looking for a wallet. Gag…. It’s just another single’s site where older men look for younger women… -sigh-…

  • buddytd
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    I think it’s interesting that you damn OK Cupid with faint praise. If you are paying money for ANY of the other sites, you are likely wasting it. The folks at OK Cupid have devised a series of questions. The more you answer and the more the people you are looking for answer, the better the suggested matchups.

    As an example, I am very close friends with a woman I would otherwise have never met. We are a 90% match to each other. It would be more, but neither of us wants a long distance relationship. BTW she is 60 and I am 66.

    As the best example of all, I was already in a committed but open relationship when I found OKC. By being totally honest about what I was looking for – an activity partner – and about my current relationship, I found three lovely women. The first two would have had to be long distance relationships, so those didn’t work out.

    The fourth person I met (about a year ago now as I write this) turned out to be the other love of my life. I have NEVER met anyone I am so compatible with.

    You get what you pay for, indeed!

    • Moi
      REPLY

      I’m glad you found someone. I’m also on OkCupid and have been matched with several men who are 85% and higher. ALL of them live long distance, like over 500 miles. How does that help me again?

    • LadyLovinHerLife
      REPLY

      I’m amazed that OK Cupid is even listed here. I thought it was set up just for scamming. Once my profile was complete, the first 7 men who contacted me were all scammers. That’s right, 100%. I couldn’t delete my profile fast enough.

      Why isn’t Plenty Of Fish listed? I’ve had good results there, and it’s a free site.

      • Moi
        REPLY

        I’ve been on ALL of the dating sites, one time or another cause mainly I refuse to give up. POF is one of the worst. I was on there the other day, thinking I would put up my profile once again. I did a search and there is absolutely not one guy I’d be interested in. NOT one! All profiles have been on POF for at least 5 years. Not one has been updated, not one. Same old photos, same old blah blah blah. What does that tell you?

  • Moi
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    If anyone finds a great, free senior site, besides OkCupid or POF, PLEASE let me know! I am exhausted with trying and not getting any where near what I’m looking for.

  • operasinger
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    OK, what’s going on? Just joined Singles Over 60 (I’m 69) because most guys don’t seem to want women my age, and I want a guy close to my own age. So the first guy who contacts me on SO60 is 43–WTF? PALEEZE! Why are these so-called Senior single’s sites allowing all ages to join? It’s frustrating enough being an older woman on all of the other single’s sites because of competition with younger women, but we now must put up with this on the senior sites, too. Why? What are the senior site creators thinking?

    • Paula
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      Hi operasinger, I was also on SinglesOver60. org. But I feel good so far. I was also on other general dating sites like Match etc, that’s where I got a lot of contacts from really young men that could even be my grandson :( But the situation is much better when I am on SO60. Though there is not that much contacts but most of them are serious contacts that I can tell. Maybe there is some patience needed.

    • homentx
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      I’m with u opera singer! I’m 68 and have not done well on any of these sites at, especially Perfect Match….35 yr olds reaching out to me! Uhhhhh….. NO! If any one knows of a truly focusing on seniors I would like to know.

        • operasinger
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          Thanks, Barbara. I’ll check out Stitch. I recently joined OurTime and have been hugely disappointed. Again, they let all ages join. But reading email only on their site is a disaster and very difficult to manage in the crush of those who put only something in the Subject line and no message. You also get a flood of really dumb stuff from OurTime, notifications if a guy merely looks at your profile, etc. But worst of all, their Search program is virtually worthless. So I will end my subscription when my 1 month runs out. It’s just not user friendly.

        • operasinger
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          I’ve done a lot of research on the various single’s sites, and Zoosk has by far the lowest ratings and some really scary comments. Also, I don’t like how they have implemented the profiles. So, in short, this is not a single’s site that I’m willing to risk my money on, especially as a senior looking for a serious relationship and not just casual social flings, which seems to be the purpose of Zoosk.

        • Moi
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          Zoosk is very expensive, just like Our Time, eHarmony. I need very inexpensive, like $5/mo or less. Free is the best.

          • Connie Bennett

            I agree. I can’t afford a lot of the dating sites fees. Just because I am retired doesn’t mean I am rolling in the dough. I had to quit my job for medical reasons. And I get a lot of men that just want friends with benefits no relationship just when they need you for a booty call that’s when they talk to you. I was in an abusive marriage for 26 years and my self esteem is low enough. I am under counseling and take medication. The men that talk to me seem to want to just use me also. And I don’t think it’s fair to say if you are single it’s your own fault. That’s not true maybe I have higher standards!

  • Moi
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    I’ve been on senior dating sites off and on for several years. Out of all the first dates I’ve had, finally met one guy who I actually enjoyed. After 4 dates, he decided to call it quits with no explanation. He wasn’t perfect either, but at least I was willing to try. So, I keep trying, but refuse to pay to find a good guy any longer. And even though I’m still attractive and in shape, being 63 seems to be a huge factor. Most guys my age want a younger woman, even though most of them are not much to look at or have that much to offer. But wanting a woman who’s 15 – 20 yrs younger is ok, right? Yet as soon as a older woman wants a younger man, say 5 or 10 years, all of a sudden we’re Cougars. A word I absolutely hate! Personally, an older man who thinks he needs a much younger woman, has some serious issues. I stay away from players and fakes.

    • buddytd
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      Most men are a-holes, what can I say? When I was younger, I preferred older women. I am 66. I prefer women my age, within 10 years.

      Older women know what they want. Older women are sexier.

      Generally speaking, if someone is single at our age, there’s a reason for it, and a lot of times the reason is that they suck at relationships.

      Look for a guy who has a legit reason for being available. Look for a guy who knows how to treat a woman. Look for a guy who has worked on himself, to become a better person.

      We’re out there, we’re just rare. Don’t give up, and DON’T SETTLE for less than what you want.

      As my current love says, you definitely have to kiss a lot of frogs. You do NOT have to sleep with them.

      Bud
      Eugene Oregon

      • operasinger
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        You can’t know how someone treats another, who has worked on themselves, etc. until you spend time with them. You can’t tell this from their profiles because many people say things that are not true. The problem for women is our age. It is our biggest obstacle because soooooooo many men want younger women. They simply won’t respond if you contact them, and we don’t come up in their searches.

        Plus, the so-called singles websites for Seniors are NOT just for single seniors. They let all ages in. So us older women are ignored there, too. The only website that claims to verify their subscribers is Stitch.com. I have not tried them yet because, frankly, I’m burned out from doing this for several years, wasting lots of money from membership fees, and going nowhere with it.

      • diana hulsey
        REPLY

        Thank you Bud for your words. It is too bad there aren’t many more with your thoughts and insight. We know they are out there somewhere, but it is frustrating slashing through the ignorant ones to find the good one.

  • operasinger
    REPLY

    So you know, the AARP single’s website is not just for seniors and is open for all ages. I was shocked after joining to find that out, and the first (and only) man to contact me is 42 with a 6-year old son. I’ve been on this site for several weeks, and no other guy has contacted me. I’m an active, fit, intelligent, and attractive women, but I’m 69. I’m looking for a man my age, but apparently my age is a huge factor, and I don’t come up in their searches because they want a younger woman. In fact, they don’t even respond to my messages to them. Had the same experience on Match.com. This was the polar opposite experience when I was in my 50s.

    • avlavl
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      I can understand where you are coming from with having to reveal your true age and men not even attempting to look at your profile. I am in the same boat. I look so much younger than my actual age. So what do I do? I hate to lie, but I have to – in order to get the attention of men I’d like to date. I haven’t had a problem with it YET but I have not found the man I would like to spend the rest of my life with either. I do want to say that even though I don’t reveal my true age, the men that are younger than the age I put on the site looks so much older and I feel like they are my father. Truly. So go figure. Even with lying about my age I am still getting older looking men who are fuddy duddy, big bellies all out of shape and here I am in shape, exercise, eat healthy, look very good in my cloths ( I am slender) and look very youthful. I can easily pass for 50 years old if not younger. But I don’t flaunt it. Went to the ER once, gave all my info to the gal. Yet another gal came in to ask my age and I told her someone already had taken that information. She just wanted to make sure that person had it right because I looked no where near what I had put down and it was my true age. I was happy. So gals, do what you have to do to get that man you want. I am almost there. Men lie about their ages too. I call it a lil white lie. And I do tell them on the phone before we meet that I did not tell my correct age.

      • operasinger
        REPLY

        Thanks for your feedback. I’m in almost the exact situation that you are in. I do not look my age, am active, fit, intelligent, educated, blah blah blah, but this doesn’t seem to matter to men now. But what’s bothering me most is finding out that single’s site saying that they are for seniors are lying because they let anyone of any age join. So there seems no where to find men our ages who genuinely want to a woman their age. Even on the senior sites, they want much younger women and can find them there. Senior sites should have an age floor. Period.

        • avlavl
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          I totally agree. Senior sites should have a way to not allow men under a certain age to register. I am sure they can monitor the postings before posting them. They should also let men know upfront that this site is for SENIOR MEN ONLY. The do the monitoring so there are no surprises. But you know what, I doubt there will be many senior men joining. They want that young gal. Get it. We’re in a sorta catch 22 situation. Youthful and beautiful yet that age number is standing in the way. We all need to think of a nice site that would work well for us youthful senior women and create it together. Let it be FREE to all. Count me in!

          • operasinger

            Yup, I agree. But also, no women younger than, say 55. If it’s a seniors single’s site, then it should be ONLY seniors.

            If I had better website creation skills, I’d put this together myself. But someone needs to address the true needs of senior singles, especially women. We are society throw aways.

  • Seanner
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    There are far more senior dating sites as I know. Most of them are basically the same. You need to pay for a membership to make real contact with other members you are interested in. Actually any luck needed on these kind of dating sites. My friend finally met her current wife on singles over 60.

    • AVLAVL
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      It might be quite nice, not sure how women would feel about this, but have the dating site strictly for senior women. No men. Men interested in this singles site for women only would surely visit it. It would have to be known that the site is strictly women 50+ seeking men 50+. And broadcast the site all over the Internet. Women sign up for free and MAYBE let the men pay a lil something to see us. We would weed out those that are not serious about a relationship or companionship? Something like that.

      • Baygirl
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        I am 65 and would love to find local men my age interested in women my age too. I think your idea to have a women site and the men have to pay to see us us great. The concept is genius! I am just researching which site gets best reviews and dang none of them do. I have known a few from Chrisian Mingle and EHarmony that have found do done and gotten married and 3-4 on Match that have been out several times with different guys so I don’t know.

        • rodger
          REPLY

          Go on Oasis.com. It’s a totally free dating site & a lot of members are 60 plus. Just the site for you. Pass it on you’ll love it

  • JAMILFUNJOY
    REPLY

    It s all commercial ,love is commercial ,attraction is commercial , fun is commercial ,when money maters involved how it can be natural ? I tried since longtime ,I can’t find any free site ,tired from all this ,if there is any direct me please . Thanks !

    • Moi
      REPLY

      To Jamilfunjoy: Try okCupid or POF. They are both free, but you still need to be aware there are still stagnant profiles and you may receive many out of state or long distance messages. It’s always up to you if you want to respond, of course.

  • Rare
    REPLY

    A disaster. I joined POF, met a nice guy. Had chemistry on first date. Lusty. Second date was scheduled. We spoke on phone and he said he was stoned from smoking pot. Well after talking about it in length as I don’t date drug users, we said goodbye but was still going to meet as he promised not to smoke. he text back canceling our date and ending everything. I was disappointed. Pot came between a possible future relationship. Why is he on any dating site?

    • buddytd
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      I’ve been smoking marijuana since I was 19. My current love does not smoke but does not mind if I do. What’s your hangup that this is a big deal to you? It doesn’t sound like he was insistent that you smoke too.

      I smoke mostly at night, to relax so I can sleep. Before the operation, I did it to help with lower back pain that was severe.

      Some of the best sexual experiences I ever had occurred when I was under the influence.

      If someone has an addictive personality it is one thing, but if you’re uptight about a harmless drug, I would say YOU might be the one with the issues. He probably figured out that you are intolerant, and who needs that?

      Why is HE on any dating site? Wow. Why are YOU?

  • Fannytoo
    REPLY

    I am very disappointed in Dating Services
    for Seniors. You do not receive photos
    nor profiles. I will not rejoin this site and
    I have cancelled my card so you cannot
    renew.

  • kkns
    REPLY

    I have used plentyoffish (pof.com) off and on for about 3 years. I have never paid and like the fact that you have the chance to do free emailing to all members. It also allows you to sort members in numerous ways……height, distance, smoking/non, etc.

    • Moi
      REPLY

      POF is completely free, but there are still so many jerks and losers on there it’s laughable. Most guys think it’s alright to be very aggressive on the 2nd date. Wrong! How about asking me first if it’s alright to kiss me instead of thrusting your tongue down my throat? There are no quality men on these sites. Stay away from POF, Match., OurTime, eHarmony. They are all crap! You’re better off alone.

      • Second Time Around
        REPLY

        I too have played around with POF. Let me tell you something, the same men I see on POF, I see them on all the other sites I’ve visited. Leaving me not placing an ad. I feel these men on POF really do not know what they want except that pretty young gal who doesn’t want him but his money. If he has that. Some of them are seeking an older woman as a sugar mama. And those men that are older, want the young but feel horrible because they most likely cannot do the sex thang. Get my drift? Some 50 something have a hard time. So, trying to find a decent man is like trying to find a decent job. When you were looking for one.

  • Steve
    REPLY

    These sites want me to fill out numerous pieces of information and then it turns out there is no one that lives in my area. Bad humbug.

  • JIMBOCRIMBO
    REPLY

    Hi there,

    A very good friend of mine is moving to New York in a week and the love Gods have not been on here side.

    Does anyone have some suggestions on where she can go to meet people, she is moving to Brooklyn.

    Thanks!

  • DatingGranny
    REPLY

    I have another great Dating site that I highly recommend… SeniorTimeDating

    It’s been really fun meeting new people, the site is very secure and easy to navigate. Every one I have meet has been great.

    Only downside is Its not free but pretty inexpensive for the quality of members.

  • Lisa
    REPLY

    I am a member of AARP & decided to
    Take a look at their dating site. Supposedly
    A several day free browse. I put in my
    Desired ages, zip code etc & all the
    Site did was “loading” but it never fully loaded & I was not shown any matches in my area.
    Nothing happened….Don’t waste your time
    They do not have it together!!!!!

    • Barbara, Senior Planet editor
      REPLY

      Hi Lisa, we’re sorry you had this issue with the AARP site. We can’t attest to results, but we do know several people who have used it without having any technical issues. After you enter your basic details, the site loads a pop-up window asking for email – ie: registration. It’s possible your connection was slow – or that you have pop-ups disabled in your browser.

      • kalyna
        REPLY

        pls. dont cover 4 aarp! they 2 r using seniors. they say SENIOR dating then allow 30 y.o.? come on now!!! use the pot or get off it. u sure didnt respond 2 my issue of a few wks. ago. prob. cuz u have no defense!

        • Barbara, Senior Planet editor
          REPLY

          Hi Kalyna, thanks for your comments. We are not covering for AARP. In my response to a previous commenter, I said: “We can’t attest to results, but we do know several people who have used it without having any technical issues.” In other words, as far as matches go, we don’t know what kind of results people are having with the site besides the results our writer had, but we are pretty sure there aren’t significant TECHNICAL issues. We did see your earlier comment about AARP’s site but didn’t respond because your comment was not addressed to us so we thought it was for the community in general. It’s clear that most of these dating sites have an issue with people joining who are not within the target age range. One new site for people over 50, Stitch, verifies member identities – including age. We wrote about it here http://seniorplanet.org/best-senior-dating-sites/ Let us know if you try it.

  • Dreamer
    REPLY

    Living in Norway, I , as an English speaker, have been trying to join dating sites where I hope to find English speakers….
    But for some reason, if you cannot give an address in England, you also cannot join……
    This is so frustrating!
    Perhaps you can explain this?
    Surely, in this digital age, one should be able
    to find that special person worldwide!!!:-)
    Yes: Match.com is also refusing to let one search..only get norwegian profiles….! Thanks!

  • Juliet
    REPLY

    I would want someone that is kind, caring, loving, enjoys life, one that knows there is stress in life..but doesn’t let it run her life, one that isn’t afraid to show and express their feelings, someone that agrees to disagree at times.two one eight three three two seven five eight four.. text me you can also email me at greenjuliet 55 with those that come…

  • cbmetronyc55
    REPLY

    Based on your high praise, I paid in advance for a 6-month membership to AARP’s site and have found it to be a total waste of money. I’ve sent messages to some members and none of them show “read” That doesn’t seem possible unless they are no longer active members that were never removed from their database.. I should have canceled within the first 3 days (their money-back period) but since it was holiday time I thought things would improve when everyone was back in town. But it’s just as bad.
    I also signed up for OK Cupid for free and it’s far superior.

    • Barbara, Senior Planet editor
      REPLY

      cmetronyc, thanks for your helpful feedback. The AARP site was fairly new when this article was written but we had tested its non-AARP version, How About We, and found it worked well. We wish you the best of luck on OK Cupid!

      • kalyna
        REPLY

        sounds like the same old nonsense from other sites using/abusing seniors! were well-seasoned and that doesnt make us stupid!!!

    • Fayzie
      REPLY

      Hello, I am looking for a quality gent also but I do not sites. It is so degrading as the older gents want younger chicks. I am 81 and tell the truth but nothing happens. I look younger so maybe I should lie???? I wonder if the gent from LV found his lady. Although I would not want to live in LV, just visit.

  • Irish Eyes
    REPLY

    I found that profiles continued to be posted after the subscriber has decided to end membership on OurTime.

    I, too, kept getting “flirts” from the company months after I had stopped my 1 month trial.

    My effort to stop these contacts was thwarted by their policies. Now I have just blocked all e-mails(and I guess my profile is still showing!)

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